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dit opens in new window reddit like loading filed under erotic fantasy pictures power submission tagged with bottom choice dress erotic exploitation feminism visual quelques grammes de finesse dans un monde de brut june 10 2010 7 comments halleluya i found a spanking video clip worth reposting yeah i know i m a bit of a snob i don t mean to be i m fine if amateur stuff is well amateurish that s charming but when professional for sale work runs the dreary teacher daddy naughty schoolgirl or wife clichés over and over well yawn now contrast this a real scene somehow one feels with a crackling dialogue not least because it contains meta narrative reflecting on the process during the process but without spoiling it in fact enhancing it with layers of mutual perception and irony and self regard between the particpants it s a complete breath of fresh air need i mention that he s dressed to her equivalence ref post on this and gives somehow just perfectly weighted swats on her totally mesmerisingly delicious i ve died and gone to heaven bottom of course he will have to step it up a gear but all in good time one of the great things about this scene is that he has things just quietly simmering and could hold it there for a long long time letting tolerance and arousal build without forcing it there s a great confidence in being able to do that i have not the foggiest who these people are are they famous nor if there is a longer version of this clip and where it is to be had my ignorance not sure if this is good or bad judging by the views at dailymotion it s been around at least three years i d appreciate knowing share this email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook more share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr share on reddit opens in new window reddit like loading filed under authority erotic relationships spanking tagged with dominance dress real spanking strap strength again my top sensibilities are expressed in mirror form june 8 2010 3 comments there s a great post from finding sara where she very funnily describes her minor brush with a cop finishing up with this observation i am an executive i run companies i make money i boss lots of people around but you know what faced with a dominant man in a position of authority and dressed in pink on my way to the fabric store i dropped into my submissive persona at his first excuse me m am most times i slip in and out of my various personas and roles in my life without much conscious thought or awareness but sometimes i step back and wonder how the same woman can be such a ditz and a savvy business woman a boss and a submissive wife simultaneously i can negotiate and close deals and then lose my unregistered vehicle in the parking lot all on the same day i really don t know what to make of it and i am not sure if all women feel this way or if it has to do with the fact that i have very different sides of me that create this walking contradiction that is me i can totally relate but from the other side my role as a top in anything but monolithic and i m not always in authority mode nor do i want to be that would be so well unidimensional my life is many roles some authoritative others egalitarian i have times when i need to be held times when i look to be gently guided i have worked under women i walk around the office and have no fantasies of dominating them an then something happens a look a flash of naughtiness a bit of sass or less fun a problem or crisis arises and i can instantly kick into authority mode we are many of us those willing to admit it feel it and explore it multi dimensional aka walking contradictions spanking discipline is interesting i think because it provides a clear position in the shifting sands of our both tops and bottoms everyday relationship with authority but no sooner has it passed than the clarity fades this is good because it allows our other dimensions their share of voice therefore to spank again share this email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook more share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr share on reddit opens in new window reddit like loading filed under authority power spanking submission tagged with dominance egalitarian spank love hate relationship with the belt cont june 3 2010 4 comments it s very common and understandable that spankees have a love hate relationship with the instruments of their persuasion what s less fully articulated is spankers ambiguities towards their implements in my ongoing quest to interrogate the mind of a top for myself most of all i offer a thought or two about the belt first let me say that i m set thinking on this by a great blog this is how it feels by poppy st vincent where she reposts the following real spankings picture and says this is how it feels when he takes his belt off and you know he is going to use it on your bottom it is a very scary feeling and it makes you want to curl up but you also want a cuddle and to sit on his lap but the problem is that half of you wants to run away for miles and miles and miles and the other half wants to reach for his strong arms and snuggle down in them so tight that no one other than him will ever even know where you are it is a great picture for my taste i find real spankings a bit obvious yes high on production values but low on originality or insight from what i ve seen from a distance over the years it s always a bit like a high school production good technique yet limited in mind and therefore somehow always pedestrian but anyway the point is that this picture escapes that the push pull of her emotions is uniquely captured here s the good and bad of the belt for me the bad is in the i m gonna tan yer hide belt removal which is inescapably possibly in every culture associated with low life scum the image conjures the dumb swine with a beer in one hand and a fag in one other stomach flopping out his shirt who whose first resort to the problem of his crumbling authority is to yank his belt from it loops each to his her own but personally this is an image i run from the good in the belt is that it is a great implement it has the advantage of being part of the everyday rather than bespoke kinky ware also assuming it is wide enough it also provides a great whack at relatively little bottom damage i find with a belt i can give a good hot bottom thrashing while knowing she s actually really fine share this email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook more share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr share on reddit opens in new window reddit like loading filed under authority dominance pictures spanking tagged with belt bottom kinky lap strap all dressed up and one more thing to do may 26 2010 4 comments this picture puts me in mind of one of my enduring favourites authority lifestyle situations it goes like this we are about to go out to a dinner party or the opera or somewhere nice we re both dresssed up just before we depart she brings me the cane or paddle and readies herself just like in the picture for a crisp spanking it happens over the dress not a heavy session stiff enough for her to notice it all evening but at the same time something she can well absorb without falling out of her hair do or smudging her makeup ed note i don t like heavy makeup then we re out the door why at this exact moment she s looking glamorous wearing something alluring i find women particularly attractive in evening dress doubly so at the beginning of an evening when anticipation is running high but there s more at this moment we stand at the threshold of the private public divide once out there she s her own woman in every way and i support that in anticipation this little moment is a grounding a reminder of who she is in other ways what her enduring structures are it s erotic that as we go about our evening she has red stripes on her bottom that only the two of us know about our secret is so deliciously near and yes i wouldn t resist a subtle swat now and then to restoke the fire picture is from girl s boarding school free included in its ubiquitous wall to wall marketing share this email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook more share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr share on reddit opens in new window reddit like loading filed under authority erotic fantasy spanking tagged with bottom caning domestic discipline dress spanking position spanking is sometimes a figure ground study for me may 17 2010 4 comments here s a picture it comes from of course the one and only red charls who else dramatises and photgraphs the d s experience so expertly i have a complicated relationship with this image therein i call it art i look at it one way and i see a defensless nude woman under the rod of oppression then i look at it again and i see a perfect alignment of wills a deep yearning for discipline a most caring hand of authority one way then the other way back and forward my ambivalence of course my struggle with all this this is just like the figure ground studies we all know look at this picture do you see the vase or do you see the faces vase faces vase faces back and forth what am i saying other than the banal how we look at things affects what we see i suppose i m really conscious of how so very right and so very wrong are remarkably two sides of the same coin and how it is quite hard to get that coin to reliably land right side up it s not just a question of seeing the postive it is about putting the positive there for all to see share this email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook more share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr share on reddit opens in new window reddit like loading filed under dominance pictures power submission tagged with art d s morality new theme same old ritual fascination may 17 2010 2 comments well we all need a shakeup from time to time i ve gone for a new look it will be i fear a bit of old wine in new bottles but sometimes old wine is the best i ve also been how can i put it nurturing my creative juices for a while in other words neglecting this blog yes over busy at work but also trying to decide what to do with it that is thinking through whether i want to write and place fiction here or just keep this as an ideas sandbox i ve decided to write that s the new wine i ve also been thinking about whether to allow other people s fiction to appear here i m thinking of someone who has been sending me the most amazing stories and is happy for them to appear on this site specifically choosing me as an ideal dom i m very humbled by this er award and if only she didn t live in new zealand but anyway on the one hand this would allow a submissive perspective in there are many other better forums for this but on the other it would also showcase the kind of highly articulate feminist submissive perspective that is very attractive to well me to repost it would say something about the thinking dominant and what it likes share this email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook more share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr share on reddit opens in new window reddit like loading filed under dominance stories submission writing only as hard as my mind and body need it that day to react april 13 2010 6 comments i liked this take on severity it might come as a surprise to some of you and it actually a little bit of surprise to me as well but i absolutely do not have a severity fetish some people say i can take a lot and the truth is yes i can but i don t really want to it s a little bit like i have been there i have done that i much more prefer lighter play that i can savour and enjoy than hard play that i can only survive as far as severity goes i need it only as hard as my my mind and body need it that day to react this from kami robertson s on the way of exploration what is like about this is it reframes the how hard question in terms of a means to an end not an end in itself i think a lot of people somehow buy into the idea that doing it harder is to be strived for it shows more dominance or submission it is an end to be aspired to i don t think spanking harder shows more dominance at all real dominance is mental emotional to be found in resolution courage forthrightness etc but that s another story the real goal in spanking for me and i suspect most people is not to do it harder it is to reach the emotional and erotic heights and achieve personal closeness and alignment a spanking needs to be hard enough to get there but no harder for me this isolates a key source of frustration correctly if how hard he needs it to be to get there and how hard she needs it to be to get there are not in alignment there will be endemic frustration and although tolerances can build i don t see any solution to that incompatibility speaking for myself i need it to be fairly hot and hard to get there a good hand spanking or paddle whacking or strapping enough strokes so her bottom is genuinely bouncing around and a decidely hot pink if she crumbles in the middle of this and ends the event i am very frustrated indeed but if i get that then i m there and to go on would be pointless and a turn off share this email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook more share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr share on reddit opens in new window reddit like loading filed under dominance erotic relationships spanking submission tagged with frustration hand spanking how hard paddle severity tolerance consenting adults in private redux march 5 2010 6 comments i ve been thinking about is whether its possible to come up with a better minimum code of ethical interaction for spanking and d s relationships than the old standard every practice is okay as long as it s between consenting adults in private consenting adults in private evolved from the gay rights world and may not be quite right for d s it is more than apparent that a lot of unethical by any measure genuinely exploititatve cruel behaviour goes on behind the fig leaves of consent and privacy i m greatly in favour of d s broadly interpreted i m not in favour of real cruelty and exploitation and i feel d s i...