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plump just a couple of dykes on the road to motherhood plump skip to content home chips and ducks older posts december 21 2009 7 56 pm how did this happen that s right that s my one year old for the last week month i have been a sentimental sap there s been tears and loads of smiles and laughter i cannot believe that our solstice babe is enjoying his second summer solstice what a trip and i m told the best is still to come how lucky am i 2 comments filed under uncategorized november 25 2009 5 30 pm decadent date night how exciting my mum has had squeak at her place for a few hours so i could get secret 1st birthday stuff done today they ve had such a lovely day that she s offered to keep him a bit longer so that ducks and i can have a dinner date in 11 months we ve been out at night twice both times in those lovely early days when he still slept april 5th is the last time we went out in the evening without him i remember it vividly because is was the day after my 30th birthday when we had to cancel my birthday dinner because squeak was super fussy we went to see janeane garofalo who is vehemently childless by choice and very funny the most delightful bit about all this excitement is that we already have a planned day date on friday 2 dates in 3 days i may just survive until toddlerhood after all new blog coming just as soon as i come up with a name for it leave a comment filed under uncategorized november 24 2009 9 06 pm congrats congratulations to clark she got the job 1 comment filed under uncategorized november 23 2009 11 30 am turning around i ve spent a lot of the last few weeks naval gazing and feeling generally unsatisfied with my lot nothing has changed i am still struggling but in a effort to work all this stuff out i think i m motivated to get a new project going and with it a new blog plump has served us well and the support and community that came with it especially in those torturous ttc days could not be replicated i thrived on it and appreciated it more than could ever be expressed but if i keep going down the same path with plump it s going to get very boring very fast so without forgetting my roots i m going to keep some of the fun plump bits and work on something new and fresh the aries in me needs this so does the frustrated feminist stay at home mama watch this space 2 comments filed under uncategorized november 22 2009 10 24 pm sleep stuff we ve been co sleepers since squeak was born and until the 4 month sleep regression hit it served us all beautifully at 4 months squeak went from waking once or twice a night to waking between 4 and 12 times a night as i ve said before most of the time i can be zen about it and given that i only have to stick a boob in squeaks mouth and he s back to sleep with ease i feel as though it s not the worst thing in the world but the zen is fading ducks moved into the spare room months ago and my back is a mess from sleeping in bizarro twisty breastfeeding poses it s time for a change i want ducks back in our bed more sleep and less trips to the osteopath so how do we make change when we re not big fans of sleep training and will absolutely not leave squeak to cry i don t think there s an easy answer but we re hoping that moving him onto a mattress beside our bed will help we have no expectation of him to sleep through co sleeping babies rarely do but perhaps with a bit of distance from my boobs he ll be better able to sooth himself back to sleep more often during the night and if this doesn t work then i don t know what next ducks may have to get involved in the night time parenting and some sleep training may be in order what are the experiences of others any suggestions 5 comments filed under uncategorized november 21 2009 6 18 pm balance i m always reluctant to call myself an attachment parent mostly i think because i don t like some of the evangelism dogma and judgment that sometimes comes with it of course the evangelists are in the absolute minority but in my pre baby days they were certainly the ones i noticed most and to some degree have left a sour taste in my mouth i m also not super excited about labeling or branding parenting philosophies like they are some kind of fad surely parenting in the way we try to gently with conscience and connection and intuition is what most parents aspire to nonetheless if you want to put us in a parenting box we do tend to observe the principles of attachment parenting quite intuitively in the way we approach our mothering for the most part it s not a challenge to parent in the way we do and though i often feel tempted to try a less gentle sleep solution it s balance that we really struggle with clark s recent pos t really resonated with me and came not long after i had decided not to return to my job for the first week or two after i handed in my notice i was pretty thrilled with my decision to stay at home with squeak for the foreseeable future but as the days and weeks have passed i ve felt less sure and more desperate for something more when i m home with squeak i m rarely productive clark helped me realise that this makes me feel like shit i don t have a kid who sleeps much so naptime has never provided me with much solace but for a couple of weeks somewhere between sitting up and crawling squeak was happy to entertain himself for long enough for me to grab crafty moments with my sewing machine here and there i was so excited and motivated in those weeks because i was finally doing something for myself mobile squeak ended all of that for me he is adventure baby and not one who can be left alone for nor allow me the kind of time it takes to do much more than if this kid isn t getting his fingers jammed in drawers and eating the cat food then he s hanging onto my leg and desperate for attention in other words he needs constant connection and supervision and that s fine he s a baby but i m starting to lose my zen and although i know it s balance that i need i m having trouble finding it despite having an amazing accomodating and considerate partner and co parent who is 1000 supportive in my strive for balance i just can t work out what will make me happy retail therapy helps but it s not sustainable and is waaaaaaay too close to spinning out of control more often than i care to admit i should add here that ducks also struggles for balance also though by virtue of the fact that she gets to be an adult and go out to work most days of the week i don t think her mental health is as tenuous as mine nonetheless she s responsive when i meltdown she snaps into action she is constantly trying to find the answer to give me what i want the problem being i don t know what i want but i m really starting to regret quitting my job remembering of course that before squeak was born i was overworked and burnt out in a social justice job that looks awesome on paper but rarely stood up in reality so is it work that i really want or just am i just unbalanced and desperate to use my grown up brain a little more than i currently do in thinking about this blog post i had a little dig around to see what other attachment stay at home type parent types say about achieving balance and i have to say i was left wanting balance is about more than just me time or at least it is for me i go to the gym i get the odd coffee alone i get my haircut or see a movie or walk aimlessly semi regularly none of that stuff is feeding my soul though and then i feel guilty for taking that time and still being unsatisfied does anyone have any thoughts advice stories sympathy how do i reconnect with my adult self how do others achieve balance 2 comments filed under uncategorized november 20 2009 8 21 pm lesbians parents better at raising children times online lesbians parents better at raising children times online shamelessly cheating shamelessly pinching this from vee and jay do yourselves a favour and don t read the comments on the article tomorrow i shall speak about balance leave a comment filed under uncategorized november 19 2009 9 51 pm summer goodness if only it could always be this good squeak has just gone to bed after a lovely loungey summer afternoon and evening spent at the local pool eating dinner in a local beer garden i m not looking forward to the extremes we re expecting this summer but for now i m pretty happy with hot sunny days and long balmy evenings and the super sleepy all pooled out kiddo is a great bonus there are so many things about this stay at home gig that i m wrestling with days like today are what will keep me going leave a comment filed under uncategorized november 18 2009 10 31 pm boo do you recognise that sublimely cute kiddo hiding behind the bright orange stars that s my kid in just over a month he s going to be 1 i cannot believe it so much has happened since i last blogged that it d be futile to try to catch y all up bullets should suffice in getting you up to speed on the key points crawling happened about 6 5 months cruising minutes thereafter standing unsupported happened at 10 months and now at 10 months and 3 weeks we are moments from walking in the last two weeks he s spent a lot of time stringing 2 and 3 steps together we ll be sprinting after him within the week i m sure parenting an almost toddler is really hard and really exhausting i think we ve got a massive tantrum thrower on our hands but am desperately hoping that the temper and screaming will stop when the walking starts he s still not much of a sleeper i m pretty grateful for the nights where he sleeps in 2 hour chunks the nights with 3 hour segments of sleep are luxurious there are many nights with 45min 1hourly wakings still he says mummy ducks mama me dog and cat he also says a lot of dada never with any real intent but often in the company of happily childless gay boys who freak right out my love for this kid grows every day there aren t enough cliches in the world to express how soul full of love i am my maternity leave ended i resigned i am not at peace with this decision i may talk more about this at another time my close mama friends are all going back to work so i m making a big effort to befriend more stay at home mums to that end with a friend i ve started a local natural parenting playgroup i ve also gotten serious about attending lots of australian breastfeeding association meetings and am getting involved in the maternity coalition http www maternitycoaltion org au i spent a lot of time thinking about studying midwifery next year in the end i decided to train as a doula in 2010 and hold off on midwifery until we are done making babies i m very excited about the doula training ttc 2 is on the cards not just yet but soon of course there s more but i ll leave it there with the promise of daily blogging on the home stretch of nablopomo 1 comment filed under uncategorized june 29 2009 9 55 pm 6 month love our beautiful boy is 6 months old now i cannot believe we have come so far like all the cliches it feels as though he s been with us forever and for just moments all at once what s amazed me is just how much changing he s done in the last couple of months he doesn t just exist now he is present and engaged and so very curious he has grabby hands and an inquiring mind he learns so fast and demonstrates that he understands complex ideas and negotiations to the point that i m blown away on a daily basis i know my kid is no more a genius than any other kid but wow these little things are so clever his sleep is still crappy in the scheme of things but has improved removing caffeine has erradicated the nights of 20 minutes sleep stints and he s not nursing all night long anymore but we re still awake every 2hours everything is relative though and i m feeling loads better actually i felt quite a shift after taking sorenson s response to this post on board i am nonetheless boiling with frustration as i listen to ducks enter the 3rd hour of trying to get the boy to sleep tonight we had a blissful week of 7 o clock bedtimes recently but a nasty lengthy case of bronchiolitis seems to have completely messed all that up and we re back to crabby sleep fighting boy who won t sleep unless i m in bed with him i m really crossing my fingers and toes that once he s fully recovered he will once again embrace bedtime it was so nice to sit on the couch with ducks in the evening i miss it the other big change which may also be impacting the sleep bedtime thing is that the boy is now playing with real food we ve chosen to go the baby led weaning route of introducing solids and for the last few weeks we ve been having as awesome time with food certainly it s been bittersweet i m sad that it s one step toward him needing me less but given that we can t change it i m delighted that he s so interested and adventurous already photos to follow 2 comments filed under uncategorized older posts recent posts how did this happen decadent date night congrats turning around sleep stuff blogroll 2 happy mamas ariel 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