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dooce i ve been drinking from a periscope dooce i ve been drinking from a periscope search for you re the one that i wanted to find heather b armstrong april 6 2023 marlo archive leta archive on october 8th 2021 i celebrated six months of sobriety by myself on the floor next to my bed feeling as if i were a wounded animal who wanted to be left alone to die there was no one in my life who could possibly comprehend how symbolic a victory it was for me albeit it one fraught with tears and sobbing so violent that at one point i thought my body would split in two the grief submerged me in tidal waves of pain for a few hours i found it hard to breathe i had isolated myself entirely from the outside world because i didn t understand what was happening to me and i was embarrassed here two years into this often frenzied and wandering dance with life i understand that i couldn t hold anyone s gaze because everywhere i looked i saw nothing but my own worthlessness and so i chose loneliness i couldn t handle the idea of anyone else knowing just how bad i felt about myself i now understand that what was happening to me was a physical reconciliation with pain 22 years of agony i had numbed with alcohol had come alive and transformed itself into an almost alien life form i often felt like i was being electrocuted for hours at a time the core of my body absorbed the shock of it all and it brought me to my knees i was forced to stare this wild eyed savage straight in the face and now i look around and think oh this this is just life all of this is just a physical reaction to psychological pain sobriety was not some mystery i had to solve it was simply looking at all my wounds and learning how to live with them i need to express gratitude today for the one sober friend who helped me understand this non mystery she who laughed and cried with me on saturday i ve never met her in person she lives just outside atlanta georgia with her young children near the site of a mormon temple where i used to travel with the youth group at church to perform baptisms for the dead yes that is a real thing and it might explain the mormon fascination with halloween and here i will refer to her as hanky plankton the name she signed to an anonymous note in response to what i was writing during those first few months of being sober and i will never forget the metaphor she gifted me early sobriety resembles living life as a clam without its shell shame for an alcoholic is a language in which we converse with expertise and the fact that i got sober the year my older kid became a senior in high school was its own blessing and curse i have always been present for my kids and good lord you can say what you want about how i should not be dragging either of them into a post about their alcoholic mother but there is no coincidence that i got to witness my child prepare herself for college with this much clarity and i am going to give myself credit for having raised a woman who more than anything else possesses a ferocity for life so unparalleled that her grandmother the avon world sales leader started taking notes when she saw the ultrasound hanky plankton loved me enough to help me forgive myself for all the parts of motherhood that began to haunt me after i took that last swig from a bottle leta elise is my wondrous green eyed first born whose birth bore the hallmark of every cascading trauma a woman can experience minus the emergency c section the nurses lay her on my chest after they freed her from the umbilical cord that had wrapped itself around her neck three times and her right arm immediately reached for my neck when our bodies met and so i forgave her for the three hours i had spent trying to push her into this world when she had decided in utero that everyone in that delivery room needed to wait until her desired time of arrival that was the first indication that her life would be lived on her own terms and no one else s i famously had this song on repeat on the drive to lds hospital to give birth and it s peculiar hum became a bridge that i would return to often during those first few months when i was trying to square my life before i knew her to the life now defined by being in love with her stars elevator love letter leta is of course named after my mother s sister who died in infancy but i don t think i have ever revealed that i plucked her middle name from one of my favorite songs by the cure and i can barely watch this video i can barely type these words because one of leta s greatest talents is the way in which she views the world her photography resembles 8 mm film footage she sees heritage in the mundane value in the slightest change of hue she extracts light from every shape and shadow the cure a letter to elise oh i just take as much as you can throw we used to read books together before bed and i would sing that one line to her every night while stroking the hair away from her eyes three years before she was born i was sitting across a table from her father at canter s deli on beverly blvd in los angeles and thought i want my children to inherit this man s eyes of the many ways she resembles her father it is the color and the shape of her eyes that bear the hallmark gene of an armstrong most coldplay green eyes live in san diego 2002 leta could not stand the feeling of grass or sand on the bottoms of her feet she famously refused to walk on the beach during a week long vacation we took to florida when she was four years old and jon and i had her undergo testing with a specialist here in salt lake city to determine if this behavior in conjunction with her legendary stubborn nature should be cause for concern we also needed to know if it was feasible for a child to subsist on a fad diet of dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets bought in bulk and microwaved into oblivion leta endured over 10 hours of testing over the course two days and when the verdict was in that doctor was roaring with laughter so uncontrollable that jon looked at him and said please tell us that you have an explanation please tell us you can diagnose this because if you don t then i am going to walk to the nearest bar and drink a fifth of bourbon myself that made the doctor laugh even harder dear sir he said you might need to order two or three bottles of that bourbon because not only is there nothing wrong with your daughter but she s also the most independent kid i have ever tested the only thing wrong with her is that she knows exactly what she wants and when she wants it is it difficult to raise a child like this sure but i imagine it s not boring he imagined it wasn t boring just sit with that for a second when i was a kid my friends and i would often tease each other by licking two fingers and sticking them in each other s ears without warning turns out i learned that trick so that i could do it to that doctor specifically leta hated tags on her shirts and the feeling of grass underneath her feet and no it was not dull what i found in leta was an at home firsthand lesson in understanding that a dull life is not a life worth living leta was born being the firm ground upon which she would stand when she decided that she was damn well good and ready to stand she didn t walk until she was 18 months old and she spent a solid two days on the ground before she started soaring shall i brag about my kid for just a moment unlike many kids her age she hunted down her driver license on her own during quarantine i might add and then applied to over a dozen colleges and universities without any assistance whatsoever not only did she get into every school she applied to she also earned a solid scholarship to each one which brings me to that which blew my socks into smithereens this kid has a wit like no other her comedic timing has often left me sore on my sides from laughing let s take the afternoon she casually mentioned to me that she had been honored as the funniest person in her graduating class and when i say casually i cannot do justice to her eye movements her tone the precision with which she can deliver a line her class had nominated her class clown and i asked when she would find out if she had won this designation she did a double take dropped the spoon with which she was feeding herself a bowl of honey nut cheerios and blinked several hundred times class clown it turns out was the jargon being thrown around for funniest person in class and nominated meant according to her deadpan delivery enough people know who i am and they wrote down my name my seventeen blinks echoed in her two dozen blinks she slowly repeated herself as if i didn t speak english they wrote down my name just for the sake of comparison there were 1 500 kids in leta s graduating class she smiled with cereal in her cheeks and mumbled i know it s not most likely to succeed but but nuh uh i interrupted her my graduating class was smaller than a mcdonald d parking lot full of bros in trucks and my peers had to choose from a list of five people i won that designation but no one wrote down my name not even a month earlier we were sitting at the dinner table when marlo asked why there was a dude walking around the house like the unabomber i told her that he was an appraiser and we were trying to determine the value of the house for reasons not concerning her she furrowed her brow and said a praiser without missing a beat leta raised her right arm and pointed straight at the ceiling an appraiser marlo is the person who comes around to all the homes in utah and determines who is going to be baptized next and guess what today today he chose you and marlo believed her i am still underneath our dining table trying to regain consciousness after choking on a truffle filled ravioli where do i even begin when discussing leta and her love of music there is no end there is no middle she sends me music recommendations that make the spotify algorithm cower in shame people of earth behold i gave birth to the funniest kid whose taste in music makes me bow down in reverence last year after i endured a particularly bad week she sent me this song and painted an acrylic landscape around one line from the lyrics how am i even typing these words deep sea diver shattering the hourglass leta has never suffered from indecision and is the most guileless person who ever lived she cannot abide gossip of any kind does not want to hear an unkind word about anyone and will change the topic of conversation if she thinks someone is about to discredit another person in any way do not ever attempt to pull up a chair beside this woman to spill some tea because she will dump that tea on your head if she gets a single whiff of your intention she would then of course make sure that the tea had not burned you in any way and help you clean up the mess you so clearly caused and deserved also she can dance like a motherfucker the kid who refused to walk on grass or sand for the first four years of her life became the captain of her dance squad in high school and in the last two years she helped choreograph four dance concerts to a crowd of thousands she has more rhythm than i do although i am not far behind my center of gravity is located about five inches higher than hers and i was born with two left feet so my learning curve has been a bit more steep fitting that i would find this last song to send to her during her first week at a college in philadelphia given that she studied four years of french in high school just like i did christine and the queens comme si here at 18 months sober i salute my 18 year old frog baby she who taught me how to love a select few from the archives it isn t something you forget so easily don t get sentimental how you wanted it to be and i will settle you down your ears should be burning this goes beyond me beyond you bury your head in the sand all of my edges and my schemes i got visas in my name stilettos and broken bottles that no college roommate plotted my slow and painful death is a total mystery a silent devotion songs in the canon of j in the distant distance i did not know you as well as my father i took it remote your rescue squad you caught me right on time le secret de paris from she who sure does talk about balls a lot a relic from my redneck heritage when i went to hang out with michelle and b a costco sized tangent that even i didn t see coming elton dog bubbles dancing with wolves all the wrong turns brought me here hi i am the one that needs you what long nights would end i am heather b armstrong and this is my website you can read more about me here or here or here pick a link you like and be sure to check back regularly for more from the archives wink wink motherfuckers like a waterfall in slow motion part one posts navigation title search search archives index 2001 2023 manic rambling spiral archive in memoria i am heather b hamilton and this is my website drop me a note copyright 2026 heather b hamilton trust 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