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oil life after the oil crash posts tagged rape on trusting men posted by a birch tree on july 16 2008 when i logged on today the finches said to me tree don t get sidetracked we ve got a huge post on transgenderism transphobia to research and we ll probably have enough grist left afterwards for another fact dump you ve got three hours use them wisely then just as i got started i ran into the furor surrounding kyle payne a self proclaimed radical pro feminist blogger and sexual assault advocate is arrested for raping and photographing an unconcious student at buena vista university where he is a resident advisor i read that post and my stomach churned i read some of the other links back and did a quick google on the situation and my stomach positively flipped over you know how they say child molestors will try to find jobs or homes where they have easy access to children that s exactly the kind of thing this man did he had a rape fetish and put himself into a position to be close to the kinds of victims he fantasized about he listened to and probably got off on stories of women s nightmares from the mouths of the victims themselves who had no idea that they were being re victimized right there in his presence he was finally caught acting on his deviant fantasies by the university and the police when they found his homemade rape porn on his computer some comments in this blog claim that his computers were originally siezed in a search for child pornography and that it is stated in the search warrant records i haven t looked up that information myself but you know what it wouldn t surprise me at all how many women poured their stories of trauma and terror to this man only to have him masturbate about them how many women will be afraid to take advantage of services for rape victims due to the harm this man has caused so many women and most importantly how many women did he rape that he didn t videotape this is exactly why men should not be working with rape victims in an advocate or crisis counselor capacity men cannot be trusted maybe if i m feeling generous i might allow for the idea that not all men do this and there are some loving caring wonderfully fuzzy happy men who work in this field for the sense of personal fulfillment blah blah blah i can t for the life of me figure out how someone could justify forcing the vulnerable traumatized women who call these centers to take such a significant risk of re victimization just because there might be a dude somewhere who has bucked his sociosexual training enough not to take advantage of every perceived position of power over women to fulfill his own sense of entitlement to among other things feelings of control and sexual titillation is a man s desire innocently and helpfully motivated as it may be to work in this specific field really worth more than women s desires not to have to worry about being re victimized is this issue really so important for men that it s worth making rape victims add an extra set of anxieties on top of the ones resulting from the rape itself for example will is did my rape crisis counsellor get getting off on the story of my brutal rape was is that exciting for him does he want to rape me too the only people that the whole women shouldn t automatically distrust men because we re not all rapists meme benefits are rapists any man who gives a shit about women and their daily struggles wouldn t be offended by distrust or suspicion any man who is trying to toss his load of priviledge and entitlement would welcome the opportunity to prove his general good ness via a slow progression of time over which he demonstrates in all his behaviors large and small in all social and private contexts that he is not a dickwad rather than simply having the assumption made that because he has a penis he is the embodiment of all that is upstanding and trustworthy in spite of the intense rate at which crimes against women are perpetrated by penis wielders in this society as far as this specific case is concerned the ripples from this man s actions continue to spread some blogs go so far as to take his actions as an indictment of the anti pornography movement paraphrase see people who don t use porn are the really dangerous repressed ones with scary dark sides this guy proves it some people say the radical feminist movement should have to answer for this dude since he claimed to be among their number and linked to a bunch of their blogs lots of people are really quick to blame women for either this man s actions or for trusting him to begin with fingers point fur flies this man s crimes are used to futher unrelated personal vendettas at the expense of his victims women who had no idea this man even existed are called to task for not denouncing him we live in patriarchy after all everything bad a man ever does can eventually be used to shame blame or discredit a woman or two the status quo marches on a birch tree how do i make this and some of the above assumptions pretty simple actually he s a rapist he committed rape and he presumably got off on rape ergo this man gets off on rape ergo he probably got off on accounts of rape his victims gave him turning it into an even sicker form of pornography posted in feminism liberal men rape uncategorized tagged feminism male pro feminis rape 4 comments on a pervaisve myth posted by a birch tree on april 16 2008 apparently i m supposed to believe that the vast majority of rape cases are actually not rape cases but regretful women trying to salvage their reputation or spiteful women trying to get back at a man who wronged them by the slightest measure or hedonistic pleasure seeking sluts who get so drunk they don t remember what happened but know they secretly hate men so much in spite of being sluts that they ll just assume they were raped oh or confused or emotionally damaged women who send mixed signals and seem to want it but flummox the poor dudely later when she says he raped her this seems to be the going idea in this country today the fact that 94 of rape cases end without a conviction is supposed to be evidence that 94 of women are liars i m confused though how can we say the above and really believe that as a society while still claiming we don t hate women how can we accuse an entire gender of being so inherently untrustworthy and still claim not to be misogynist when a man reports a crime he s believed nobody tells a carjacking victim that he probably just loaned his car to his buddy and regretted it the next morning nobody instantly assumes that a robbery victim is just trying to frame a guy who scuffed his pumas and certainly nobody who was injured by a drunk driver is accused of being at equal or greater fault because he was also drunk at the time but that s men and men are held to different standards we belive men we empathize with men we love men women are our shadow selves our opposites the repository for our psychological projection of every dark nasty undesireable truth about ourselves men lie all the time espcially about women in all contexts but we say women are horrible fickle liars and we re poorly equipped to handle it poor us we say that women are emotional and prone to extreme reactions about petty things even though afaik no woman has ever stomped anyone to death in an argument over a video game men claim that women are illogical and incapable of rational thought while simultaneously putting male logic tm on a pedestal if you re not familiar with male logic tm it s the kind of thinking that says men are evolutionarily hard wired to lust after big breasts because of some ancient child bearing advantage that big breasts actually embody the opposite of since they can be more difficult for infants to latch onto that dumping trillions upon trillions of tons of heat trapping gas into the atmosphere over two hundred years can t possibly have any negative effect on the planet or its temperatures whatsoever and that women will lie about a crime to frame men even though men get away scott free 9 out of 10 times and only after their lawyers completely ruin the lives of said women in a world where men still rape women women are not free or equal period this is the year 2008 and we as humans simply by virtue of having ten thousand odd years of moral development between our ears should be some nine thousand nine hundred and ninety two years past this shit at worst men rape women lots of men are raping lots of women every single day what are the statistics now something like one out of three american women and one out of four british women will be raped in their lifetime with women of color suffering disproportionately more and yet male logic tm spins itself into a tizzy as men try to convince themselves and their victims that rape is rare not so bad or entirely nonexistent while at the same time encouraging a whole host of behaviors meant to enable them to get into the pants of unwilling women and calling them shady or being a player but not rape i ll definitely have more on this subject tomorrow but due to circumstances beyond my control i m limited for computer time for a few days sorry i couldn t post something a bit less duh and a bit more hard hitting but between my ankle and some other frustrating factors i had to put out what i had before i was actually ready i ll see if i can t fix that pretty quick and be back on my ball here by friday or so posted in feminism tagged feminism rape leave a comment no shades of gray posted by a birch tree on april 9 2008 so late last year this article about a panel on gray rape came out in the new york times actually it s an article about what a panel of experts said about another article but i digress i was pointed to it and found much to my great consternation a blog post that will pretty much write itself the article aside from the lousy nickname given to a class of acts that as far as i can tell are pretty clearly rape with no gray attached was pretty good the panel they had discussing the topic was very bright and articulate some excerpts with my comments he said that intentionally or not the article might have the effect of suggesting that you can be a woman in charge of your own sexuality but not too much because these are the consequences that will happen to you the article didn t just suggest that basically all of western society has been outright screaming that at women for decades now it s a great disincentive for women to take the proffered control of their own sexual pleasure because doing so involves intense risks which the woman must bear alone and if any of those risks manifest themselves it was her own fault for not being careful enough it is nice however to see a paper like the nyt acknowledge that message even if it does so from the roots of a big hedge ms banfield maintained that gray areas remained one of the most fraught areas in discussions of sexual violence especially on college campuses she cited the case of adam lack a brown university student who in 1996 was accused by a fellow student of sexual misconduct the accuser said she could not remember the events of the evening but said she was too intoxicated to be able to consciously consent to sex mr lack maintained that the student had initiated the sexual encounter and that he was not aware she was drunk no criminal charges were brought but mr lack was subjected to academic discipline this is just one example of how we try to use patented male logic tm under this model it is far more probable that men in these situations who have every possible reason to lie their fool heads off are inherently trustworthy while the women in these situations who have every possible disincentive in the world to ever tell anyone the truth about what happened are assumed to be lying bitches we are making the assumption that when it comes to a man s story and a woman s uncertainty or even her certainty to the contrary in many cases the obvious choice for our benefit of the doubt is the dude even when said dude s story is obviously suspect case in point he was not aware she was drunk oh come on how stupid are we expected to pretend to be in order to give these guys a pass if she was so inebriated that she can t remember events except for a fuzzy impression and the distinct emotional feeling of violation thus why she said anything at all about it how can anyone from an adult male to a small child to a half braindead jack russel terrier not notice any level of intoxication about her is this girl such an intense alcoholic that she doesn t even appear tipsy or carry the scent of alcohol when so drunk as to succumb to backouts not to mention dude gives away his knowledge with his choice of weasel words i ll probably make a post about weasel words sometime but take it for now that i am an expert having made liberal use of weasel words in my less than illustrious past as a nasty predatory fuckstain specifically look at the phrase was not aware she was drunk i can only assume that means he said something to the effect of i didn t know she was drunk because if he maintained she was not drunk he would have said she wasn t drunk and the article would have said mr lack maintained that the student was not drunk a natural reaction to being told that girl you fucked was drunk as a skunk when you had no evidence to that effect so much so that you believe having sex with her to be a perfectly ethical act would be to say something to the effect of no she wasn t she was sober because if you don t know she s drunk you ll perceive her as sober and thus your reality will conflict with what you are being told and as a male our reality is always right so we endeavor as a first instinct to correct the person who is presenting an untrue version of reality by providing the real one imagine a dude that car is stolen b no way i bought that car from joe and i ve known him since i was 4 vs a dude that car is stolen b i didn t know this car was stolen vs a dude that car...