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sary to be x label and it s also impossible to include the full spectrum of possible experiences relating to a lot of squares can be a sign you are x label but not getting a bingo doesn t prove you re not x label flags lavender ace flag 5 stripe asexual flag rainbow a spec flag aroace spectrum flag grey aegosexual aro and ace prideprogressive what is cassgender list collage with a spec characters canon and headcanon my memes intro post my bingos my memes posts 13 sternenschaukler reblogged narutwitter follow tbposting move your cursor to the boy you like and hold a to emotionally invest aromantic aroace me in elementary middle school 214 20 784 35 217 sternenschaukler reblogged aspecmemesdaily follow belleyeet asked i made a controversial meme i m aware that being aro ace can be a spectrum for many people unfortunately i see these phrases usually being used by multiple people to dismiss aro ace people and or aro ace representation aspecmemesdaily answered i just found this little gem sitting in my inbox since july collecting dust aromantic asexual aroace aphobia 3 31 99 sternenschaukler reblogged gamebird toastyglow follow why be radically exclusionary abt queerness when you could be radically inclusionary instead let s inflate the numbers let s become the majority the sky s the limit toastyglow we can t let just anyone call themselves queer what are you talking about i m steepling my fingers and gleefully cackling every time we get another one and you should be too lock in vaspider fuck yeah let s make this little raft we re surviving on big as hell if i bring my bit of driftwood and you bring yours and we let as many people join in as want to we might end up with a functional boat libraford i heard someone say queer is that which accepts queerness a few weeks ago and i ve been thinking about it ever since derinthescarletpescatarian back when i was active on aven i have no idea what it s like now we had two definitions of asexual an external definition and an internal definition the external definition the one that s on the wiki and the press material and that everyone uses when talking about asexuality was of course an asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction the internal definition the one we kept in mind when talking to each other was an asexual is someone who calls themself asexual the reason for this was very simple and very practical in the very early aven and immediately pre aven days back before my time when the disparate ace communities were first finding each other and creating a public online network there was a fair lot of exclusionist discourse there are a lot of ways to be asexual and the early community of course fell prey to the usual infighting about whether someone with a libido counts as asexual whether someone who chooses to have sex can be asexual usual tiring purity brigade bullshit whether someone without a libido counts as asexual after all if you have no sex drive are you sure it s a matter of sexual orientation whether ace people count as lgbtq all the usual nonsense this worked out the way it pretty much always does the inclusionists win because exclusionists always break off into smaller and smaller communities so the largest group is of course the one where all different kinds of people stick together and welcome each other and that was aven and when you re trying to have a strong community and somebody shows up at the gates saying hi i think i m asexual it s a fucking horrible idea to start doubting their credentials they saw the public definition and started calling themselves asexual they re here and now they re under the internal definition an asexual is somebody who calls themself asexual sometimes these people would be frustrated allosexuals or people choosing to swear off sex who might not fit the external definition of the term we made sure that everyone knew the external definition and there were always conversations about asexuality and how it affected our lives if they asked us directly what we thought then we d say only you can know for sure and then give our thoughts on the matter for as long as they asked for them and other than that it wasn t anyone else s fucking business or anyone s place to judge if people weren t nasty and didn t create problems they could stay and call themselves whatever they wanted many of these people who didn t fit the strict definition eventually left after receiving support and discovering more about themselves some stopped iding as ace but became allies to the community some people who came in with the most i m a heterosexual girl who is angry at my boyfriend intro posts you ve ever seen in your life discovered that they were in fact ace and that the messages that society had taught them about sex and romance were simply not for them these are people who in a gatekept community would have been incorrectly ousted immediately and then there were people a lot of people who found themselves in grey areas people who said okay this community makes sense to me and is useful to me and i have so much in common with a lot of you but not exactly like you however what i experience may not be the strict default definition but it s an awful lot like these other members on the forum and they formed sub communities the grey aces the demisexuals the aromantics and greyromantics through these dialogues between subgroups who in a more exclusionary community would be arguing about who the real asexuals are and splintering off into their own communities away from all those stupid cishet fakers we developed language to describe our similarities and differences the sexual romantic aesthetic attraction model came out of these dialogues and it became so massively important to our understanding of asexuality that basically everyone in the ace aro community describes themselves by it as do a large number of people outside the community the community made massive leaps ahead in just a decade or two by well being a community by being a place where anybody who called the place home and didn t bully other people in the home was right by being somewhere where anybody who saw asexual someone who doesn t experience sexual attraction and thought that sounds like a term with some use for me was allowed to use it an asexual is somebody who does not experience sexual attraction an asexual is somebody who calls themselves asexual these definitions are not in conflict they are both in concert fundamentally necessary for a safe and vibrant community where we can protect support and learn about each other and ourselves and that is absolutely not exclusive to asexual communities asexual queer lgbtqia aromantic aroace lgbt 115 33 478 37 985 sternenschaukler reblogged aspec mafia official halcyonvoid follow romantic relationships are not superior to others and shouldn t be placed above others in a hierarchy yes real we should put platonic relationships at the top instead you ruined it fuck off aromantic 13 818 2 187 sternenschaukler reblogged detergent3000 follow compilation of rather aroallo images aromantic aroallo 5 1 209 2 717 sternenschaukler reblogged xystia homophobla follow i feel bad for anyone with it and she pronouns because both it she and she it sound like english words and you cant put them in your bio because everyone will just think you re itchy or whatever 26 685 2 352 sternenschaukler reblogged sternenschaukler follow i know people mean well when they try to argue against arophobes with the argument of we don t feel romantic attraction but aros can still love their friends and family or argue that aces can still feel romantic love and want relationships as a response to acephobes but please don t it s technically correct but also a terrible response in that situation judging a person s worth by their capacity to love in any type of way is dehumanizing not everyone feels love or even strong emotions in general and it doesn t make them a bad person same as feeling love doesn t automatically make one a good person tl dr we shouldn t try to prove our worth by arguing how normal or how similar to allos we are indigoartistqueen also as op said experiencing love doesnt make you a good person either and i wanna like expand on that with my personal opinion love is a state or feeling at least in my eyes people can feel love without respecting your autonomy your parents can still geneuinely feel love for you even if theyre abusive as shit genuinely if someone feels love or attatchment or interest it doesnt mean they actually care about you as a person back to the abusive parent example that parent can genuinely want to have a relationship with you where you bond and talk happily together and they can support you that same parent can also blackmail gaslight humiliate purposefully hurt you break down your sense of self leave you with psychological scars so deep it fucks over the rest of your entire life and financially phyfically emotionally force you into a lifestyle you hate against your will love is an emotional experience just the same as hate and many other states people will define it in different ways but just feeling love doesnt make you a good person more explanation under the cut keep reading 9 321 755 sternenschaukler reblogged makomoriz follow no i don t cheers aspec mafia official i think there s too much of love intimacy and romance in media now actually not only does it often destroy what was already good but also we re missing so much potential of stories that are based on the lack of it either for good or for bad and with it not ending in some sort of other person involved or at least not romantically as well and if one really wants romance that s what s shipping is for it s such a huge part of human life which humans because this is only talking about allo people and aspec individuals are also human this is amatonormativity at its finest many aspec people feel no such or even disgust at those feelings and underwhelming are friendships pets acquaintances dream fulfillment curiousity for life and personal drive not whelming enough aromantic arophobia aroace 8 17 805 24 679 sternenschaukler reblogged asexual society queerum follow free mostly academic aro theory resources on amatonormativity amatonormativity aromanticism and what defines a relationship rilee granger amatonormativity in the law an introduction silver flight allonormativity and compulsory sexuality chapter 6 of encyclopedia of queer studies in education stephanie anne shelton i dont want to be a playa no more an exploration of the denigrating effects of player as a stereotype against african american polyamorous men justin l clardy on relationship anarchy the short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy andie nordgren the relationship anarchy website thinking relationship anarchy from a queer feminist approach roma de las heras gómez beyond romantic love an analysis of how the dilemma of closeness vs autonomy is handled in relationship anarchy discourse ricardo guillén the ethics of relationship anarchy ole martin moen on community examining aromantic and asexual inclusion in queer serving organizations based on lauren lichty s work exploring aromanticism through an online qualitative investigation with the aromantic community freeing alienating and utterly fantastic james fowler et al community listening sessions with aromantic people summary and recommendations report aurea aro census sexuality romantic orientation and masculinity men as underrepresented in asexual and aromantic communities hannah tessler on queerplatonic relationships queerplatonic zucchinis a short primer omnes and nihil unsure queering the nuclear family katie linder queer ing consensual nonmonogamies queering therapy queer intimacy kinship and experiences of cnm in lgbtqia lives christian klesse et al on intersectionality intimacy and desire through the lens of an aro ace woman of color being aroflux black kimberley butler transitioning into aromanticism as a trans student amethyst existing and defying stereotypes as an a spec disabled person sapphire crimson claw a reflection on the march carnival of aros several testimonies by aros of color and non cis non het aros are linked in this article other aro related interesting reads new dimensions new directions asexualities and aromanticism in the 21st century megan carroll et al enriching the story asexuality and aromanticism in literature adrienne whisman the importance of representation for lesser known sexual identities on the example of asexuality and aromanticism jasmin kiechle experiences of italian asexual and aromantic individuals in healthcare settings from explicitly aggressive to affirming interactions o ther lists of aro related ressources not all sources listed in these are free though by aurea the asexuality and aromanticism bibliography if you know of any other free ressource about aromanticism please consider adding to this list for later unread 4 1 037 1 345 sternenschaukler reblogged sternenschaukler follow that amatonormative question when sternenschaukler i m just really tired of this assumption that some people have that everyone can be sorted into 2 categories currently in a relationship and looking for a relationship and that if you re not one thing then you automatically fall into the other category aromantic aroace aroallo polyamory polyamourous enm relationship anarchy posts 15 1 373 3 015 sternenschaukler that amatonormative question when fuck amatonormativity aromantic aroace aroallo polyamory polyamourous enm relationship anarchy my memes posts 15 1 373 3 015 sternenschaukler reblogged aspec mafia official cryptic rat in your walls follow i love how the entire aroace community latched onto ryland grace with no hesitation and have used his character as an outlet for frustrations regarding real world politics surrounding our identities dr ryland grace was arguably the perfect backup candidate for his mission stratt got that right he had no children no life partner no family not even a dog all he had was his students and that was enough for him but that made him replaceable right not only were grace s wishes completely ignored his life and his value as a person was undermined simply because he had no one but his students to care for his wellbeing because he wouldn t have someone at home waiting for him to come back aroace people deal with similar treatment simply because romance and sex are seen as essential to the human experience completely disregarding any and all other types of connection one s inherent value as a person is not lost when they choose to live life without romantic or sexual relationships one s value is simply in existing aroace people know this well which is why so many have become so attached to ryland as a character many of us see his way of life as the end goal for ourselves so any one of us would have been seen as just as dispensable by stratt and by society as a whole aroace people love dr ryland gr...