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th of my midterms my friend matt came to my rescue when i called him and he helped me walk to my classes so i could explain to my teachers what happened even though i was thankfully able to make up my tests it was a very scary experience and something that had never happened to me the rest of the semester was spent going back and forth between doctor s appointments until it was figured out what was going on with me my friend elin took me so many times without hesitation and stayed by my bedside when i had to get an iv i was extremely grateful and appreciative for her help ever since the near syncope i had experienced constant pain in my head and had difficulty walking since i was so dizzy i was told that i was experiencing vertigo and eventually it was determined that i had developed migraines with aura i did my best to take it easier the rest of the semester and was relieved when the job ended and i got to go home for summer break somehow i managed to keep my grades up even with all this going on i did end up running my programs still and they went great and ended up being much more low key than i had anticipated them being since then i ve had some time to recuperate and i am feeling better takeaways sometimes you do have to remove yourself from a stressful situation if it proves to be too much anxiety and stress is serious business and can really hurt your health my anxiety got out of hand and i need to build better mental barriers and work on controlling it again you can see a beautiful side of people when you are at your lowest point posted in 2014 post one year project and tagged adversity anxiety challenges experiencing setbacks introversion path is not a straight one personal personal growth self improvement self help shyness shyness project social anxiety 12 jun 2014 5 comments the path is not a straight one as much as it makes for a simple happy story the road to battling social anxiety and shyness is not a straight one even when you ve had many accomplishments in overcoming obstacles there is no guarantee that you will never face hard times again when you don t continue to face those fears and challenge yourself in my year in san diego i definitely found myself falling backwards several times this caused me to feel a lot of shame because i knew i d been able to do a lot in the past that i was now finding myself struggling with again i am not sure why but my social anxiety really took a physiological toll on me this past semester in particular maybe it was because i was facing a lot of new situations or maybe sometimes anxiety just decides to rear an uglier head at some times more than others whatever the reason it was more intense than i had experienced before and i suffered a lot despite having a lot of amazing times as well luckily the story has a happy ending as i managed to face my fears and come out stronger through it all it took some scary lessons with my health but it required me to face the fact that i needed to build better mental barriers to keep myself from getting in that state again stress and anxiety is serious business and i m still learning how to keep both at a lower level but it is something that has to be worked at continuously you may find yourself overwhelmed at times like i was but know you re not alone and that it can get better if you are determined to make things better more to come soon on what happened during the year and please hang in there if you are going through a rough time as well posted in 2014 post one year project and tagged introversion overcoming obstacles personal personal growth shyness social anxiety 13 apr 2014 3 comments guest post jo of twisted sleeve hello readers here is a thoughtful guest post by jo moore of the blog twisted sleeve check out what she has to say on the topic of shyness here and let her know what you think ______________________________________________________________________ do shy girls want to stay shy and how to change that i ve always been shy and like brittany i ve decided to use my struggle with confidence to help other girls like me last month i launched a blog called twisted sleeve where i help shy girls become confident not long after i launched the site i realised a lot of my readers were finding me through tumblr of course that s where teenage girls hang out right so i thought i d better get myself onto tumblr to start sharing inspirational pictures quotes and memes about shyness social anxiety and confidence but i stumbled upon a problem i couldn t find many positive images whenever i ran a search for words like shyness my screen would fill up with photos of cut wrists gloomy comic strips and little self hate poems i was horrified there i was looking to spread hope tips and positivity and i was confronted with a world of misery it s one thing to feel down and to make and share art about how you feel but it seemed to me that lots of the girls on tumblr were actively seeking out and creating negativity and self loathing it got me thinking i want to help shy girls become confident but do shy girls actually want to be helped or do they want to stay shy shy as a label when i was younger i was desperate to find labels that fit me i always loved the idea of being an emo or a skater but i just wasn t any of those things embarrassingly i once made up my own label made out like it already existed and tried to get it to catch on just so that i could feel like i belonged labels make us feel like we know who we are they make us feel defined they make us feel like we fit in so once we ve found one that fits us we cling onto it but labels control you if you realise a label applies to you and you start using it you become it before i found out i was a multipotentialite someone with a lot of interests i had a tendency to become interested in a lot of different things once i discovered there was a word for that i expected that behaviour of myself and it started happening more often likewise if you label yourself shy you re more likely to be shy labels limit you they give your identity boundaries when you take on a label you restrict yourself to being a certain way if you decide you re shy you have to be shy and you give yourself permission to use your now defined identity as an excuse or justification for your behaviour i can t read in church i m too shy we let it become a crutch we become scared of being anything else what happens when you take a label away if you re a shy person who s clung onto the label shy and you stop being shy what are you left with who are you if the thing you ve turned into your identity is gone what s left while we all say life would be so much easier if we were shy maybe there s a part of us that doesn t actually want to give up the label maybe there s a part of some of us that doesn t want to change maybe there s a part of us that s scared of what will be left if the shyness disappears if that s true we re going to cling onto the word shy more than ever we re not going to push ourselves to put our hands up in class to speak in public and to set ourselves confidence challenges we re never going to get the confidence to do the things we dream of doing how can we change that if we have a sneaky suspicion that a tiny part of us is holding us back how can we change that so that we can let ourselves become confident 1 find out if you re an introvert lots of shy girls are also introverts people who get their energy from being by themselves doing quiet things like reading writing and drawing if you ask me all shy girls should take a look at themselves and at their behaviour to work out which parts of them are due to shyness and which parts are due to introversion see whereas shyness holds us back introversion is something positive if you need convincing of that watch susan cain s ted talk the power of introverts if you are an introvert it s possible that you ve been clinging onto your shy identity because you re scared of having to pretend to be something you re not an extrovert but it is possible to be a confident introvert becoming confident doesn t have to mean giving up your books and heaving out to parties every weekend it just means being able to do what you want to do 2 be about something be interesting do things have a passion start a project getting fired up about an interest or hobby will give you another identity or area to associate yourself with if you start having singing lessons you become a singer if you start writing a novel you become a writer if you join a rambling group you become an outdoorsy person whatever you pick you become both more interested and more interesting oh and the side effect of getting interested in stuff you ll distract yourself from your shyness who knows maybe you ll even get so caught up in your project that you ll turn into a blabber mouth whenever you tell anyone about it what do you think do you want to stay shy do you think it s good to be shy of course there are plenty of positives to being a quiet person and you should never try to reject any part of yourself so i would never want anyone to try and force themselves to become loud and outgoing but shyness becomes a problem when it holds us back and stops us exploring ourselves our interests and the world that s when it s time to let go of the label bio battling her british social awkwardness joanna l k moore jo runs twisted sleeve where she helps shy girls get the confidence they need to do whatever they dream of doing a multipotentialite through and through jo s also a content manager a support worker an illustrator at hey there blogger and a writer currently working on the second draft of a young adult novel you can find out more about jo here posted in 2014 post one year project 15 jan 2014 2 comments picking up friends college orientation style six months have passed since i transferred to my new college as you may recall i was nervous to leave my small town and comfort zone of friends family and favorite dancing spots well let me catch you up on how the first semester went i ll break this up into a few posts so i can touch on each area i wanted to address first off was orientation i was nervous for the potential ice breakers but luckily there were none nothing like the awkwardness of putting a bunch of strangers in a room and having them do a dance move for each letter of their name or throw a beach ball around asking them to name their favorite band or type of food i admit they can sometimes be useful or even fun but most of the time they deserve the groans they solicit the orientation turned out to be mostly just listening to lectures but i did manage to make two initial friends through it who i later took classes with the first time i tried to make a friend was in line waiting to get my orientation packet i picked out my victim the girl in front of me and made my move quickly is this the line for transfers i asked actually needing to verify that i was in the right place anyway she said it was and i thought soon enough we d be schmoozing and conversing from there didn t turn out that way i tried talking to her some more but it was a real struggle because she didn t seem very interested in talking and faced back ahead mission abort it took two minutes of arguing with myself in my head before i finally turned around and asked whoever it may be that was behind me if they were a transfer too well duh we re in the transfer line but the point is not to say something profound just anything light that serves as a friendly little icebreaker and invitation to talk she was pretty friendly and nice surprisingly asking me several questions unlike the other girl she seemed like someone i d be friends with we ended up arranging to take the same spanish class and sat next to each other throughout the semester with two other people we got to know in class i met another girl when we had to sit down for a lecture once we got our orientation packets she just so happened to be a sociology major too i started talking to her by asking if orientation was supposed to go until 5 or 6 because i had heard 5 but the program said 6 we continued talking every now and then from there and sat out and had lunch together during the break she was actually getting married in two weeks and is 26 we each told each other more about ourselves and it was nice to already have someone to spend the lunch break with we ended up taking the same research methods class developing this habit of picking up friends and devising little ice breakers i d say was one of the biggest take aways from my project i find myself doing this often and i do feel like i have a good strategy for it even though i do often get nervous to make the initial move i think anyone who wants to develop a similar habit will find comfort in knowing that the more you do it the easier and more routine it becomes most of the time it is a positive response and people are glad you reached out to them so if you re thinking about it remember that if it isn t like with the first girl i mentioned who i attempted to befriend that is perfectly okay and you just have to try again some people you just won t click with right away it s kind of like a game and the more you play the more familiar it becomes and the more chances you have at finding some people you really connect with happy friending it s worth the effort posted in 2014 post one year project and tagged befriending college orientation friending ice breakers introversion picking up friends shyness social anxiety 01 jan 2014 6 comments blogging connections meeting in person hey all i know it s been a few months since i ve written i could tell you that i ve been very busy with school and adjusting to a new city or i could instead let you imagine that i ve been on an epic mission to mars teaching martians to dance and do an array of moves that may or may not stoop as low as the funky chicken up to you but in all seriousness i hope this post finds you all healthy and happy and that you ve had a wonderful holiday and are enthusiastic for the new year thankfully i ve had some more time recently on my christmas break to read some of the blog posts of blogging friends and those who i take inspiration from this has rejuvenated my spirits and made me grateful for this creative outlet and source of interconnectivity i ve said it before but blogging truly can bring you in touch with some great people and be a source of motivation i smile when reading a lot of your posts and feel a real connection to you even though i haven t been posting as much i m happy to have been receiving several emails from readers and to have you continue to share and confide in me i m always honored even if i can t get back to you as quickly as i used to to go further into the topic of connections i ve been meaning to write that i was able to meet my very first blogging friend doug and his wife micaela in the flesh this past summer i was in the midwest visiting family and wasn t sure if i...