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ter a second act of vandalism occurred someone wrote death threats against terfs along with the never ending mantra transwomen are women on the doors of the shelter trans activists are still claiming that terf is just an acronym for a subtype of feminist however the way they use the word shows clearly that they intend it as a slur this graffiti is transparently about intimidating women and making us scared to set boundaries that exclude men vancouver rape relief does not have an anti trans policy they have an anti male policy because it s almost always men who rape and assault women and because men largely have the power to get away with their crimes against women shelters are needed that exclude men in order to give rape and assault survivors a safe place to recover women who identify as transgender are not excluded from the service trans activists who theoretically ought to be doing work to help trans people put a lot of energy and effort into silencing and intimidating women who understand the reality of male violence and fight against it this appears to be far more of a priority than say opening shelters for trans people fleeing violence only the lowest form of scum on earth would think of bullying victims of violence who are attempting to find a safe shelter in which to recover the level of cowardice and misogyny on display in this vandalism is astonishing anytime you call women terfs you take the side of violent misogynist scumbags who use bullying intimidation and threats to put women in our place and attempt to stop us from organizing for our liberation it was already clear but it becomes even more clear all the time terf is a misogynist slur posted in radical feminism transgenderism tagged radical feminism transgenderism 7 replies my butch career a memoir by esther newton posted on june 23 2019 by purplesagefem 8 i was absolutely delighted to read my butch career a memoir by esther newton i had never heard of newton before but i saw a recommendation for this book and was intrigued esther newton is an american lesbian born in 1940 who came out before stonewall and was a part of the women s movement and the gay liberation movement she led a fascinating life and she is very skilled as a writer there are many things that delighted me about this book most notably these three the fact that she wrote about all the social movements that interest me as a lesbian feminist and how they personally affected her throughout her life the fact that she wrote explicitly about her sexual feelings and some of her sexual experiences and the fact that she wrote descriptions of her past that bring the reader right into the action she wrote as if she has a photographic memory and can still capture every detail both physical emotional and sensory of the important scenes of her life it was an intimate and moving read and i found myself relating to her and appreciating very much what she shared one of the first things newton wrote was a description of what butch and femme mean to her and as regular readers know this is a favourite topic of mine in order to explain what femmes are she compared them to baby houseman the heroine of the film dirty dancing i was resistant to this at first because why would you use a straight character to explain what a lesbian is but after fully comprehending what she was explaining i found this was an absolutely wonderful description newton thinks of a femme as a woman who is gutsy and determined who will pursue the lover of her choice despite it being socially unacceptable she understands that a femme has femininity but is anything but a doormat and is actually quite subversive despite having a conventional appearance this leads me into telling you my favourite part of the book which is pretty near the beginning when newton describes the first time she had sex with a woman it happened when newton was a young adult in college and she was attempting to dress feminine and blend in and yet a femme woman spotted her and saw right through her disguise saw that she was a dyke and that she was the masculine type the femme was gutsy and determined just like baby and pursued what she wanted immediately the tale of seduction was breathtaking and i read over it multiple times before moving on with the book today while writing this review i discovered that esther newton has recorded herself reading this passage and put it on her website go listen to it i ve always considered gender nonconforming women to be my heroes but the way that newton describes the femmes of the past makes me realize i should be in just as much awe of them when i try to imagine being a feminine looking college girl in the 1950s and having to spot butches who were sometimes in feminine disguise as they didn t feel free to express themselves properly and make the first move on them in an extremely homophobic environment and under pressure to marry a man i think it would be extremely difficult and nearly impossible after reading the story of newton s seduction by a young femme who knew what she wanted and went for it i feel extremely grateful for every femme who s ever done that i was thrilled to find out that newton was a lesbian feminist during the second wave of feminism what a time to be alive i loved the way she described her emerging feminist consciousness i was watching the miss america pageant on television when suddenly from the balcony a banner appeared with two words women s liberation i don t recall seeing footage of the protests outside the hall or the picture of the woman marked up like cuts of beef or the crowning of a live sheep as miss america what i remember is my astonishment that women were protesting womanhood there were other women out there even women with long hair feminine women who were fed up with being good girls as i saw it they were joining me i was no longer alone with my anger p132 133 it was beautiful to hear about newton s transformation from insecure girl to confident adult thanks in large part to the women s movement later newton got somewhat involved in the lesbian s m movement that emerged after lesbian feminism had enforced a politically correct sexuality on the lesbian community regular readers of this blog know that i oppose the sex positive movement on the grounds that it s more positive toward abuse than sex however newton is mature and reasonable and doesn t demonize any group not like the overly dramatic queer activists of today she learned from and respected both movements and used what she learned from them to accept herself and express herself more fully come to think of it i ve actually done the same thing myself after diving into a purely historical as the movements have already ended study of the lesbian feminist movement and the sex pozzie movement i ve also retained those lessons that i value and rejected those ideas that i thought were erroneous and assimilated all i ve learned into my conception of myself before newton accepted herself as a lesbian she had a lot of relationships with men and this was shocking for me to read i had a moment of wondering if she is actually bisexual but after finishing the book i understand that she is truly lesbian but pre stonewall life was so anti gay that she feared getting kicked out of school and fired from her job if anyone thought she was gay she felt she had to date men in order to survive this was an important lesson for me as a lesbian who came of age right around the time when same sex marriage was legalized in my country where gsas are common in high schools and where gays and lesbians can usually be out at work with no negative repercussions esther newton is one of the people who changed things so that i can live the safe life i live and i m extremely grateful for her newton succeeded in becoming an academic after much struggle i was moved by reading about how she struggled with sexism and homophobia on top of the usual setbacks and frustrations that occur when a young person embarks upon a career and how she pushed herself through the pain and succeeded despite it all she studied gay topics in anthropology when no one else was doing so and become a pioneer of gay and lesbian studies newton is definitely a lesbian hero and her story will inspire any lesbian particularly those who struggle with being a non conforming woman in a sexist society please read this book read it for the important lesson in lesbian history for the gorgeous and sexy writing and to celebrate one of our important lesbian pioneers posted in lesbian lesbian books lesbian feminism reviews tagged butch butch femme femme lesbian lesbian books 8 replies a question about social constructionism posted on january 30 2019 by purplesagefem 23 commenter generalheinz57 asked a question this week and i always answer a question if it s sincerely asked i thought i d write the answer as a post because i tend to be long winded you talk a lot about gender roles and unless i am misunderstanding your position you seem to be of the opinion that they are almost completely if not 100 patterns of learned behavior women are submissive timid fragile nurturing sensitive empathetic while men are domineering gregarious combative independent courageous assertive my question is if you are willing to believe that there is an innate basis for mbti personality types and that you have to heed your nature in order to care for yourself why do you believe that so called gender roles are simply socially constructed toxic for both sexes and that they should and must be shed do you think there is no value to the idea of balance between the sexes in a yin yang sort of way do you not think that rather than shedding the roles entirely there are healthy ways of embodying both sets of traits and that it is okay for men to find feminine women desirable or women to find masculine men desirable as regular readers are aware my views have shifted a lot over the last few years some of my views have adjusted a bit and one of them political lesbianism did a complete 180 the topic of social constructionism is something i ve shifted on i see a continuum between social constructionism and biological determinism where many feminists are pretty far to the side of social constructionism and many conservatives are pretty far to the side of biological determinism although there are lots of exceptions and nuances feminists tend to believe that gendered behaviours are socially constructed and if we construct a different society we can construct different behaviours however there are a lot of different versions of feminism out there and there are some feminists who are biological determinists those are the men are inherently evil variety and from what i ve observed they re fairly rare generally it s understood among our movement that people can change and we don t have to embody stereotypes and male violence can be solved by raising boys differently and holding criminals accountable for their behaviour feminists will sometimes point out that if we did believe that men were inherently evil there would be no need for feminism at all because there would be no hope of changing anything i would say that around 5 years ago i was pretty far on the side of social constructionism and i ve been steadily drifting away from it however i m not going to drift all the way to being 100 biological determinist either surely both nature and nurture are factors in our behaviour and nobody is unaffected by either force where this leaves me in terms of gender roles is that i do think women tend to be more nurturing and more emotional and men tend to be more aggressive and violent due to the effects of estrogen and testosterone on our bodies and minds after having listened to trans men talking about how they change going on and off testosterone injections it s hard to deny that a person with more testosterone in their body cries less often feels more anger and has a higher sex drive this doesn t mean i m giving up on feminism though i don t believe that men are hopelessly violent with no possibility of reform i think they are competent people able to control themselves and behave properly and i don t think women are too emotional to be in positions of power we may cry more often but that doesn t mean we can t use our brains we certainly can there are some people who would probably want to burn me at the stake for saying there is a biological basis for masculine and feminine behaviours but i think there is i think we can acknowledge that while still calling for a culture that is less misogynistic and that doesn t constantly promote stereotypes about men and women to the benefit of us all this might sound contradictory because i always say that masculine and feminine behaviours are complete bullshit when i come across as contradictory i m always willing to examine what i m saying to try to make it more clear there is a tendency in popular culture to present people as very one dimensional and stereotyped and we are actually a lot more complex than the way pop culture presents us for example it is probably true that women purchase more chocolate than men do that s fine and i don t need to pretend that difference doesn t exist however if you look at a tv commercial women are senseless chocolate obsessed animals who will run in front of a truck trying to get their hands on some chocolate this is a silly example but i think you can see what i mean about the difference between a a real life difference that exists between the sexes and 2 that difference turned into a ridiculous spectacle by pop culture i don t have a problem acknowledging a statistically proven difference between men and women but what really makes me angry is when people expect others to behave just like the over the top stereotypes that pop culture sells to us if masculine and feminine behaviours are biologically determined that may appear to justify trans people s claim that they have the mind of the opposite sex based on the fact that their natural personality reflects the usual gendered behaviour of that sex but i m not buying that line of thinking because there are always exceptions there are men with feminine traits and women with masculine traits and this is because humans are all unique just because a person is an exception to a rule doesn t mean they are literally a member of the opposite sex if i was born with a personality called infj then yes that does mean i believe other people are also born with personalities they might be born with certain traits that are classifiable as masculine or feminine and they might be born with tendencies to be violent and they might be born with tendencies to develop dysphoria and any number of other things when someone describes what infjs are like they are definitely generalizing about a large group of people stereotypes can definitely emerge sometimes when i see a narrative posted online about how an infj would behave in a certain situation i identify with...
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