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rls i don t know why like dimples they think they re cute the nose i m only borrowing for the moment but comes all the way from saudi arabia some sheikh lent it to me lots of oil i can still smell the oil and the money weird so yeah that s my face the rest of me like my legs and arms and all that i m not sure where they all came from hey these studio lights are hotter than usual i m burning up can somebody bring me some water i remember when i was maybe 6 years old and my daddy was still alive and he took me to kfc for i can t remember why i think i might have been sick the week before and he d promised me so we were sitting there in kfc and i had a different face back then and i was tiny my feet not touching the floor dangling above the floor and my daddy was eating a burger and i was too nothing really special happened i just remember it and i always remember it whenever i m sad or maybe it s that i get sad because i remember it hey where s that water can t somebody adjust these lights turn them down a bit no oh fuck it so you like the eyebrows what the forehead well the forehead i ordered off amazon over a month ago and it only arrived this morning so i m not used to it yet but it looks alright doesn t it comes from some country i can t remember the name beside what s that place finland no no not finland ukraine that s it somewhere near ukraine some former prime minister s forehead i like it makes me feel clever these the ears ha oh it s a long story but i ll try make it short see i really wanted these ears but they were in limited supply like there were only three sets of them in the whole world but they came from some special buddhist mountainous place so i thought now those ears must be good ears not floppy not like lazy you know but precise like a really good microphone like that one yeah christ where s my water hey my water jesus who hired these people but yeah i called the company about the ears and they said ahem ahem sorry sir but they ve been booked over a year ago shit i said but i ve never been one to give up that easily so i got into a plane and headed straight over to the place and i herded goats for a month in a field beside the monastery got to know the locals all that kind of thing like the shows you see on tv and the ears i used to have i cut them off outside the monastery yeah i was desperate but it worked and the monks came running out their orange robes flapping in the wind and saw me bleeding and gave me the special ears i left the monastery pretty soon after that s how i got the ears brain i stole from ha haha you were about to believe me that i stole my brain i had you going there for a second ha no the brain is mine the brain is mine posted in fiction tagged amazon buddhist cosmetics eyebrows eyes forehead japan kfc liechtenstein plastic surgery ukraine ukrainian prime minister leave a comment a brief inquiry into the dynamics of an argument posted on may 29 2012 by cornelius flint 1 a father and his seventeen year old son are arguing about the boy s future the father the boss of a lucrative coalmine slams his fist on his son s wooden desk you re going to new zealand for four years to study english new zealand but i want to stay in china i love china this is my home my friends are here no you re going to new zealand 2 on the conscious level the son believes his father is angry because he the son is not showing respect to his father and this is probably partly true what he doesn t realise is that a lot of his father s anger is in essence the temper tantrum of a child part of the tragedy here is that neither father nor son realise this the dynamics of their relationship and in particular their arguments remain unexcavated 3 the child within the adult encounters and clashes with the adult within the child thus their argument is violently stubborn and unrelenting and apparently beyond compromise 4 yet what makes this antagonism and hostility between father s inner child and teenage son s inner adult even more confusing and sad for both father and son is a lopsided confucian philosophy one that demands filial piety but not parental kindness although it could be argued that the parents believe their actions are rooted in kindness plus the belief that this culture or tradition of confucian hierarchy is as much a part of china as the mountains of sichuan for example thus it s not even that this tradition should not be questioned it s that it cannot be questioned like you can t question the yellow river can you it s just you know there the father whose perception of the argument is being shaped both by his inner child with all its self absorption and potential for tantrum and by his implicit awareness of confucian hierarchy my son should respect me cannot understand his son s verbal defiance his son s anger his son s failure to immediately comply the son s inner adult meanwhile cannot understand why his father will not allow him the responsibility of making his own decisions 5 but he will go the boy to new zealand and years later will return and he will be a haigui a sea tortoise speaking english with a kiwi accent and his exposure during formative years to whatever it is western culture signifies will even when he has returned to china have removed him psychologically from china in his hometown he ll feel like a foreigner and that s a very lonely thing to feel like a foreigner in your hometown more lonely than being a foreigner in a foreign place he ll have been doubly uprooted unable to fully fit in in new zealand and unable now after years in nz to fit in at home if the boy now young man was a character in a comic and a thought bubble spawned above his head here s what might be scribbled inside thank you father mother for what you have done to my mind where once i felt at home and connected now i feel lost and lonely dispossessed you ve made a homeless person out of me and now now you want me to get married to a girl i don t even love according to your clocks now it s time for me to get married am i allowed any say in anything at all i m 26 now no longer a child yet you persist in treating me like one i hate to think of it but in my darker moments i do sometimes think of it even though i love you i still love you i do but i kind of sometimes look forward to your deaths mom and dad posted in china communication fear loneliness tagged argument coalmine confucius disconnected dispossessed haigui hierarchy inner adult inner child new zealand psychology sea tortoise uprooted 1 comment for those who can play the ressikan flute posted on may 25 2012 by cornelius flint 1 a fortnight before returning to mississippi she said that her life in china was fake what she meant was that every experience she d had in china the people she d met the feelings she d had although significant and meaningful for her would when she returned home mean not very much if anything to her family and friends she would tell them about her two years in china but because they hadn t been there to share the experience they would never fully understand its significance it was strange she thought living in china like she wanted to connect and forge relationships put down some kind of roots even if tenuous and temporary but because she knew she was not going to live in china forever that she was soon going to return to the usa she sometimes wondered what was the point at all in trying to cultivate relationships what was the point in leaving her apartment and experiencing something that in a few years would seem unreal dreamlike 2 consistently voted by fans as one of the best episodes of star trek the next generation is an episode called the inner light here s a summary of the plot which i apologise and perhaps due to brevity does not get to the emotional core of the story the enterprise encounters a probe which directs an energy beam at captain picard knocking him unconscious he wakes up on the surface of the planet kataan where he meets a woman eline who says she s his wife and that he is kamin an iron weaver who has been suffering from a feverish illness losing memory of his life aboard the enterprise picard begins to live his life as kamin in the vllage of ressik he starts a family with eline and learns to play the flute he spends a lot of time outdoors studying nature and discovers that the planet is suffering from a drought caused by increasing radiation from the sun years pass kamin grows old his wife dies one day he is summoned by his adult children to watch the launch of a missile he sees his wife as young as when he first saw her he is told that he has already seen the missile just before he came to the planet knowing that the planet was doomed because of the sun s increasing radiation the leaders placed the memories of their culture into a probe and launched it into space hoping that it would find someone who could tell others about their species picard then realizes what has happened oh it s me isn t it he says i m the someone picard wakes up on the bridge of the enterprise only twenty five minutes have passed since he was knocked unconscious the probe is brought onboard within the probe is a small box opening the box picard finds kamin s flute he picks up the flute and puts it to his lips standing before a window looking out onto the cosmos picard plays a melody he learned during his life as kamin 3 the crux of all this is about wanting to not feel alone not being able to fully express something to another person is lonely and sad and happens in everyday life anyway even between the closest friends but such inability to express yourself is deepened and widened by having two lives one in one country another life in another two lives which except for you and the stories you tell and the photos you show and the flute you can play have little overlap you carry this entire other life around inside your head with you and because you can t 100 express it and know your friends will inevitably grow bored of the stories and photos you either little by little forget the past or perhaps once again up sticks and leave your native land and you end up a lonely wanderer full of stories to be sure the traveller has tales to tell to be sure but increasingly wary and afraid of making deep longlasting connections with people perhaps 4 her final weeks in china were vague homesickness was daily now unlike before she wasn t motivated to leave her apartment meet people and live now she spent most of her time sitting on her sofa macbook on her lap posted in china home loneliness media travel tagged ressikan flute star trek the inner light the next generation two lives leave a comment the rise and rise of the venting room posted on may 22 2012 by cornelius flint 1 in which a young man reads of the venting room with eyes wide open and heart beating faster than it had been only moments before the young man reads a story in the guizhou daily in order to help students improve their mental capacity for dealing with stress number 1 high school in guiyang has opened a psychological venting room principal of the school mr xi biao explained that the venting room s purpose is to help students deal with pressure particularly in the run up to the gao kao the room has padded walls and a punch bag as well as a mannequin when the students are stressed they can go to the venting room and punch the punching bag or mannequin it is hoped that the room will provide catharsis for those under stress the venting room was proposed by the mother of a former student who committed suicide last year the night before the gao kao was due to begin she said i hope the venting room will prevent other mothers and fathers going through the same pain my husband and i have been through this past year a local psychologist has said if pent up emotions are responsibly vent they will not develop into more serious mental illnesses the young man stops reading ten minutes later he is on the number 48 bus to number 1 high school in his right hand is the guizhou daily rolled up the school s driveway and pedestrian entrance flanked by old sycamores uprooted and transferred from elsewhere is a gradual upward incline the young man has walked the path hundreds of times before when a teenager he attended the school walking now along that path he remembers the daily taunting 2 in which an entrepreneur sees a gap in the market owing to the success of the venting rooms opened last year in guiyang s high schools local entrepreneur mr cheng xian will open a chain of venting rooms according to a report recently published the venting rooms have been successful in reducing levels of stress among students mr cheng has said there is a demand among the general population for this kind of service the modern world he noted with its various pressures and stresses is one in which people need opportunities to release and to vent but in a controlled environment mr cheng s venting rooms will be opened next month with premises in various locations each premises will have various rooms devoted to different kinds of stress there will be rooms dedicated to men and to women to different age groups mr cheng has employed psychologists as well as feng shui experts to assist in designing the venting rooms more details will appear over the coming fortnight 3 in which the venting rooms popularity skyrockets supply cannot meet demand the venting rooms are more popular than even mr cheng imagined people in their thousands flock every day to vent their anger they smash tvs with baseball bats punch padded walls batter mannequins unleashing in shrieks of violence their angst about various societal pressures job hunting relationship break ups inability to meet mortgage payments 4 in which confucian philosophy is applied to a theory of the success of the venting rooms a snapshot survery has revealed that the venting rooms most frequent service users fall into three broad categories unfulfilled twentysomething sons and daughters neglected wives and those who ve been treated unjustly by the chinese communist party ccp scholars have argued that the popularity of the venting rooms is a symptom of and response to of the ills of modern society the conclusion of the survey however calls for a more rigourous and deep rooted explanation although hard to gauge and to verify some sinophiles have argued that confucian philosophy is the biggest quarry of chinese culture an important concept in confucian philosophy is li an abstract idea li can be described or translated as customs etiquette or morals basically rules of proper social behaviour confucius argued that life can be divided into 5 relationships and that if li was present in each of these relationships throughout society the social order would be ideal the five relationships are father to son kindness in the father filial piety in the son elder brother to younger brother gentility in the elder humility in the younger husband to wife husband benevolent wife should 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