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re than love monday october 10 2016 a new way of life last night i had the privilege of speaking with ryan s pulmonologist at stanford i love her she is an expert in all things lungs and i am grateful that she took the time on a weekend to speak to me she is thorough and i wish we lived closer to her i told her that i had a hard time believing that ryan has had this disease for most of his life as i ve watched ryan over the past 2 years and i ve seen his lungs change i just can t bring myself to believe that he s been dealing with this since he was 2 if that was the case why didn t he have cysts at the age of 10 she agreed with me she too said she didn t think there was any way that he s had this forever she said whatever caused ryan s bronchiolitus obliterans is static it came in and did its damage and then it left we discussed viruses that could have cause the damage i ve always felt that it was chemotherapy that did the damage i still believe that it had a role in shaping his lungs for this outcome but i don t believe that the chemotherapy was the absolute cause other things happened it just doesn t make sense that he was fine for 11 years and then all of a sudden he wasn t i asked her to be completely frank with me as the surgeons have spent time with me over the past few days they have made ryan s prognosis direly grim yesterday the surgeon told me that ryan would make cysts with his lungs for the rest of his life over and over again i couldn t help picturing his lungs just constantly filling with these nasty air pockets i asked our doctor if we should expect to enjoy our last days with ryan or if she really felt like he could get past this and live a long life i asked her if we could do a lung transplant if one good lung would be better than two bad ones she talked to me about ryan s lung function studies and how they haven t really changed over the past 3 years she said that if he were in dire circumstances his lung function would be worse she said that he is not close to being sick enough for a lung transplant and that it would be our last resort dr conrad recommended a different treatment regimen for ryan s lungs she explained in detail how the air trapping works and what we can do to clear those airways on a more consistent basis we will take her recommendations and we will hopefully prolong the use of his lungs in essence we will now have a new way of life i will do everything to have him one more day posted by deni at 7 49 am no comments sunday october 09 2016 stages of grief i m a firm believer of the different stages of grief what is rarely talked about in that process however is the realization that you can experience those stages in life not just in death on thursday evening at 5 30 i received a text message from ryan that said rapid onset of breathing problems left side not rising like normal called 911 i immediately called him and he could barely answer i told him to have his boss call me and that i was on my way so many things happened at the right time i was at the stop light by the freeway when the message came through so i was immediately able to flip around and head to him earlier in the day i had sent a lengthy email to his bos s letting him know of ryan s medical history and what to do if something happened of course i had no idea he would need help that day when i arrived at ryan s place of employment his two bosses were standing outside waiting for me such gentlemen i did my best to maintain composure and we talked as we rode the elevator to the 3rd floor they told me that ryan was calm and he was breathing and that the paramedics had been working on him as we entered the room one of his bosses said your son is brilliant he has a bright future i immediately replied without thinking yes if we can just keep him alive the paramedics briefed me on all that they had done o2 stats were normal ekg normal i gave them his lung history and told them that our concern was that he could have a collapsed lung they listened to him and said he sounds fine ok sounds normal i asked if he had a fever ryan has a lower body temperature than most people so if he is fevering it will register as a normal body temperature 98 6 is a low grade fever for him ryan s temp was 96 4 normal one of the paramedics then told me that i needed to make sure that ryan was seen by his primary care physician by the following morning i replied that ryan would be seen by someone tonight we weren t waiting until morning the paramedics then told me that they did not recommend that he be transported via ambulance as all of his vitals checked out they helped ryan up and he walked less than 10 steps and said he couldn t take another step he was then loaded on to the stretcher and they told me to meet them in the parking lot and i could then take him on to be seen i stayed back for a couple of minutes to thank ryan s bosses for all that they had done to help ryan when i got to the hallway brett made the comment that i needed to hurry because the paramedics were waiting for me i got outside and ryan forcefully said ambulance the paramedic that had interacted with me the most said he wants a ride in the ambulance but just so you know he can either be in pain in your car or he can be in pain in the ambulance because we cannot give him medication i told them i d talk with ryan for a minute and i asked him if they could just walk the stretcher over to the car he said mom i can t make it in the car i need the ambulance i turned to the paramedic and told him that ryan preferred that he get a ride in the ambulance and that i would just meet them at the hospital ryan was transported by ambulance to utah valley hospital when they wheeled him in he was on oxygen i said oh things got worse and you put him on oxygen the gentleman replied oxygen was given to him by his request we re not sure he really needed it noted within minutes of him being in the er a chest x ray was preformed and we learned that his left lung had collapsed when the announcement was made the paramedics both hung their heads ryan was right he was in a state of emergency a great lesson to a group of paramedics who have never seen this before within the next 20 minutes or so a chest tube was placed and under heavy sedation ryan declared to everyone in the room that it feels much better to breathe with two lungs instead of one once ryan was stable they transported him to primary children s in salt lake city he spent the night in the picu and then we were moved to the regular floor by mid afternoon we don t know what caused the lung collapse there was speculation that he had formed more cysts in his left lung this time a ct scan was preformed friday night and there was a tiny cyst 4mm in size but nothing more i don t believe it was a cyst that caused the collapse ryan is now at a higher risk of lung collapse again a direct result of this awful lung disease tomorrow 10 10 16 ryan will have a lung procedure that will get the lung to adhere to the chest wall so what does this have to do with grief while my emotions are much more in check today than they were when i got here on thursday night i very much felt the stages of grief mostly anger i ve read stories of people who are so inspirational kids who have such a bright future brilliant kids who affect the lives of everyone they come in contact with i have shed tears as i ve read the stories of the young man with cancer who passed away just shy of graduating high school i ve mourned the loss of the stranger and now that stranger is my son a young man with such a bright future a boy with such brilliance that adults shake their heads at the vast knowledge that he shares i still don t know what lies ahead perhaps he will live a very long life but ryan s lungs are very very sick they are a silent invisible killer and all i can do is sit by and watch it all happen i m angry that i can t remove this cup from him i m angry at well meaning people who think they need to advise me on how to care for my son i m angry at the people who feel like this is their story to tell i m angry that i have to correct incorrect information i m angry that i have to teach medical professionals the very men and women whom i have to pay to care for my son my heart is tender as i anticipate sending him under the knife yet again a year ago i didn t know what to expect today i know exactly what to expect and i know that for the next few days i m going to sit and watch my son suffer i m going to beg nurses to please keep his meds on the clock around the clock i fear the loss i m trying so hard to allow ryan s mission on this earth to be fulfilled i m trying to understand if now is the time for him to leave his earthy home yet i m also trying to have as much hope as i can a hope that will allow him to heal and go to the masquerade ball in 2 weeks through every single day i know that i will still experience the stages of grief and every day i will get up and face the day posted by deni at 12 34 pm 4 comments tuesday february 09 2016 on borrowed faith it s been a long time since i had to lean on the faith of others i have been blessed in my life to know certain things i ve had experiences that have taught me lessons in which i cannot deny that there is a higher power who in all his wisdom strengthens me when i am weak as the world around me spirals downward i often find myself grasping for any lifeline i can find on those days i am fortunate to have my past experiences recalled to my mind there are just too many things that have happened to me for me to deny there is a god even knowing what i know though ryan s surgery was a trial i don t care to repeat i have contemplated whether or not to share my thoughts on my blog but they aren t going away perhaps there is someone out there that could benefit from my story two years ago we were sitting in church and our bishop began reading a list of names of people in our area who could use our faith and prayers he had asked if we minded if ryan was added to the list we discussed it as a family and we felt that it was ok to include ry as the names were read my heart began to pound and my body began to shake i knew his name was coming we had been private about our situation until that point fast sunday was a week away and the bishop had asked the ward to please fast and pray for everyone he had named ryan s name was on the list with 2 cancer patients i think the fact that he made the list made it all the more real to me that we were in a serious situation fast sunday came and the meetings went as usual as i was walking out the door that day a father stopped me and let me know that his 5 year old twins fasted for ryan i was completely overcome with emotion fasting for 2 solid meals or sometimes a full 24 hours is hard these two young kids wanted ryan to get better and they felt like it was important that they fast for him wow fast forward 2 years and here we are sitting in a hospital room our entire family felt like we were going to be saying goodbye to ryan for the last time every one of us i prepared myself for it even though i knew i wasn t ready i was prepared to submit my will to my heavenly father s if it was time to call ryan home i knew that i would be supported in some way day 2 for ryan was difficult pain levels were so high and as i sat on the couch watching his back arch and his respiratory rate soar i prayed all i could do was pray pray for relief pray for his body to heal he was alive after surgery i just needed him to be alive to bring him home i asked in my prayer why when we all felt that he wouldn t make it through surgery was he still with us my mind was taken back to that sunday two years earlier to two 5 year old twins who were fasting for my son i was then reminded of the hundreds of people who were praying for him now it was not my faith that was keeping him here it was theirs the miracle that i so desperately wanted was being granted because of the faith and prayers of so many people i was living on borrowed faith posted by deni at 9 03 pm 4 comments wednesday february 03 2016 pinch y lobe over the past few days we ve enjoyed looking back at brett s blog and laughing at the things the kids have said and done our kids love pinching each other s ear lobes i don t know why it s something they do sydney has made a deal with ryan that he can only pinch every other day today sydney yelled to ryan ry what time is it he replied it s pinch y lobe o clock posted by deni at 4 14 pm no comments tuesday november 17 2015 going home we ve been away from home for 17 days when we originally decided to go to california we were told to plan on 10 days in all reality i thought we would be gone a week although deep down i knew this trip wouldn t be predictable there was something different about all of it ryan was released from the hospital on sunday he still has air around his lungs but they believe his body will eventually absorb it we have stopped 1 2 way so that we aren t driving late in to the night i love ryan my heart aches for him his lungs are thick he will have to always be vigilant about his health i think hearing the surgeon say that a normal lung can be picked up like a sheet and ryan s lung was dense was more of a realization to me that he has been affected by a serious disease i believe we have experienced miracles with ryan the past 2 weeks ry didn t feel like he was going to make it out of surgery he wrote a goodbye message to his friends he teared up as he was wheeled away he told me he didn t think he was ever going to see me again in this life so many people prayed for him their prayers were heard and answered he is alive he still feels pain he loves more than anyone i know his mind is so wonderful he is brilliant and kind and his sister and his mom and dad get to enjoy him for a bit longer we re going home posted by deni at 8 01 pm 1 comment saturday november 14 2015 still here it s saturday and we are still here we have now been in the hospital for almost 2 weeks ry is ready to get out of here and i don t blame him yesterday they removed the chest tube the air leak seemed to have resolved itself and so they decided to remove the tube the plan was to remove the tube and then take a chest x ray in the morning i went to the ronald mcdonald house last night at 7 30 ryan had fallen asleep and i went ahead and went to get some sleep of my own i read for a couple of hours and had lights out at 10 i woke up at 6 45am this morning and got up and showered i didn t want to be too late getting to the hospital as i didn t want ryan to be alone too long and i wanted to be able to speak with the doctors by the time i got to the hospital at 7 30 the doctors had already come and gone and a chest x ray had been taken ryan s lung was collapsing boo they ordered another x ray at noon and as the radiology tech was leaving the room the doctor came in and looked at the image there had been no change since morning this was good n...