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of my commission account would be completely erased and my profile deleted in seeming retaliation when i requested to cash it out in order to sidestep additional legal snafus i have neglected to name these companies those that you that have been following this saga are familiar with who i am referring to maybe the people currently in their employ are happy i can say that a few prominent sex bloggers and two other non bloggers that i ve had the pleasure of chatting with through email most decidedly were not i don t wish ill on anyone but i hope that maybe this will cause people to take another deeper look at these ubiquitous companies before slapping banners on blogs penning reviews and otherwise lending one s talents to companies that have acted in bad faith for so many peers march 23rd 2010 category uncategorized 15 comments need feedback whatcha think version 1 version 2 so these are the banners that will be used in advertising chilldils i just need to know which you guys think is better i got my first shipment in today and i m very happy with them i can t wait to launch them i want to get a second batch waiting in the wings so i don t sell out too quickly but chilldils will be live and able for purchase in the next two weeks exciting please leave a comment and let me know what version you think is more awesome and why it d help a bunch tc march 22nd 2010 category uncategorized 10 comments the house always wins okay so i apolgize because this isn t very sexy but it was so hilarious i needed to share it with the interwebz yesterday we my mom aunt uncle my age cousin and a 40 something 2nd cousin decide to have a mini family reunion in atlantic city it was already ill advised because i had laser surgery the day before and apparently the sun lonely for blinding me due to my constant refuge in world of warcraft decided to make up for lost time i squinted my way uncomfortably up and down the boardwalk with my family hidden behind two pairs of sunglasses on top of my regular glasses like i was either crazy or insanely hungover a fitting assumption since we abruptly found ourselves unexpectedly in the middle of a late st pat s beerfest parade fast forward a few hours everyone s gone home mom and i are staying to play some penny slots after dropping seven bucks each we decide to turn in some free drink coupons we stumbled upon sipping on 12 50 estrogen laced martinis that were made with unicorn spit and rainbows or some crap like that sufficently buzzed we wandered over to the ridiculously priced 25 a head buffet and decided against it while we were trying to give away the coupon we had for half off one dinner someone up and hands up 50 worth of food vouchers so in we went the buffet was the saddest excuse for food i d ever seen with desserts that made me reflexively adopt what mom and i affectionately call the dead squirrel face mildy pissy at the quality and fueled by unicorn spit martini fumes we decide that no damnit we would get our money s worth i slipped out to go to the bathroom and stopped in a candy shop to get some bags while ringing up my purchase the nice guy behind the counter and i heard a crew hollering for their friend britney he frowned sighed dramatically and wished out loud someone would call for him i asked what his name was and he said brenton i patted his shoulder and assured him that maybe someday he could be britney too i returned two plastic baggies and some clandestine plate scraping later my mother s purse doubled in volume with a furtive surf and turf of london broil and butterfly breaded shrimp we swaggered out yes we are mildly white trashy on the way out i briefed my mother in the brenton situation we snuck in the store behind an aisle popped out and screamed woo brenton before running out i looked behind us and saw him grinning wildly i hope we made his night more tolerable so we decide to head out and that s when things get interesting we re about five miles outside a c when the car starts pulling wildly to the right and making noises fit for no beast or man we struggle to get it in the first possible place a nightclub only it wasn t a night club as those of you who follow my twitterstream already know it was a strip club because of course i summon illicit places people and objects wherever i roam my mom who is mid menopause and thus had no coat with her was only able to dig up a dayglo yellow mickey mouse poncho from the backseat to stand between her and the cold she made me turn it inside out because she hates mickey so here we are at 2am in the parking lot of an atlantic city strip club me wearing sunglasses like a horatio caine fangirl in the dead of night my mother in an inside out neon yellow poncho when there s not a cloud in the sky holding a purse full of stolen surf and turf we finally got home some two hours later at a cost of nearly 500 for towing free 50 food free 25 drinks winning 20 in slots 95 we came out of a c 95 up and physically left the town over 400 down the house always fuckin wins march 21st 2010 category best of toychick randomness one comment weird sex toys of the week bad idea edition part 2 here we have an assortment of toys that made even my seasoned toychick brow raise a bit this is in response to the readers that have accused me of favoriting topco by their lack of presence in my wstotw pieces the bj strap really outside of d s who buys this i mean as a joke maybe but if some dude whipped out a belt when he s lucky enough to be getting oral from me let me tell ya around the back of my head would be the last place that thing would end up cyberglass head gear chin strap on even for those of you that do not have a parent in the dental profession i would imagine that you d realize that propping a rigid protrusion with your jaw teeth as a stabilizer and presumably using it rather vigorously would be a bad idea it might be hot in the short term but ow lex steele penis extensions i ve got no problem with mr steele though in the realm of delightfully attractive male performers i m afraid mr marcus wins in the toychick arena nor with penis extensions but this seems like an embarrasment of riches i mean that s a lot of half faux penises to be lying around trying to smoothly work in an extension can be difficult but trying five different sizes on like you re in a haberdashery mid bedroom antics has to be awkward march 20th 2010 tags glass dildo odd sex odd sex toy odd sex toys oddest sex toy oddest sex toys sex toy sex toys strange sex strange sex toy strange sex toys strangest sex toy strangest sex toys weird sex toy weird sex toys o the week wstotw weirdest sex toy weirdest sex toys wstotw wtf category weird sex toys o the week wstotw 2 comments irons in the fire you may have noticed that there has been far less toychickery on twitter lately while the world careens closer to devastation without my 140 character guidance i have been super insane busy behind the scenes 1 chilldils this project started out with a bang and has a frustratingly long fuse until the next one for those that aren t aware of the backstory i came up with an idea for a natural usa made woman crafted sleeve to fit certain non porous toys and imbue them with heat or cold the idea is great the prototypes worked and were fantastic and i had my manufacturer committed to a small first run i brainstormed in bed at night with a flashlight and notebook under the covers like i was a kid sneaking a detective novel i thought i had all my t s crossed and my manufacturer very suddenly went mia she abruptly had to drop off the project leaving me without the first run that i needed for those that supported me in getting the whole thing going after frantically sending out feelers i at last found another manufacturer that was able to work within my specifications and price range and i ve recently gotten pictures of the first run they re being filled as we speak after which time they ll be en route to me so hopefully crisis averted and chilldils is full speed ahead 2 underbedtoys this is a website that i m helping to build and stock and will be a full partner in i m very excited because for once i ll get to stock a store only with toys i consider safe and or friends recommend i ll have the power to yank down any that get consistent bad ratings bucking the disturbing retail trend of selectively posting positive or heavily edited ratings reviews are about honesty and i d like to bring it back to that and kick out the jelly anal desensitizers and mystery erection pills that are taking up room that hot n sexy silicone or other body friendly toys could be filling har i also don t want to have separate gay and lesbian sections a sexual being is a sexual being and people get labeled enough without having to endure it while supposedly shopping for fun 3 me i m struggling with this wonky vision in my right eye and more than scared more than apprehension i m pissed off it s getting in the way of writing i ll be glad to get my vitrectomy and hopefully be on the mend i have an appointment friday where they re gonna poke at me one last time to be sure the first surgery was made of fail before booking the second march 17th 2010 category randomness one comment eyeball fuckery to the slew of fetishists the blog title is bound to drag in from google no this is not about fucking actual eyeballs try a tenga egg for those that don t follow me on twitter i unfortunately found out on wednesday that my original eye surgery on new years day hasn t fully taken as it was supposed to and i m going to have to go in for another more invasive surgery called a vitrectomy i m not scared the doctors that are seeing to me are all excellent surgeons but the whole ordeal has made me consider how much of my body i take for granted as it stands i have a black shadow over about a quarter of the vision in my right eye among other problems i see the world in a dream like half fuzziness an effect that would be almost nice if it weren t for the constant nausea and headaches imagine seeing the blair witch project with half a pair of 3d glasses and you have a general idea of my worldview however i m not writing this to bitch about my health problems folks have it far worse and in fact an old friend is waiting on a cancer biopsy as i type i m writing this to beg all of you out there if you have a black spot in your vision don t wait go to the doctor s immediately i put mine off a week and what might have been a 2000 15 minute laser surgery ended up escalating to what now stands to be three major surgeries 100k of medical bills and what will be almost a year to full recovery it s just not worth it a retinal specialist costs maybe 200 for an office visit and that s a hell of a lot more affordable than the mess i m trudging through please take care of yourselves take care of your eyes step away from the computer every few hours and give your eyes a break this craziness has taught me to value the vision i have and to understand that sight is something i should be grateful for not take for granted t c march 11th 2010 category uncategorized one comment sanctuary i had a great stable childhood until about eleven when my parents split and all hell broke loose multiple moves ducking county tax collectors living in condemned houses chasing off drunk suitors of my mother s and constantly being on the run from dyfs agents were the events that studded my life just prior to puberty add that to the fact that the vast majority of my sentimental belongings vanished in an uncanny trifecta of a robbery major flood and a storage unit catching on fire and you have one twitchy kid in the ruckus i mentally imbued the area around the house i grew up in with a mystical quality a sort of transitory avalonic isle in the middle of the tiniest tip of southern new jersey it s been ten years since i last set foot there mostly because i m terrified of the heartbreak that facing that change and all the condo development that went with it can bring i have always sought out sanctuaries it s my first thought when travelling or setting down roots somewhere new often i care less about the habitation itself and more that there must be a forest like place nearby to abscond to if the walls feel a little too close about nine years ago i met a guy on a personals site right around new years he ended up inviting me to his new year s party i ended up going and i ended up staying his room was big wide and sparse and so was the bed in it a few metal band posters dotted the broad expanses of walls and his bed had a lot of mismatched pillows i was expecting he d want to have sex and i was alright with that with protection in my purse at the ready i was single and in between any real prospects so a fling sounded like just the thing to kick off the new year with we were absent however the lightning charged franticness that usually accompanies pre sex instead there was a soft comfortable feel of old friends that had been there done that and had no real need to revisit and so it was with no real talking we ended up stripping down to our underthings crawling into bed together and holding one another like he was getting deployed in the morning never before or since has a man held me through the night like that an embrace born of absolutely nothing but wanting to give and receive comfort and companionship perhaps unique but unremarkable as it s own event it actually became one that repeated throughout the months afterward now and again i d call he would pull up to my house in his beat up skylark and honk twice and we d go back to his place we d sometimes watch a terminator movie with his friends before trudging upstairs with peaceful hearts knowing we wouldn t sleep without companionship tonight his roommates elbowed and smirked when we were down in the living room driven by social norms make the usual good natured jokes but we never bothered to correct them we were literally sleeping together and it was enough that we knew it was a hard time in my life a lonely time and an unsure time but i d close my eyes and think about that wide bed in the wide quiet room and my nerves would settle i heard years later he was dating and infatuated with a girl named summer so told by his joking jostling roommates he was never mine but i felt a little sadness knowing settling into those mismatched pillows alongside him was no longer a possibility still of all the things i felt when i d heard he moved on after we drifted apart the most powerful was gratitude he gave me peace without expectation love without lust and most of all he gave me sanctuary march 5th 2010 category uncategorized 3 comments step off to be clear we all engage in back and forth banter sometimes internet puffery where we beat our metaphorical chests i always feel a little ashamed when i m baited into it because i know i should know better it s digital words in a digital format and at the end of the day it s all a i just shot you nuh 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