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mé because my achievements really feel like the general responsibilities of my job correct spelling mistakes punctuation syntax etc can you help me with this think about outcomes for example you ensured all materials were meticulously proofread and final versions presented a polished and professional image and copy edited to improve flow clarity and voice you could also say was called the strongest proofreader on a three person team by team manager and if available you can supplement that with details like regularly requested as the editor of choice for high profile materials or known for fast turnarounds and high degree of accuracy assuming you can back those up related how to put outcomes on your resume when you don t have easy measures how can i write a resume when my jobs don t have measurable results you may also like my boss flirts with and sometimes sleeps with our vendors and tells me all about it how to interview with people you already know is this company s interview process unreasonable 386 comments posted in short answers i was promised a raise for doing a lot more work and it didn t come through by alison green on march 26 2024 a reader writes i m feeling bamboozled by how my compensation situation has shaken out i am a non exempt salaried employee and have been the entire time this all went down i joined my current company almost two years ago at a salary that was slightly below market for my level of experience and competency at the time i was fine with this because the workload and stress would be so much lower compared to previous jobs that it balanced out the role i was hired for was exclusively wholesale then two things happened 1 last spring we got a new department head who managed to make everyone s job significantly harder and more complex through their micromanagement control issues and god complex their presence has directly led to the departure of several senior members across different departments because the new culture was no longer something they wanted to deal with the rest of us are hanging on by a microscopically thin thread 2 last summer my direct business counterpart departed for greener pastures i was asked to take on their portion of the business as well and cover the whole distribution region i agreed on the condition that my pay title and job description be updated to reflect this change leadership in my department agreed and confirmed the timing would be this spring when appraisal season rolls around the company only does them once a year so i agreed to this timeline and began working both portions the workload was challenging and i had very little help due to the lean structure of the team while i got work on some really cool projects the light at the end of the tunnel was that i had been assured that i would eventually be properly compensated for this massive undertaking come appraisal and raise season i am offered a whopping single digit percent increase and single digit percent bonus on my salary as a reward for double the workload demands on my time and stress level actually it s currently tripled because another counterpart left in the fall and that role still hasn t been backfilled no title change and no updated job description either needless to say i was enraged disappointed and demoralized by the final number a single digit percent is a merit increase for someone who does only their job and does it above average not only did i get an exceeds expectations rating in my assessment i did it alone not to mention inflation alone in my current area is 6 1 from when i was originally hired most importantly this is not what i agreed to i immediately requested a meeting with hr to discuss this i calmly and professionally made my case and explained that either i receive an updated salary and title and job description or i go back to my original scope of work turns out hr was not informed of my agreement with leadership hr was also not happy to find out i did not receive an updated job description from this agreement either they assured me that my concerns would be addressed as part of a larger conversation with the department head about the structure and workload for our team i don t have a clear timeline for when this will happen or what that means for me as an individual employee based on what i know about the company s headcount and my conversation with hr what will most likely happen is that i will be put back on my original scope of work and the direct business will shift to someone else or a new hire do i have any recourse here legally sure they could put me back on the original scope of work with this slightly increased salary but what legal right do i have for compensation for the eight months i spent doing double and sometimes triple the work what about leadership agreeing to my conditions for taking on extra work even if hr didn t know of it my feelings of demoralization aside is this illegal or just really awful i know either way this isn t sustainable long term for me but i am feeling like an absolute clown who was bamboozled into working like a dog for free with no options but to take it or leave it are those really my choices this hinges entirely on what the agreement with your department leadership looked like do you have something in writing saying we will increase your salary to x in april 2024 or was it more like we ll revisit your salary in the spring and make sure you re paid appropriately if they committed to a specific number and crucially if they used language like will increase not may increase or will consider increasing then they re probably legally bound to that that s true even if hr didn t approve it since it was a commitment from your company leadership but if they didn t commit to a specific figure just to a raise well then they met their obligations to the letter if not the spirit if we could go back in time i d strongly advise you to get a specific number or range in writing if you don t have that you re unfortunately at the mercy of whatever they judge reasonable now they can say we promised you a raise and you ve received one and that will be true spelling this out a little more the law doesn t require an employer to pay you more for taking on more responsibility or more stress or even a whole other job it does require them to pay you for all the hours you worked since you re non exempt has that been happening including time and a half for all hours over 40 in a week if that didn t happen you have a very solid wage claim for that missing pay but there are no legal grounds beyond that unless they committed to a specific figure or range that they re not now providing similar things are true about your title and updated job description although it s even hazier there if you have a written agreement that says if you do xyz we will change your title to __ in april 2024 you might have grounds to push that but there s a lot of room for them to say they expected xyz to have been performed at a higher level or otherwise weasel out of it if they want to to be clear that would be very weaselly unless you really didn t meet the role s expectations so what can you do if there was no clear agreement with specific numbers attached first and foremost you should try pushing back if you can cite specific conversations about a different figure or past precedent you were relying on or notes that you made at the time or anything else to support your case you should cite that if you re willing to leave over this you can make that clear or at least heavily hint at it but ultimately this will be about what you can negotiate absent a clear and specific agreement the law wouldn t require them to do anything different second you can talk tell your coworkers what happened this won t help you but it could save someone else in your company from making the same mistake and it s a way of flexing some power that your company probably won t like and which is legally protected too you may also like is being salaried a scam i asked for a lower stress job and my workload got worse interviewer said if you get a raise the workload will go up for the entire team 157 comments posted in salary i sent a text about my problem employee to the wrong person by alison green on march 26 2024 a reader writes i find myself in a pickle and am a nervous wreck i have been a manager for two years and it has not been easy the manager before me was stepping down and badmouthed me during a staff meeting she held with the employees prior to my arrival it was hell when i arrived one particular employee undermines everything i say and new rules that i put into place she is very passive aggressive and nothing is ever her fault i have been fed up with it and i asked my sister who is a minister to put a request on her prayer list the request was to remove this employee and any other problem employees from the facility and to make the facility peaceful well i accidentally sent the text to an employee with a similar sounding name and she showed it to the employee i feel like a complete idiot what should i do i answer this question and two others over at inc today where i m revisiting letters that have been buried in the archives here from years ago and sometimes updating expanding my answers to them you can read it here other questions i m answering there today include our recruiters send rejections from me with errors in them employees want to throw me a baby shower but we just need money you may also like how can we get employees to follow our strict time of arrival policy how do i interrupt my boss in person when i need something pregnant coworker keeps saying awful things to my terminally ill sister 273 comments posted in being the boss my coworkers are obsessed with talking about their kids and i m the only childless one here by alison green on march 26 2024 a reader writes i work in a small public facing office of a government agency due to some staffing changes in the past few months my coworkers are now exclusively mothers of young children with one exception who is the grandmother of young children i am now the only man and only non parent in the office i have no problem covering shifts when people have childcare needs but the amount of baby related conversations at the office is driving me crazy in the past few months i ve heard detailed play by plays of potty training including details like the texture of a toddler s poop frank conversations about postpartum depression and details i as a gay man never thought i d learn about the birthing process on the one hand i m happy my coworkers are able to support one another as i ve gathered that such mother affirming workplaces are pretty uncommon on the other hand i find it really distracting i tried using noise cancelling headphones when chats get out of hand but even this wasn t foolproof my colleagues often share with each other videos of say their seven month old eating carrots for the first time played at maximum volume and the shrieks of joy cute to those who want to watch i m sure still manage to pierce through my headphones and distract me moreover since disgruntled members of the public sometimes come into the office i have some safety concerns about not being able to hear all activity i really don t want to shut down all the support my colleagues have found in one another the support and care they have for each other is very touching none of their work seems to be suffering either but at the same time i don t have a child and don t plan on having one in the near future so i find this an immense distraction is there a way i can bring this up or set a boundary without sounding like a woman hater or anti natalist oh this is tricky in some ways this is like if you worked in an office where everyone but you was obsessed with sports and talked about it constantly complete with shrieks of joy when a team won and graphic discussions of a player s knee surgery it would be annoying and distracting and it would get really old this is similar but with poop and childbirth thrown in in theory with any topic that dominates office conversation you should be able to say y all this is a lot and i beg you for a topic change and you should definitely be able to speak up when the conversation is actually disruptive in reality with this topic there s a pretty decent chance that it will land as squeamish man doesn t like women s conversation and that s not fair your objections are reasonable you should be able to work without constant bombardment on any one topic and definitely without poop and childbirth discussions but with the numbers in your office being what they are and with the classic tropes that exist in society about men around this kind of talk it s still likely to land that way given that i think i d just pick your battles carefully you re probably not going to be able to do much anything about the prevalence of kids as a topic but you can speak up when things are getting too graphic i learn a ton here about kids but i really don t want to hear about poop while i m trying to focus can you skip that and if you really have safety concerns about not being able to hear over the noise you should raise that too possibly with your manager since that s a pretty serious issue that should fall in her purview beyond that this is going to be a child talk heavy office and your best bet is to try to see it like any other topic you might not be interested in again like an office of sports lovers or foodies or i don t know avid hikers set some boundaries around the outlier stuff and figure the rest is just this office s quirk also assuming you re stuck with a good amount of this as long as you stay there is it possible to mentally reframe this as an interesting opportunity to learn things you haven t been this exposed to previously a peek behind a curtain that a lot of men don t get or don t take advantage of if you can approach it with more curiosity than aggravation it would probably go a long way with your colleagues and would also make it clearer that you re not being anti woman or anti kid when you do set some boundaries to be clear i m not saying they should be overwhelming the space with this topic as much as they are they shouldn t be but realistically if you can t change that this could be a useful way to approach it you may also like my child free coworkers constantly complain about people with children we need to tell our remote employees they can t take care of young kids while they re working how can we make sure flexibility for parents isn t unfair to everyone else 338 comments posted in advice about your coworkers wearing revealing exercise clothes around coworkers telling an employer i have another offer and more by alison green on march 26 2024 it s five answers to five questions here we go 1 wearing revealing clothes to exercise around coworkers i m a young woman at my first corporate job in a male dominated field i go 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