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if you have given the same note three times dev community skip to content navigation menu search powered by algolia search log in create account dev community close add reaction like unicorn exploding head raised hands fire jump to comments save boost pick as gem more copy link copy link copied to clipboard share to x share to linkedin share to facebook share to mastodon share post via report abuse asael shinder posted on sep 15 if you have given the same note three times asaelshinder feedback leadership teamwork you have raised it three times now the tests the commit messages the habit of going quiet when a task gets difficult each time they nodded and each time nothing changed the temptation at this point is to say it a fourth time louder or to give up and start describing them as someone who does not take feedback both of those skip the interesting question which is why a reasonable person heard a reasonable request three times and did not act on it there are only a few answers and they need different responses they did not understand what you were asking this is the most common one by a distance and it hides because people nod at things they half understood write better tests is a category not an instruction replace it with one concrete example and a finish line on the next pull request add one test for the failure case as well as the happy path and i will review it with you they disagreed and did not say so ask directly and make it safe to answer is this something you think is wrong or something you have not got to if they do disagree you now have a real conversation instead of a repeating one they agree and cannot this is the one that most often gets misread as attitude there is a deadline from someone else a tool that makes it painful a dependency they do not control ask what makes it hard and listen to the answer as information about the system rather than an excuse they agree intend to and forget memory is not a process attach it to something that fires on its own a checklist item a pull request template line a lint rule a standing item in the review and consider the last possibility honestly the note might be a preference of yours dressed up as a standard if you cannot explain what goes wrong when it is ignored it may not be worth a fourth conversation if it really is important and nothing shifts stop repeating it and name the consequence once calmly and specifically repetition without consequence teaches people that your feedback is weather it arrives and it passes asael shinder top comments 0 subscribe personal trusted user create template templates let you quickly answer faqs or store snippets for re use submit preview dismiss code of conduct report abuse are you sure you want to hide this comment it will become hidden in your post but will still be visible via the comment s permalink hide child comments as well confirm for further actions you may consider blocking this person and or reporting abuse asael shinder follow joined aug 13 2026 more from asael shinder your manager will have more people and less time for you asaelshinder future management career the bug went through a review you approved asaelshinder feedback codereview teamwork a friend referred you and you feel you did not earn it asaelshinder confidence career impostersyndrome dev community a space to discuss and keep up software development and manage your software career home dev challenges dev videos dev education tracks dev help advertise on dev organization accounts dev showcase about contact free postgres database dev shop mlh code of conduct privacy policy terms of use built on forem the open source software that powers dev and other inclusive communities made with love and ruby on rails dev community 2016 2026 we re a place where coders share stay up to date and grow their careers log in create account