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nervousness a well placed pause can create tension that makes your words have more gravitas tone and inflection no one finds monotone exciting switch up your tone of voice from deep for declarative statements to high inflection when you want to leave them guessing paint pictures and compose symphonies in their mind with sensory details when telling a story take the person you re talking to on an emotional journey by describing the colors sounds textures tastes smells and how they made you feel this will cause their mirror neurons to fire off making it easier for them to imagine actually being there with you so if you want to be memorable focus on the emotion behind the words people may forget what you say but they will never forget how you make them feel 11 confidence is more important than knowledge two young candidates walked into the interview office to apply for the same job the first one had a phd two masters and a bachelor s degree the second one had just a bachelor the first one was kind of shy didn t talk much his body language was turned inward the second one had an upright posture was looking the interviewers directly in the eyes showed a lot of interest in the job and his answers where emitting confidence we don t have to tell you who got the job 12 fake it until you make it no one became an expert on anything over night however the learning process in everything you do is accelerated by commanding your brain to think what you want it to think in simple words you are what you believe you are you are confident if you believe you are confident you are attractive if you believe you are attractive you are extrovert if you believe you are extrovert if you want to look deeper into this idea look up two words neuroplasticity and brain rewiring 13 pose in a power stance this is similar to the previous point but more concrete than a mantra or belief go stand in the mirror put your hands on your hips thrust your pelvic forward pull your shoulders up back and down open your chest tilt your head up and force the biggest smile you can possibly manage to fit across your face even if you consciously know you re just faking it your brain can t tell the difference and will release endorphins to match your body position this can feel silly but it really works 14 if you want to be persuasive try and reduce the use of the words i think and i believe i don t really feel the need to elaborate on this one obviously these words do not evoke confidence and the other person will most probably not take you seriously change them to i know and i will instead 15 a clean and organised environment affects your mood productivity and others perception of who you are how many times have you waken up without any motivation at all how many times have you started working on something without being able to get focused and inspired next time this happens take a look around you is your environment clean and well organized if not take some minutes to clean it up and put everything into place you will feel refreshed and reborn and productivity will spark immediately but not only that you will come across as caring and punctual two highly esteemed traits why do think most of the big companies pay so much attention to creating the best working environment for their employees they know what makes them happy and how it affects their productivity 16 want to find out which people are close to each other within a group and who is perceived as the leader pay attention to who is looking at each other when everyone in the group laughs at a joke people instinctively look at and agree with the person they feel closest to within the group 17 whenever you call a person you want to meet show excitement always have this in mind excitement is contagious why do you think the music video from pharrell williams happy got so many views and so many people were talking about it people love excitement it is like an escape from their boring lives never forget that you can mirror this and show disappointment if somebody let s you down making them painfully aware of their hurtful actions 18 want to build rapport and gain respect match body language this is quite a common topic among body language experts and works well if you want to gain respect from a person that has high value example you are in a social situation where a person has higher value among others within the group he is the center of attention and he totally enjoys it how do you match his value by befriending him if you want his respect and attention the best thing to do when you approach him is to match his body language and speaking patterns if he has open body language and he talks with excitement and joy don t go there with crossed arms and with an attitude of negating his words approach him with the same amount of excitement and show openness and interest 19 when someone insults you either ignore him or mock him never lose temper always control the frame haters are everywhere the more you feed them with hate the stronger they become never lose your temper this is a great example of how to deal with a hater enjoy 19 stand up straight have warm hands and always keep eye contact keep a straight posture and walk like a born leader this sub communicates confidence and others will respect you automatically keep your hands out of your pockets if you don t know what to do with them it is better to fold your arms rather than keep them inside your pockets keep your hands warm if you have a warm hand when you shake somebody s hand you immediately become a more desirable person to get along with secret tip wash your hands with warm water often to keep them warm or take cold showers you have heard this a thousand times here is the 1001st never lose eye contact losing eye contact is like losing your confidence one cool trick when first meeting someone is to focus on their eye color and smile at the same time the eyes are the gateway to the soul and taking the extra second to gaze shows you are confident and present be sure to move your eyes away periodically a constant stare will creep people out 20 the benjamin franklin effect the ben franklin effect is a psychological finding a person who has done someone a favor is more likely to do that person another favor than they would be if they had received a favor from that person similarly one who harms another is more willing to harm them again than the victim is to retaliate this is an unbelievable finding in social situations you can hack this by making someone do something small for you then asking for your true favor it s such a small favor that they will say yes and due to cognitive dissonance their brain will rationalize that they must like you enough to do you a favor in the first place this is also called the foot in the door effect 21 don t be afraid to touch another person touching someone on the shoulder or their knees creates an emotional and physical bond especially during moments of joy laughter and excitement touching positively reinforces these traits if you re uncomfortable with touching remember 12 fake it until you make it 22 use the door in the face hack the opposite of foot in the door make an unreasonably large request that will most likely be turned down but if it isn t then that s even better and follow up with your true intended more reasonable request the other person will be more likely to agree to the second request 23 always frame a request as a choice no one likes to feel pressured into doing something they don t want to do by subtlety rephrasing a request you can make the person feel like they came to the decision on their own terms homeless people who say things like it s up to you if you want to donate or not end up making more money than those who simply ask for money the same is generally true for bands that offer pay what you want payment structures for their music they know you can easily download their music for free off the internet so they encourage you to pay what you feel is right a slightly more aggressive technique is the assumptive close this is a classic sales technique that can be used in any social situation instead of asking for permission do you want to donate go on a date get something to eat assume that the person already does of course you can t just force someone to do something but a leading question can nudge them in the right direction would you like to donate 5 dollars or 10 dollars now instead of simply saying yes or no they have to actively deny your request and feel like a naysayer 24 if you work in a bar or in customer service of any kind put a mirror behind you at the counter when an angry customer approaches you he will have to see himself in the mirror and will most probably calm down nobody likes ruining his image 25 chew gum if you are nervous evolutionarily speaking our brains assume that if we are eating then we aren t in any immediate danger so the fight or flight response is weakened the takeaway there you have them these suggestions for gaining the initial advantage and then taking maximum advantage of any social situation or social encounter will stand you in good stead if you study them and put them into practice study them and put them into practice immediately it goes without saying but i ll say it anyway that the sooner you begin to make use of these simple but intensely effective strategems the sooner you will begin to win with them and in terms of taking command there is no time for losing tags labels keywords categories and search terms for this article command leadership dominance social advantage influencing others negotiation networking body language geiconsulting douglas e castle power posturing successful introductions first impressions thank you as always for reading me douglas castle for global edge international consulting associates inc and the global edge international blog please join me on linkedin please follow gei consulting on linkedin please like gei consulting on our facebook page please follow gei consulting on google plus taking command achieving your objectives http takingcommand blogspot com the guide to self mastery goal setting strategic planning and decision making leadership management contingency planning leveraging assets rule and domination choosing allies dealing with enemies assessing risk time management negotiation achieving personal authority influence wealth and success through total transformation key terms leadership management self growth self mastery personal power career advancement negotiation winning wealth success this site is proudly affiliated with global edge international consulting associates inc gei free subscription to the gei business daily sign up for our free gei newsletter receive our free gei rss feed follow gei s company page on linkedin please like gei on facebook please follow gei on linkedin please follow gei on twitter posted by douglas castle 1 comments labels body language command dominance douglas e castle first impressions geiconsulting influencing others leadership negotiation networking power posturing social advantage successful introductions monday august 10 2015 monkey mentality management share this article with your colleagues on linkedin monkey mentality management i received the story which follows via email from a client of ours just this morning i think it is just as plausible as it is hysterical please read on if you start with a cage containing four monkeys hang a banana from the top of the inside of the cage on a string and then you place a set of stairs under the banana before long a monkey will go to the stairs and climb toward the banana all the monkeys are sprayed with cold water after a while another monkey makes an attempt with same result as soon as he touches the stairs you spray all the monkeys with cold water pretty soon when another monkey tries to climb the stairs the other monkeys will try to prevent it now put the cold water away remove one monkey from the cage and replace it with a new monkey the new monkey sees the banana and attempts to climb the stairs to his shock all of the other monkeys beat the crap out of him after another attempt and attack he knows that if he tries to climb the stairs he will be assaulted next remove another of the original four monkeys replacing it with a new monkey the newcomer goes to the stairs and is attacked the previous newcomer takes part in the punishment with enthusiasm because he is now part of the team then replace a third original monkey with a new monkey followed by the fourth every time the newest monkey takes to the stairs he is attacked now the monkeys that are beating him up have no idea why they were not permitted to climb the stairs neither do they know why they are participating in the beating of the newest monkey finally having replaced all of the original monkeys none of the remaining monkeys will have ever been sprayed with cold water nevertheless not one of the monkeys will try to climb the stairway for the banana why you ask because in their minds that is the way it has always been this is how today s house and senate operates and this is why occasionally all of the monkeys need to be replaced at the same time please note the above story is not intended to insult monkeys in any way and no monkeys or bananas were harmed in the making of this article thank you as always for reading me douglas castle for global edge international consulting associates inc and the global edge international blog please join me on linkedin please follow gei consulting on linkedin please like gei consulting on our facebook page please follow gei consulting on google plus labels tags keywords categories and search terms for this article monkeys legislators psychological conditioning entrenched behavior herd mentality management leadership foolishness taking command blog douglas e castle gei consulting taking command achieving your objectives http takingcommand blogspot com the guide to self mastery goal setting strategic planning and decision making leadership management contingency planning leveraging assets rule and domination choosing allies dealing with enemies assessing risk time management negotiation achieving personal authority influence wealth and success through total transformation key terms leadership management self growth self mastery personal power career advancement negotiation winning wealth success this site is proudly affiliated with global edge international consulting associates inc gei free subscription to the gei business daily sign up for our free gei newsletter receive our free gei rss feed follow gei s company page on linkedin please like gei on facebook please follow gei on linkedin please follow gei on twitter posted by douglas castle 0 comments labels douglas e castle entrenched behavior foolishness gei consulting herd mentality leadership legislators management monkeys psychological conditioning taking command 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