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as r d laing once said to me in supervision you are just barely managing to stay in your chair but often being on top of things in therapy and life is a forlorn hope i am indebted to the sharpe series for my understanding of the original meaning of this phrase those soldiers chosen to be the first through a breach in the enemy s fortress a suicide mission you just have to ride the wave and keep your head above water as best you can this is what marie laure and i did at this meeting the therapy that occurred was all of us residents and therapists being in it together and the knowledge that sometimes you just have to bear the unbearable as i recall it the meeting turned into a wake we opened a bottle and shared our memories of robin of things he d said and done of his characteristic ways of expressing himself robin did a great inadvertent imitation of columbo so let me get this straight you did this and this and for this reason and what was entirely loveable about him doing this helped all of us cope with our feelings and i doubt that anything else i could have done that night would have been more healing than being in a roomful of people who loved robin though from very different positions i recognize that in a strange way this blog is a companion piece to my previous one tough this meeting was one in which we all had to face something that we couldn t change however much we wanted to whatever we would have given to change it it was just tough like sharpe s forlorn hope we had to face death together not ours certainly but of a part of ourselves those soldiers who survived being the forlorn hope were considered to be in a state of grace and i think that we all therapists and clients alike felt privileged to have shared in robin s life and death in the way we did it may have been tough but not just tough share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on reddit opens in new window reddit share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on linkedin opens in new window linkedin like loading this entry was posted in uncategorized on january 16 2015 by joefriedman the dream workbook 1 reply today i m pleased to announce the publication of my new ebook the dream workbook and in line with hallowed blogger tradition for one week only i m offering it at a special price to my readers to backtrack a bit in 2007 caroll and brown published my first book the dream workbook it s been out of print for some time and last year the rights reverted back to me i decided to take the opportunity to revisit the text i was pleased with the way it had stood up but there were some areas where free from a commercially minded editor i was able to express myself more clearly i ve been rewriting the dream workbook for some time and it s now in a form i m pleased with it s meant as a handbook for those who want work with their dreams for novices it starts with sections on learning how to remember and record dreams for those with more experience it includes sections on having dreams to solve problems and creative impasses techniques for understanding your dreams and a section on what the major dream theorists freud jung hillman and boss can contribute to your understanding of your own dreams there are lots of practical exercises and vivid examples of dream work and the way it can enrich your life there s also an account of a unique dream dialogue as far as i m aware it s the first account of two dreamers influencing one another s dreams while dreaming and also being aware of the effect they re having that s the pitch and without further ado the dream workbook the ebook i hope you like the cover the artwork is by mekenzie martin it s now on pre order at amazon and for one week only i ve reduced the price for all my loyal blog readers and their friends relatives early christmas present buyers etc etc if you order now you ll receive it on the first day of publication which is the 27th here is the link to uk amazon but the amazon branch of whatever country you re in should have it http www amazon co uk dream workbook practical understanding dreams ebook dp b00ompr5zm ref sr_1_1_twi_2 ie utf8 qid 1413715347 sr 8 1 keywords the dream workbook there will be editions on itunes barnes and noble etc but i think they re a bit slow getting up i m also working on a print on demand edition for those who want a paper copy which should be available from amazon in a couple of weeks obviously i d love it if you bought it and reviewed it positively and if at this ridiculously attractive price you gave it to everyone you know as a taster here s the start of the book introduction this aim of this book is to show you through experience just how creative wise useful and entertaining dreams are it s full of practical exercises to help you understand and use your dreams to solve problems and gain insight you will learn to value your dreams not because freud or someone else has said they re beneficial but because you have discovered it for yourself through all this you may find why the original meanings of the word dream were joy shout of joy at first glance dreams can seem like a wild garden unruly and chaotic our dreams contain beautiful flowers useful plants and unexpected vistas but all this is hidden from us fortunately dreams unlike gardens respond quickly to our attention and start to reward it the first chapter getting started gives the information and tools needed to begin to reap this rich harvest become an authority on your own dreams the fact that dreams seem so chaotic and confused has fostered the growth of the dream expert and the dream dictionary dream of a tree and you are told your life will bear unexpected fruit nonsense dream images are specific to your life and experience no one dreams of a generic tree rather it s the tree under which you buried your first dog or the tree which hid your first kiss from your parents here you ll learn simple techniques to help you discover why you dreamt of tony soprano a war torn old cat or a dangerously speeding car the theories of the dream greats freud jung etc can help you get to grips with your dreams what you can learn from is full of practical exercises to enable you to apply their important insights being a dream authority doesn t mean you have to work solo it s a joy to share dreams with others getting their feedback and having your understanding enriched by new and different perspectives sharing dreams gives you advice on finding a dream partner or starting your own dream group you ll also learn about the extraordinary phenomena such sharing produces peak creativity scientific research shows us dreams are a time of peak creativity our brains are as active as when we re awake and the chemicals that enable us to make unusual connections are at their maximum einstein s theory of relativity was inspired by a dream as was frankenstein paul mccartney s yesterday several nobel prize winning discoveries and many world changing inventions you too can use your natural dream creativity to solve problems in your daily life need help with a relationship that is stuck preparing a homework assignment or presentation can t see your way forward at work need advice on getting around a neighbour from hell all these everyday problems can be solved in your dreams solution dreams shows you how with step by step instructions rose coloured glasses whether we wear rose coloured glasses or see the world through a glass darkly we all experience the world differently for some of us our daily world is filled with positive possibilities for others potential disaster however we see the world we find justification for it in our experience if we feel that people respect us we find others treat us with dignity if we fear attack we interpret all kinds of ordinary behaviour as a threat because of this it s difficult for us to truly see the lenses which colour our every experience our dreams can show us these glasses bill for example had been taught that everyone is always looking after number one that s how he behaved he saw others doing the same after he started working with his dreams he began to wonder why everyone in his dreams was self serving and selfish okay that s how the world is but why didn t he ever dream of anyone who was friendly helpful or loving bill began to question the way he thought things are he realized that what he was experiencing in his dreams was the way he constructed the world once he saw this his dreams started to give him new experiences to show him a new way of being this way of understanding dreams has enormous power we can literally see our world construction software in action those lenses that make people and the world appear to us in the way they do the value of dreams most of us in the west start from the perspective that every experience must be made to work for us must prove its cash value we feel that our time is precious and that anything we do must produce some tangible gain one of the most damning criticisms of dreams is that they re meaningless garbage produced by the brain at night recent scientific discoveries do not support this criticism nor does my experience or that of countless others but more to the point if you do the exercises in this book you will find that your dreams earn their keep many times over dreams have also helped me and others bring into question the work ethic that makes us feel we must profit from every moment of our lives many dreams are poetic and personal works of art once we start remembering our dreams it is impossible not to appreciate the images narratives characters and the incredible cinema they create for us night after night dreams also bring us into contact with something larger than ourselves god spirit being our higher selves the unconscious whatever you choose to call it we are so much more than our limited perception of ourselves at night we can have an experience of a different realm of being how to use this workbook my emphasis is on the practical on giving you hands on or dreams on experience every chapter contains exercises you can do to deepen your understanding to get the most out of this book i suggest you take an experimental approach try the exercises and see what happens learn from your experience as well as mine each chapter is also complete in itself for beginners it s probably best to start at the beginning and work your way through the book if you are more experienced you can skip from topic to topic following your desire if you are interested in finding out how to control your dreams go to lucid dreaming if you re keen to develop your sixth sense check out dreaming through time and space there is one proviso you ll get the most out of this book if you re actively remembering and recording dreams as you read it so if you re not already keeping a dream diary begin with the getting started chapter dreams are idioplastic dreams are incredibly responsive to what you want from them they re idioplastic shaped by your ideas and desires so whether you want to have lucid dreams solution dreams psychic dreams freudian dreams jungian dreams or all of these in succession they will do their best to help go on give them a chance you won t regret it end of introduction remember the special offer price lasts for only one week until the 28th of october at http www amazon co uk dream workbook practical understanding dreams ebook dp b00ompr5zm ref sr_1_1_twi_2 ie utf8 qid 1413715347 sr 8 1 keywords the dream workbook or your local branch of amazon share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook share on tumblr opens in new window tumblr email a link to a friend opens in new window email share on reddit opens in new window reddit share on pinterest opens in new window pinterest share on linkedin opens in new window linkedin like loading this entry was posted in uncategorized on october 20 2014 by joefriedman how does therapy help the new 1 reply in my last blog i considered psychoanalytic theorizing and its core understanding of repetition today i d like to consider the uniqueness of the therapeutic situation itself and the ways that it is different from whatever we presume happened between mother and infant toddler and parents etc for it may not be as we largely assume that parents have not had the ability to contain digest understand empathize with what our client has brought to us to deal with perhaps they haven t been given a chance for there is a profound difference between infanthood childhood teenagerdom and what happens in a therapeutic situation the client has chosen to be there however ambivalently and reluctantly even if our clients arrive expecting magical understanding or advice they must after some time recognize that what we offer is more modest the chance to think about and re explore their lives and history a chance to reinterpret events if they persist beyond this initial stage of disillusionment they are choosing to go on a journey of understanding with us when the client continues to come they are saying however ambivalently bring it on and this may well be something that they have never been in a position to say or think or do before it makes for an entirely new situation i don t believe we have adequately thought through what this means and how it makes therapy essentially different from that of a child infant with his her parents a client who persists with therapy says i choose you to be the person with whom i will attempt to feel and think things i have always avoided go to places no right minded person will go share experiences that drive me and will probably drive you crazy and if you prove understanding and trustworthy enough to whom i will say things i have never said before it s very likely our client has never said done this before it is new and will have profound consequences in enabling our client to find resources within themselves which they had never previously had cause to discover though this new situation may inevitably involve repetition for our behaviour thought and feelings are not starting from scratch it is profoundly different from what occurs with our parents who are there as a given from the beginning if we re lucky they re loving and thoughtful and mean well if we re even luckier they have some sense of what they have taken on in this most impossible of jobs and are in most ways adequate to it but i believe what parents sign up for is fundamentally different from that which analysts offer and so retrospectively understanding parents as inadequate analysts is a profound mistake if this isn t obvious there are a number of things that should make it more so it s simply out of order for parents to interpret their children i speak from experience here my daughter bristles rightly i m afraid whenever i m tempted to do so she simply has ...