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lucky enough to work with richard nash prepare to be both comforted and challenged in the best way possible richard is a rare blend of empathy and strategy a kind thoughtful listener who also cuts straight to the core of complex issues with the precision of a surgeon and the grace of a therapist his questions don t just make you think they make you rethink separating noise from truth and symptoms from root causes coaching with richard isn t just a conversation it s a breakthrough joel greengrass chro yieldstreet coaching the next generation by rnash january 15th 2026 in the last year i ve had a bunch of conversations with young people in their twenties and being myself 55 even more conversations with the parents of people in their twenties about how to start living independent lives and man some of it was heartbreaking and also inspiring so i m doing something about it many of you know i became an executive coach in 2018 and i m now expanding my practice to encompass these young people launching themselves into a new phase of their life it s group coaching for young professionals an intimate group of eight yours truly facilitating helping each other find their best selves and navigate the city s workplaces like group therapy but with an action oriented forward looking pragmatic bent doing it in group format makes it more affordable and also offers the young people the chance to listen to and talk to peer strangers in a facilitated environment initially i believed it would be just in person as i do feel it can be valuable to have these young people be able to interact with each other irl especially given the loss of a year or more of social interaction people that age experienced during the pandemic however it became clear when i announced this that there were quite a number of people interested in a virtual zoom offering so we ll do both it ll start in early summer once a week early evening and i ll aim to add a couple more sessions later in the year if all goes according to plan here s a printable flyer should anyone of you feel like spreading the word in your institutions workplaces communities next step whether you re a 20 something or a parent mentor is to fill out this form it gives me your contact information and allows me to start putting cohorts together based on location and availability i ll respond to you quickly so you ve an opportunity to ask me questions you might have about me about the process about whatever is on your mind click here to leave a comment tags coaching education permission by rnash december 29th 2023 dear you little did i know when i wrote you my first letter in january 2021 that it would take another two years to finish the second letter not mind you to begin the second for when i created a new word doc to start this one i discovered eight unfinished letters in the dinner party letters folder sigh eight but while i did type sigh there and while i did periodically feel embarrassed irritated while i did chastise myself for overpromising and underdelivering i had moments of feeling a certain glee for i was giving myself something i so often find myself wanting to give others something i so often want others to give themselves permission permission to not have to write a second goddam letter you should write your second letter richard it s been so long who says i retort who says i should who decides what is should vs who cares last month i read quit the power of knowing when to walk away it s by annie duke a former professional poker player one of the many things i enjoyed about that book is how well she illustrates the human propensity for not quitting for perseverance think of all the virtuous synonyms for perseverance she tells us think of all the books written on resilience on grit conversely consider quitting as readily as positive words to describe perseverance come to mind so do the negative terms for those who quit all of which encompass the idea that quitters are failures who don t deserve our admiration they are backtrackers chickens defeatists deserters dropouts shirkers wimps and wusses they give up and abandon things waver and vacillate we consider them aimless capricious craven erratic fickle weak willed undependable unreliable and even untrustworthy or just plain lazy for example my laziness in failing to manage even two letters in two years but as duke points out of course people who have succeeded at something have persevered by definition but just because you persevere doesn t mean you succeed if it did we d all be whatever we wanted to be because we just didn t give up it should not when you stop to think about it be surprising that it takes a poker player to remind us of this for all the athletes and political and business leaders who praise grit and despise quitters it s a country music singer kenny rogers who articulates the best retort to them you ve got to know when to hold em know when to fold em in another letter if there is another letter who knows i might explore more the universe of sunk cost fallacy and escalation commitment but for now i want to return to permission to the emotional side of quitting to the place where it hurts to the place of shame you know what else i haven t done i ve not yet done a single trip to another city to host a out of town dinner party i ve only had one dinner party in the past six months i twice bailed on going to frankfurt for the book fair something i d done every year from 2001 to 2019 and what i tell myself what i keep telling myself is it s ok it is ok to not do something it is ok to change your mind it is ok to bail ok to quit it is ok to not follow through it is ok to write only one letter when you said you d be doing the dinner party letters plural my coaching clients can feel so stuck one client comes to me trying to figure out how to grow her business in a declining market she thinks i ll be a good coach for her because i happen to be familiar with the industry she is in she just cannot figure out a path forward but by the end of the very first session it s almost certain she s making a major career change by the end of the sixth session she s giddy hyper she s already started her training training to be a trainer but i can t say more than that because of confidentiality which drives me nuts because i m so excited for her she is so clearly on her way the words tumble out of her mouth for thirty minutes we end the session early because why not why the hell not and i can t give her permission to make that change if i can t give myself permission to write the next letter whenever i want to which might be never never which is not in fact how it works what really happened is that i gave myself that permission to not write letter because i gave her permission to not grow her business what i do for others i can actually do for myself physician heal thyself thus far i sound like mister permissive slinging indulgences around the epitome of decadence i put my feet up on the couch after i wrote that line just to linger awhile in the notion really though the permission to not do something to not follow through to quit it merely gets us to the staging post it s not the endgame let s instead call it a sign that we ve fought half the battle the other half of the battle is i believe choices here i am reminded of another recent book four thousand weeks by oliver burkeman the book comes with the tongue in cheek subtitle time management for mortals which suggests it might be a book of productivity hacks tricks to get more done in less time little mind ninja stuff that gets you to say write a letter every month or every week thank god it s none of those things a giveaway is when burkeman starts in on the german philosopher martin heidegger you re not going to get seven tips to clear the decks by lunch or breakfast in particular he zeros in on heidegger s assertion that our being is totally utterly bound up with our finite time we are time we are in burkeman s title four thousand weeks the current average western lifespan to live authentically means fully confronting that finitude this is in no way morbid what is morbid is to indulge in avoid or denial instead we take ownership of our life and we make choices inside the ineluctable limitations of our life only then can we reckon honestly with ourselves it is the very limitations that give our choices meaning if we lived forever yes we could do everything but how much would anything really then mean to us it is the very fact that our time is finite our choices constrained that each choice we make has meaning one of my favorite films is wim wenders wings of desire in it two angels wander the earth since the primordial times in the timeframe of the film they wander berlin a few years before the fall of the wall observing humanity all the while remaining invisible they hear our thoughts and seek to give comfort to the afflicted not always successfully one day one of the angels decides he wants to become human even though that will mean the end of his eternal life he wants to feel the tangible things to taste and touch and also to experience emotion love and fear and joy that s always been my understanding of the film largely unchanged through my subsequent watchings i now realize however thirty years after having first seen it that what he also gets from being human and mortal is finitude that everything now actually matters that there will only be so many moments and how he spends each moment means something and so for the past two years i ve chosen to cook or read or run or stretch or call a friend or look out the window at the snow flurries as i ve done a few times while writing this or swipe through my phone or lose myself in ukraine updates on twitter and i ve also chosen to not write this letter and all these choices have had weight and meaning what permission does is remind us that we have choices and what our limited life span means is that our choices matter today i decide to not read or run or stretch i decide to write this letter because i wanted to not because i should write it not because i set up some structure to guilt myself into writing it but because today i felt it would mean something to me to write it and so i began it and i finished it and here it is love richard click here to leave a comment the dinner party letters by rnash january 1st 2021 belatedly i ve decided to start a newsletter though as i note in the first edition there s no news whatsoever so i m calling it a letter the first in a series called the dinner party letters sign up at the link here s the first in blog post format dear you some of you know me as a theater director turned book publisher turned start up founder turned consultant and advisor and public speaker turned agency founder and now finally turned coach most of you i think know some of this history but not all of it this monthly letter in a series i m calling the dinner party letters is about what i ve learned along the way and about what i ll continue to learn as you can see it ll take a little backstory bear with me when i left my job as publisher of soft skull press in 2009 having been a theater director in the 1990s i created a blank slate corporation called cursor at the time i knew or thought i knew what it was going to do it was going to be a software platform that would enable a whole new generation of independent publishers and it would enable countless existing organizations to become publishers and many existing publishers to sustain themselves i m proud of what it did do which was to contribute to moving the dialogue forward around the intersections of content community and culture for a while it became a publisher and a think tank with hindsight what was important was the name the name was intended to evoke the suspended moment before beginning anew a moment that for me when i opened a new blank document on my laptop paused for one second and began to type that moment of fear possibility hesitation decision indecision embracing not knowing the moment between breathing in and breathing out the ellipsis so cursor became whatever i felt intensely motivated to do in this sense it now lives up to its name where every day i start anew m now a coach and my clients include writers designers scholars filmmakers entrepreneurs including a health care start up co founder and an asset manager even a diplomat and a cabinet maker they come from across the world the u s the u k india australia france i know so little of each client s world that it is better that i assume i know nothing i m a blank page too my role is to ask questions which the client answers the truths the paths the answers the client seeks they exist already within the client these letters will in part be about what i learn from my clients as they face blank pages in their lives when i am not coaching though i am thinking cooking reading gardening daydreaming running listening watching stretching spacing out indulging prevaricating zeroing in where i get to combine all of this except perhaps the running into one single expereince is by hosting dinner parties in the past few months i ve hosted covid aware dinner parties for typically six or seven people on my deck near the gowanus canal in brooklyn those parties are perhaps the most stimulated i ever get the flow of thought word emotion idea the activation of all five senses it is for me sublime it s the synthesis especially that i love the group of disparate people sober and tipsy hungry and sated weaving together anecdotes and jokes sentiment and snark winks and nods belches and farts sighs and lulls in these dinner party letters then letters rather than newsletters since nothing here will remotely resemble actual news i will take the excitement i experience the ideas and challenges and discoveries i encounter from the people i meet and from the people i read from dinner parties real and metaphorical and explore them with you email me back too if the spirit moves you what does that mean in practice there will be a letter about fear and poetry there will be letters about buzzy topics like context collapse and filter bubbles there will be a letter called the dollar shave club and fifty shades of grey there will be letters that go into psychoanalysis and the microeconomics of consumer packaged goods how gandhi might be best understood as a prankster the pleasures of being a dilettante and cooking and gardening and parenting there will be letters in which i ll offer opinions i d never share during a coaching session and ones where i ll straddle fences and be hopelessly obtuse i also wanted in this first letter to try to give you a sense of what subsequent letters might feel like in other words what is this letter about this is something i struggled with which is mildly terrifying as i m going to have to do this every month but here goes why coaching if i were to offer one reason why coaching is becoming more necessary it would be ...