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s christchurch new zealand solo traveler travel writer author tuesday november 7 2023 announcement i ve retired after about twenty years of use my goddady wordpress blog kiwitravelwriter wordpress com is no more that is sad but now i can do other things not sure what they will be i m just exploring that one day at a time right now i m thinking of writing a blog about my current trip to christchurch it must be all the cruise ship passengers giving me the urge posted by heather the kiwitravelwriter at 10 55 am no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest labels christchurch kiwitravelwriter l travel thursday july 4 2019 looking forward to the heat food and culture and writing about it all want to follow my next travels july august 2019 here are your choices my travel stories blog www kiwitravelwriter wordpress com sign up to get an email when i publish a blog travel photos as i go https www instagram com kiwitravelwriter regular updates about my travels https www facebook com thetravellingwriter posted by heather the kiwitravelwriter at 8 55 am no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest labels blogging cambodia hong kong photos se asia taiwan travel tales vietnam tuesday june 18 2019 hello rugby nz i sent this to the nz rugby union board 24 th april 2019 the topic line said to the rugby union please forward to the board chair brent and crusaders grant and all board members to brent impey grant jarrold and your boards this is an open letter to you and other rugby fans i am 73 year old all blacks canterbury and crusaders fan i ve been a one eyed cantabrian since i began as a child listening to the games on the radio and or standing on the embankment at lancaster park with my dad i also expected my younger son to play for canterbury he played for shirley and once in a junior team played for canterbury sadly his coach father died when he was 12 and then at 15 a motorbike accident saw his leg being ripped off at the groin killing his dreams and expectations of a rugby future the reason i m writing is that i want to have my say as i ve not signed any petition or been included in any poll i also believe a letter is of more value than a signature i want the name crusaders to change i m glad the extras have been stopped and i hope the horse and knights will never return in any form i was disturbed no actually i was horrified when the team was named in the mid 90s but put it down to ignorance of history and assumed most people fans would be ignorant too that passive acceptance on my part changed in an instant when the white supremacist terrorist killed muslims in my home city i live in wellington now but you can take the girl out of the city but not the city out of the girl you don t need a history lesson from me others more qualified will have advised you i also don t believe a nation wide poll should drive your decision either just do the right thing for all of us a decision you will be able to capitalise on as proof of a team of honourable inclusive diverse people please do not consult the local mosques unless the first question is do you want to have a say about a name change you would just be setting them up for more vitriol when you change the name people not wanting a name change will blame them entirely without a name change this topic will come up every year will fans like me be able to wear our jerseys with pride not really we will still love our team no matter its name or rankings but keeping the name and branding will cause issues for us fans too if we can t wear our red and black with pride i suspect many will lose interest please consider these points when you vote about the name change long before the new season starts so we and you can buy the new red and black kit i look forward to hearing from you heather hapeta here s their bounced back reply 24 th april i ve received nothing more kia ora thanks for contacting new zealand rugby we greatly appreciate you taking the time to email us we ll do our best to respond to you as soon as possible however we are currently experiencing a high volume of emails and may require an extra few days if your email is about all blacks schedule public appearances tickets or for signed memorabilia for charity please go to http www allblacks com contact for all other questions and queries we ll come back to you as soon as possible nga mihi info nz rugby info posted by heather the kiwitravelwriter at 11 15 am no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest labels crusaders new zealand rugby union open letter rugby friday march 15 2019 climate change worldwide protests wellington new zealand the photos speak for themselves repost as long as my copyright photos are acknowledged posted by heather the kiwitravelwriter at 2 45 pm no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest tuesday february 19 2019 review of surviving suicide a mothers story surviving suicide a mother s story by heather hapeta goodreads author pip adam s review oct 07 2012 really liked it like many people suicide has been a part of my life from an early age i found surviving suicide a mother s story a very helpful book although thankfully it has been almost a year since the last suicide in our family i still gained a lot of information and hope from this book the book begins with a detailed retelling of the author s experience of her son s suicide hapeta recounts this time in an intimate way explaining exactly how she felt and what she did in the time leading up to the suicide as she tried to help her son recover from the debilitating affects of a serious accident when she found her son s body after his suicide and in the time following i found this account very affecting and the detail was extremely helpful i have found that we often talk in abstracts about suicide with our relatives and friends but to read a detailed account of one person s experience was very useful i could relate to many of the experiences hapeta recounts and i found it quite helpful to compare my own experience with hers both the similarities and the differences in this section hapeta also talks about what worked and what didn t during this time in her son s life and death i m not sure what it would be like reading this account closer to a suicide but i found it very helpful the second section of the book i am not sure the book is as clearly delineated as i am presented it as hapeta s voice continues into the second section which is great because its easy tone and direct language is part of what makes this book so helpful offers some invaluable advice concerning a large range of things this makes the book an extremely useful handbook to have in the time of a suicide this section begins with some lists about how to deal with the time directly after the suicide and comes from both hapeta s personal experience and her word as a grief cousellor there is one particular list which helps friends of people surviving suicide might help them i remember hapeta giving me this list a long time ago after a friend died and i found it useful then and i think it is still useful now as well as guidance on how to navigate the emotional landscape of suicide hapeta offers pragmatic advice about the law and the media i think this is an extemely important part of what makes this book so successful i remember directly after the suicide of a close friend whose will i was the executor of being inundated with legal requirements which i didn t understand i m not sure i would have been robust enough to read these sections of this book but if i had a copy i am sure someone close to me could have read these and clarified what needed to be done this legal information deals mainly with new zealand law but i feel that if you are an overseas reader it would act as a checklist of things to ask legal experts about i also found hapeta s sections about the media very helpful there is a lot of publicity about whether the media should report suicide and hapeta offers really intelligent and caring recommendations about how to deal with this that again come from her unique experience as suicide survivor and professional this book is unique i believe i have never read anything quite like it the blend of personal and professional experience is invaluable my hope is that no one will every need a book about suicide again but i suspect they will and if they do i think this is a very good option this book is avaibake on amazon posted by heather the kiwitravelwriter at 8 41 am no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest labels book book review grief how to survive a suicide suicide bereavement sunday september 10 2017 tips to about how to help after a suicide death how to help after a suicide death remember despite the headlines suicide deaths are numerically small and the grief from this form of death is different however i know and so do many many others it is possible to survive the pain here are a few suggestions learnt from my own pain and the experience of others when i was involved with the canterbury bereaved by suicide society do let us talk mostly we don t want your advice just your ears we need to voice what s going on in our head do respond honestly to our questions about the death don t remove tasks responsibilities or other actions unless we ask you to tidying our daughter s room sorting our husband s clothes or a father s office although painful these actions are often valued tasks that help us work through the pain just because it hurts doesn t mean we don t want to do these jobs we may just want to do it later when we are ready don t tell us it s not our fault that it s xyz s fault that it s god s will and that we ll find a meaning to this in time or any other conclusion you may have ours may be different your deductions may be true but we have to work through a process to arrive at our own answers each of us will grieve in our own way and come to our own solutions don t tell us that you know how we feel you don t even if you too had someone die by suicide try not to let your own sense of helplessness stop you reaching out to us some of the most helpful support i got was from people who said i don t know what to say i knew they were speaking from the heart do allow us our own feelings we will be working through anger disbelief hate love blame and every other human emotion there is we won t be doing it in a nice neat list like many grief books suggest it will be more like the tin of emotional worms i spoke of earlier each one wriggling and working their way from the top to the bottom then back up to the top again and again and again don t tell us what you would do or how you would feel if you were us you aren t us remember our grief will not be over in six weeks or six months we have at least a year of working through the initial intense pain the funeral the inquest then the first christmas the first birthday and the first anniversary of the death the funeral and every other important time that we shared with our loved one heather hapeta extract from surviving suicide a mother s story april 2012 isbn 978 0 473 20510 2 available free for e readers amazon posted by heather the kiwitravelwriter at 8 17 am no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest labels how to survive a suicide suicide bereavement tips to help what can i do saturday march 11 2017 apartment life and an apologies to wellington motorists twice a year my windows are professionally cleaned inside it s left to amateurs like me that s good as i m on the 4th floor and am scared of heights sadly for my fellow wellingtonians this means my street is converted to a one lane throughfare for a few hours sorry to have my windows hold you up every few months here s a photographic story of my street and window cleaners posted by heather the kiwitravelwriter at 12 03 pm no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest thursday june 18 2015 malaysian borneo one of my fav places a love letter to malaysian borneo or can this travel writer be green by heather hapeta there s no universally accepted definition of ecotourism and there are considerable overlaps in the meanings it s perhaps the most over used and misused word in the tourism industry often deliberately misused for marketing purposes hapeta say i m a self taught writer not a journalist or an ecologist this is not a scientific paper with lots of facts and figures merely the musings about green issues by a traveller who wants to walk as lightly as possible on earth she uses her trips to malaysian borneo as a way of exploring the issues she also says she is time rich i m a slow traveller so stay longer in more places than most trying to absorb the culture and flavours to sit and watch people it also means that although i don t always sign up for an expensive eco tour i do try to practise the principles of ecotourism this small book starts with her surrounded by noisy diesel fumed boats nudging each other racing their engines drivers manoeuvring so their passengers get the best view it made her wonder can a travel writer or any traveller really be green or is this just an oxymoronic dream given the air miles needed to get to destinations in this essay cum travel memoir she considers how green she was or wasn t while exploring this seething hotspot of bio diversity of an island quote from planet earth bbc tv she obviously agrees with malaysia s tourism tagline malaysia truly asia and this booklet is a good introduction to the island of borneo and green travel issues around the world hapeta has two other book available on amazon and other e sellers naked in budapest travels with a passionate nomad and surviving suicide a mother s story she writes travel blogs on www kiwitravelwriter wordpress com her facebook page is the travelling writer posted 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