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boys to men raising our sons for war boys to men raising our sons for war skip to content home articles a rape a minute a thousand corpses a year rebecca solnit ann jones the link between domestic violence and foreign tyranny abroad issues be a man my son programmed for war suckered into sacrifice result social violence result 2 men after war our courageous leaders the unemotional soldier emotional shut down two dimensional men difference fear aggression violence why is the military male socialized into aggression the hero stoicism the endurance of pain tough enough the patriot who must win no matter what the disciplined man about this blog about me about this blog about me contact me raising our sons for war i have arranged my site a little differently to others you will always find this page raising our sons for war when you open my site at the end of each page i have put a link that takes you to the next page or look in the right hand column for the latest post or all the pages in order are we parents and society unconsciously raising our sons to be useful pawns for war in his fascinating well documented book war and gender joshua s goldstein professor of international relations at american university dc puts forward the theory that parents and society unconsciously and unintentionally train boys to be ready when they are men to fight in war we train boys to be able to kill goldstein s research finds that all men are groomed to kill even though most men will never be needed for war and will never actually kill killing doesn t come naturally to a man goldstein says a man has to be taught and the training is difficult preparation has to start as young as possible here goldstein is not talking about army or weapons training but about the conditioning necessary to overcome a man s natural reluctance to kill another person to be effective this psychological preparation has to start early in fact soon after birth so we come to my question are parents unknowingly priming their sons for war to start the debate on this question i ve listed some of the qualities i think would make a soldier useful in a war situation and then those that make him risky in the eyes of the military authority it seems to me that the military would want a man to be stoic to endure pain without complaint communicative mainly about actions unemotional except for anger insensitive aggressive competitive physically tough strong and active defensive aggressive heroic adventurous and courageous attracted to the risky the macho and the dangerous a leader but one who follows orders able to accept hierarchical authoritarian systems that demand discipline keen to accept institutional male bonding that re enforces an ideology of a superiority that excludes others patriotic determined to win at all costs capable of violence willing to cause pain always supportive of his troop despite any unethical behaviour risky in a war situation and in the eyes of a military authority would be a man who is compassionate is caring and unwilling to hurt or kill another questions illogical and automatic hierarchies questions authority is not automatically patriotic if he thinks the war is unjust or illogical does not support unethical behaviour does not see others as inferior human beings is able to express emotions even those of fear insecurity or vulnerability is not afraid to express pain is not afraid to admit to feelings of inadequacy or show fear of failure communicates and listens on a personal level depending on your point of view the soldierly attributes in the first list or non soldierly ones in the second list could be seen as negative or positive what i m interested in is whether the first list of qualities those useful for fighting in wars are the same qualities we want or expect in our sons want and expect may be different but often have the same result we may not want our son to take risks but we could still expect him to do so the result that he takes risks can be the same in contrast do we try to discourage in our boys the qualities in the second list the ones that seemingly are negative in the war environment for instance do we want to deny that young boys are often sensitive questioning caring afraid and vulnerable in later posts i would like to talk about these positive and negative characteristics in depth most boys have marvellous natural qualities such as high energy curiosity active minds and bodies the desire to explore and experience and there are obvious differences between boys and girls both genetic and temperament these are not what this blog is about i am interested in our actions our beliefs and our ideologies those of parents and societies and how these may be coded and formulated even without our realising it to encourage the characteristics necessary for one thing to make a useful tool for war if we read the first list some of us will say no i don t agree with that particular characteristic it s not something i would encourage in my son but let s admit it the influences on any boy are many influence comes from his peers the media the clubs he belongs to the sport he plays the culture surrounding him and in one way or another we allow these influences through acceptance lack of interest or group pressure we don t take too much time or any time at all to question whether the characteristics suitable to be able to fight in wars are also the most positive ones for a man living a daily life of work social interaction partnerships relationships family and children many of the quotes and statistics i use may refer to the usa because of that country s current and recent war history but my overall argument concerns all boys no matter where they are the argument does not distinguish between boys who may one day fight in a traditional war a civilian war or as groups of individuals fighting against a traditional military operation i believe besides obvious cultural differences that most societies instill the same characteristics into their boys those characteristics necessary for fighting and killing in later posts i would like to talk in depth about all the characteristics listed above whether they are positive or negative but before that i want to briefly look at how we may be unconsciously and unintentionally raising our sons for the trauma of warfare and to be capable of killing for the continuation of this discussion please go to caygin wordpress com chapters 3 be a man my son share this email a link to a friend opens in new window email print opens in new window print tweet like loading 5 responses to raising our sons for war caygin says 18 02 2012 at 1 39 pm i would appreciate that i think it s a very important issue and that the more people who think about it the better please pass it on to others and have a look at my following posts pages reply caygin says 06 03 2012 at 3 13 pm thanks i ve set up my blog a bit differently to others raising our sons for war the introduction always comes up first you need to follow the pages under issues to get all the posts pages caygin reply _ says 09 07 2013 at 9 28 pm i dont belive in all of this blog or page the day boys act like or dress like girls is the day hell comes to earth reply caygin says 10 07 2013 at 5 34 pm thank you for your comment but there is nowhere on the blog that it is written that boys should act or dress like girls reply pizza light says 22 08 2013 at 5 57 pm right here is the right webpage for anyone who really wants to understand this topic you understand a whole lot its almost tough to argue with you not that i personally would want to haha you definitely put a new spin on a subject that has been discussed for a long time excellent stuff just wonderful reply leave a comment cancel reply δ search for pages articles a rape a minute a thousand corpses a year rebecca solnit ann jones the link between domestic violence and foreign tyranny abroad issues be a man my son programmed for war suckered into 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