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n the crib is free and clear for the next occupant so why are we discussing toddler beds or maybe we pay a really good price for a piece of furniture that never gets used because we have a convertible crib that we could try to get him to sleep in or we can let him sleep on the floor for a while because it works and he likes it shouldn t he be sleeping in a bed though i don t know does it matter as long as he s safe and getting enough sleep i mean let s think about this for a second who is this whole thing a problem for and isn t that the question every parent should be asking who is this really a problem for me my kid my spouse or all those people telling us how things are supposed to be who is formula feeding a problem for who is breastfeeding a problem for who is toilet training a problem for who the hell is telling me what i m supposed to be doing and what do they care whether or not it works for my family we left the store without a bed and more importantly without the intention of buying one our son slept 7 hours on his floor bed that night before waking and 3 more hours after that once i d snuggled him back to sleep so i ask again who is this bed thing a problem for not for my husband because he doesn t do night duty not for me because if i have to snuggle i d rather have the space to do so and certainly not for my son who has never slept anywhere so well as he does on his floor bed this bed thing is only a problem for the voices in our heads that tell how things should be the voice of our moms and our neighbors and our coworkers who all say this is what you have to do with children this is the only way to raise them right if he doesn t sleep in a big boy bed now then he never will i call bullshit on all of it let the kid sleep where he sleeps let the parents make the best decisions for their children and for god s sake let s all stop insisting that there is only one right way to raise children it s not true it never was so let s let it goooooo the one above the one july 30 2016 edajvor leave a comment i fell victim to too late coffee the other night inconveniently on the same night my son fell asleep 90 minutes early sure i could have done some serious writing in that amount of time but i watched the matrix instead i m not unhappy with my choice but as i m watching the scene where neo and morpheus spar in the training program and thinking how does one achieve that kind of speed mouse says take a look at his neurokinetics they re way above normal is neurokinetics a real thing by the way a rudimentary google search seems to think not anyway what if neo is just a genius what if that s why he s the fastest what if that s what makes him the one and if that s true i bet walter o brien the character would be faster in the matrix also i bet he would look exactly as he does in real life except that his shirt would never come untucked and i bet his hacker name would be walterobrien this is all just to say that i m looking forward to the return of scorpion this fall and that i really need to regulate my coffee intake vacation from your problems july 28 2016 july 28 2016 edajvor leave a comment whenever i finish a piece i ve been working on for a while i go on a little mental vacation i don t do it on purpose it s actually a little frustrating but i took this seminar once where the speaker told us that whenever you can you should let your brain do what it wants if it wants to sleep and you can take a break from your activity to nap do it if it wants to wander and you have nothing pressing that needs your attention let it my brain wants to stop living other people s lives for a little while and my own life is so lovely right now i m just gonna go ahead and concentrate on that i give it about 3 more days before it starts making up stories again read for free why not july 25 2016 edajvor leave a comment how would you like some free reads yes well here you go i just published my newest short story on the free reader platform tablo check it out browbeaten not broken read it here on tablo john frederick is a bulldozer of a man who probably should have been fired long ago when his dad is diagnosed with cancer will it change his tune or will he lose his cool workplace bullying cancer research hate crime and check out my other free to read short stories listed on my home page montage me a summer july 23 2016 july 23 2016 edajvor leave a comment i enjoy the concept of things more than the actuality of them which is probably why i m a writer take the beach for example i love the idea of the beach sand squishing between the toes sunlight warming the skin salty sea air ahhhh but the reality of the beach is stinky salt air sunburn and sand everywhere no funsies this is all to say that i ve become addicted to baywatch not for the clever plot lines or well developed characters because there are none of those things but those montages i previously mocked are actually kind of wonderful i get to watch other people enjoying the things i can t stand doing myself sunning swimming skiing sky diving surfing and other outdoor activities that don t start with s also there s an undeniable 90s nostalgia factor especially with clothing and hairstyles ruined childhoods and inherited bigotry july 23 2016 edajvor 1 comment i started this blog as shameless self promotion of my writing but i m finding myself lecturing a lot lately and i m not sure how to feel about it this post is no different i ll try to write it well i guess the children and teens i work with are generally the most lovely thoughtful intelligent young people i ve ever known and i delight in speaking with them to the point where we often lose track of the lesson they re actually there to learn just this past week someone mentioned ghostbusters and that conversation went on just long enough for me to feel guilty i didn t move them along sooner but it was gratifying to see a group of both boys and girls of different ethnic backgrounds and religions having a pleasantly respectful conversation about an apparently divisive film some of them said they thought it would be funnier some of them said it wasn t enough like the original some of them said it was too much like the original most of them said it was really pretty great and they wouldn t mind seeing it again but there was one boy a white upper middle class 11 year old christian boy who took the discussion to that other place that place where reason and discourse goes to die the kid became a walking comments section regurgitating all of the small minded bigoted hate filled inanity that has plagued the film from its announcement without the swearing or the slurs obviously because i would have kicked him right the hell out the original ghostbusters came out in 1984 i was elementary aged and didn t see it until at least a year later when my dad bought it on vhs i loved it because it was funny and exciting and different than a lot of what i had seen before ghostbusters 2 came out in 1989 as i approached adolescence that one i may have actually seen in the theater and loved just as hard possibly more so than the original because the walking statue of liberty and the people of new york banding together to spread lovey peacey thoughts was a simple symbol of hope and inspiration in my young mind this kid on the other hand was born in what 2005 almost 20 years after the first came out the cartoon based on the movie went off air 14 years before he was born ectocooler changed its name 8 years before he was born i can guarantee you that this kid s childhood was not ruined by adding ovaries to his favorite show so where oh where did the hate come from memes and repetition by biased and or unreliable parties the same place too large a chunk of americans get their news and form their political opinions why else would he be preaching the gospel of bill murray and dan aykroyd with absolute ignorance of their roles in or praise of the new film he hadn t even seen it and there s no way he was going to he asserted because it ll just ruin the experience of the original as i stood there listening to him mocking and shaming and mindlessly repeating the opinions of others i had to make a choice do i call him out this kid who doesn t even really understand what he s saying or why or what the connotations are in this room full of girls and poc it s not entirely his fault that his role models are dipshits and bigots i ve been reminded on more than a few occasions that children don t always realize they ve been brainwashed by their family members until they grow up and move out and experience the world for themselves forming opinions of their own and disregarding the untruths they were conditioned to believe in their youth but at the same time isn t it my job as a role model to provide an alternate perspective isn t it my role as a leader in this small community to inspire positive change and help question negative assumptions but the whole situation was making me unreasonably angry which isn t a good place to teach from at all in the end i was saved from having to make a decision at all as one of the older boys a muslim in fact interrupted my thought process by gushing about holtzmann which steered the entire conversation in her direction it s not hard to get distracted by holtzmann and minutes later i shushed them all and urged them to focus on the task at hand putting a pin in the conversation until our session ended but i m still thinking about the snarky white kid and his meme inspired rhetoric i m grateful for all of the students who allowed opinions other than their own to be spoken without mockery i m even more grateful for the students who seemed to understand that the movie was kind of a big deal in terms of equity teen girls mostly but that one kid that one kid is the reason stereotypes persist why sexism is pervasive and why old hates don t die the old bigots hand it down like family heirlooms insisting on their value despite the rot and rust that holds them together maybe the opportunity will arise again to provide another perspective or at least to challenge him to reconsider what he s been told maybe it doesn t matter what i say because my voice will never drown out the bigotry that surrounds him at home just like the larger issues i have no control over there s only so much i can do and that is so very frustrating the kind of fear that follows you home july 21 2016 edajvor leave a comment if you are or ever have been a woman you may know a little something about sexual harassment you may have seen a little sexual assault you may have experienced a little economic sexual physical verbal emotional or psychological abuse list source and by may i mean definitely and by a little i mean at minimum a little but more likely a lot not to say that abuse is for women only but i know men who have no idea what i m talking about i do not know any women that ignorant of reality the point is that it seems having experienced these things can shrink a person it can make their voices smaller it can make them try to take up less physical space it can rob them of ambition and that s without having tried to take a stand a lot of times the people who try to fight back are beaten down even harder i don t speak for leslie jones but girl got a beatdown without even trying and while i am thoroughly inspired by her response i m also scared stop letting the ignorant people be the loud ones be louder leslie jones that doesn t mean i won t do anything it doesn t mean that i ve lost my voice obviously because i m here blogging about it but when i think about the extent to which i want to get involved a large part of what holds me back is fear because as much as i d hate to lose twitter followers or derail my efforts to be a writer or bring about some criticism that s not the worst that can happen and women far more so than men know that to be true i ve never received a death threat but i imagine it s terrifying for famous people who are so often out in public in the company of strangers and often relying on strangers assistants interns pages production assistants to do their jobs the truth is that anyone could get to them if they were truly motivated as a paranoid person this idea scares the hell out of me as a fairly newish mother who still can t bring herself to fully engage world news because it will most assuredly send me into a spiral of anxiety and depression this idea has been firmly planted in a compartment of my brain that i don t access unless i m feeling extra safe and mind you i am not so much a public person i have a short list of the places i go on a regular basis i talk to very few people i don t already know and i always heed sam hanna s advice on tradecraft what was he thinking leaving at the same time every day running the same route buying coffee at the same store every day but the threat of violence from someone who vigorously disagrees with my stand against the isms of the world is real to me not because i ve experienced it personally but because i ve seen it happen to others so many times i love what leslie said with my whole heart i want to be louder i want to shout down the horrible hate fueled trolls but i m scared i m scared for my safety for my family for my livelihood hell i m scared for my mental health because after a day like leslie had retweeting her hate messages i would surely crawl into a hole and never come out and that s why the haters win because the good people are too scared to expose themselves that s not so much a problem for the haters since many of them are so very good at hiding behind fake social media accounts so what do we do what do good people do to help when they re too scared to make themselves a target when they feel like they have too much to lose in defending themselves never mind someone else small acts and diligent effort that s my answer to what can you do to make the world better i ve never been a protester so much as an educator i ve never been one to yell my opinions to a group when i can have a quiet conversation with an individual it s not revolutionary on a large scale but it s not nothin either it allows me to contribute without risking my safety or sanity it s a way for good people to get involved without having to be so scared god bless the loudmouths who can stand in front of a crowd literally or digitally and call bullshit when they see it the world needs people like that but for those of us who can t do the same there s still work to do small acts and diligent effort to make the world a better place bustin makes me feel good too july 19 2016 edajvor 2 comments you know what though my husband said on the way home from seeing ghostbusters last night i think the best thing about the whole movie was holtzmann she was funny and weird and smart and badass i think she s my new girlfriend mine too i called her first i call her harder this is abbie mills all over again little did we know at the time that the entire i...