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ccess fertility treatments two mums can be listed on a birth certificate surrogacy is an option for everyone including for gay dads we still have unfinished business on adoption but we intend to see that through too but my point is that these are huge changes that some people might have thought they would never see in their lifetimes and we achieved this through people power by turning up to their offices and to parliament house and putting ourselves in the media and showing those politicians that we are real people with real families we re not a social experiment and we re not emotionally abusive in fact we re no different to them and their families let s keep that up let s keep showing the politicians that we are no different to any of them that our love is equal there s some photos here if you re interested filed under politics 7 july 21 2010 j le i know we ll be fine if we learn to love the ride i remember that 14 months was hard and then 2 years old was hard but by crikey 3 is harder than them all the twinkle is spirited she s a challenge she s making mistakes and learning from them there have been days recently when i have been reduced to tears once in public in front of my office by the sheer exhaustion desperation humiliation of being a parent and i just have one kid and a partner i just don t know how single mums or parents of two or parents of kids with high support needs do it when k asks is it this hard for everyone i always say yes and i believed that was true but lately i wonder if i just want to believe that because it feels easier to think we re not the only ones who struggle one thing we haven t struggled with is toilet training because we pretty much didn t need to do it one evening about three weeks ago during her bath the twinkle announced i need to go to the toilet she got out of the bath sat on the toilet and did a wee and from then on she has been wearing undies in the first week there were a few accidents but now she s totally on top of it to the point where she has been wearing the same undies for three days in a row i know this is bad parenting but they are brobee undies and she just won t take them off and she insists they are clean and they are relative to pooed in or weeed in undies and having fights with her is so exhausting that we have learned to pick our battles and this is one we have chosen not to pick this week i m secretly hoping she ll wet the bed tonight so i can take them off her that s dodgy parenting right there too isn t it hoping your kid will wet the bed i didn t know i would be this bad a parent did i mention that we often arrive at childcare in the morning only for me to realise that the twinkle has porridge plastered across her face and matted hair are we perhaps a bit too relaxed no it s not that it s that i m so uptight about getting the kid fed and dressed and out the door in the morning still leaving me enough time to get to work on time that i have just blocked out parts of my responsibility ie keep her clean and tidy hang on is this our study or a confessional i m sitting in one of the reasons for the many screaming crying her us us her both both episodes is her difficulty with speech if you ve followed this blog for a while you ll know that we ve been waiting and waiting for the talking to all fall into place and it sort of never did she has a great vocab and comprehension and wants to talk about some fairly complicated stuff but she can t make the words sound right apparently this is a phonological speech disorder we put her on the waiting list for speech therapy after her two year old maternal and child health appointment it was a bit of a just in case measure we thought we probably wouldn t need it by the time we got to the top of the list but around the time she turned three she hit the top of the list and guess what she needs it in fact after four assessment appointments it took that long to assess her the speechy said she s pretty um put it this way it s good that we re getting in this early in the meantime k and i do our best to tune in to her particular dialect and help each other and grandparents and others to pick up what she s saying but when we don t get it right she gets really frustrated and fair enough too and lashes out we ve had to borrow this book from the library hands are not for hitting so day after day it feels like a challenge and then one day she ll be delightful like tonight she was fun and funny and calm and we never know when it will be like that we just try to grab those days and enjoy them and every day we remember to let her know we love her whether we re having a good day or a less good one or a really effing bad one filed under what she does what she says 8 april 29 2010 j le c mon join the joyride i am trying to get my shit together to start posting again i want to keep writing this blog but i lost my momentum and have found it hard to start again without filling in the massive gaps as i said to my clever friend kasey tonight sometimes i wish i were mia freedman and that i got paid to write my blog but then again if i were mia freedman i would have an unnatural obsession with celebrities and their body image and parenting skills so i guess i m glad i m just me i read mia freedman s book recently i expected not to like it i expected to have very little in common with her i had decided this based on her career as a fashion mag editor her writing in the how to be a suburban heterosexual manual also known as the sunday life magazine in the sunday age i read the book and i found myself enjoying it despite myself i found her likeable and real and not that different from me and i enjoyed reading her honest account of her experience of parenting now i follow her on twitter and sometimes read her blog and feel like i know her even though i quite obviously do not and she is still obsessed with celebs as per her previous career so i m not identical to her obviously ok i ve broken the drought and will try to keep the words trickling onto this page filed under life beyond parenting 3 march 22 2010 j le if you had peeked into our bathroom about 7pm tonight you would have found the twinkle in the bath with her skateboard scooter calling it alicia and insisting that we call her kayka tayla you would have heard her say to me hey boh yo jojo where s war ya laura jojo and laura are the staff in her room at childcare and she now calls me boh yo and k war ya and we have to call her tayla the name of a little girl at childcare but the bit where she called her skateboard alicia and put it in the bath and washed its handlebars arms horn nose rear wheels feet and front wheel bottom was when it all started to get ridiculous and then she got out of the bath wrapped alicia in a towel and insisted on carrying her in a cuddle all the way to the lounge filed under uncategorized 4 february 19 2010 j le when i get home to you when we did get around to changing our birth certificate it was lots of fun to do it with the pea green boat girls and the baybeasts and the pbx crew later that day the daily hyphen newspaper called me because of my volunteer work for a comment on the implementation of the legislation i mentioned that we had changed the birth certificate and suddenly we became the news in the paper and subsequently and weirdly on the radio i have to say that the photographer who took this photo for the paper was amazing and had the twinkle performing like a seasoned model this photo was taken after the twinkle s bedtime at the end of a work childcare day that had been over 40 degrees anyone who can make us look good in those circumstances gets my recommendation check her work out filed under politics 4 february 19 2010 j le such a lovely place it s been such a busy couple of months over christmas and new year and holidays and midsumma finally we have a weekend with no plans naaaaaaace the twinkle started at a new baby factory this week and has been remarkably resilient through the change she s also changed from two days per week to three as k has a new fulltime job yay for her for her first two days i left work early and picked her up straight after the lunchtime sleep and the carers all said she had been fine yesterday she had a full day and again they said she was doing really well although she was making a high pitched whiney sound when i got there and she kept it up for the 15 minute walk home and then had such an almighty tantrum when we got home i thought my head might explode or i might have to lock her in her bedroom naked and screaming in order to cope but thankfully just when i honestly reached my threshold she calmed right down and managed to be her usual cheerful self as we read books in her room we could hardly blame her for feeling tired and emotional after spending a whole day in a new place where people don t know her but i was glad she came back from the brink of crazy today s a day at home for me and this morning she was delightful mostly although she had no interest in putting on her clothes afraid i d take her to childcare if she got dressed she played heaps of imaginative games today and there was a precious moment where one of her baby dolls fell over and she picked her up and gently patted her and said ok baby she s not normally the gentle type she loves to re enact all of our routines with dolls in the dollshouse or other toys in the house or even act them out herself at lunchtime she did some elaborate cooking and tea making at her toy kitchen for me and grandma and grandpa then she put the dishes in an imaginary dishwasher and put the imaginary dishwasher powder in and switched it on and told me the dishes would be washed when she came home from work then she washed her hands with the soap which was dispensed from one corner of her toy stove cleaned her teeth with toothpaste from another corner and put sunscreen on her face from a third corner then she went and got her skateboard three wheeler scooter she inherited from my cousin s kids and kissed us and waved goodbye and told us she was going to nyerk work in the bathroom closing the bathroom door behind her and the scooter it was all very entertaining and sweet i know it s everyday stuff for kids but for us it s still a novelty the other funny thing she did this morning was when we were looking for something for her to wear i was letting her choose poose in the hope that it would motivate her to hurry up and get dressed she pulled out these floral overalls which are from one of the trendy surfie brands and told me she couldn t wear them because she was scared of them then she hid them in a corner of her room ok so i m back on the blog perhaps i ll blog more this weekend filed under what she does 2 january 12 2010 j le come and play everything s a ok hottest night on record slept on floor in lounge room under air con k and i took hours to fall asleep only to be woken by an early rising twinkle poking our noses and asking for apple juice we re all a bit hot and cranky thank goodness sesame street is on now to distract the twinkle from yelling filed under love and life 0 january 9 2010 j le together again for the first time the moment finally arrived the one we campaigned for for years then waited for another 13 months to come into effect the one where k was finally able to be recognised as the twinkle s parent recognised on a piece of paper that is she s been recognised as her parent every day for 3 ish years now in real life but that very symbolic moment arrived where we could name her on the birth certificate yay the excitement built in the days leading up to it and we got ourselves all organised bright and early that morning to go in and fill in the fateful form but as we pulled out of the driveway a nasty case of gastro hit k and we had to go back inside and change our plans the next day the twinkle got gastro and i got it the day after that ugh and despite the slight sense of let down there was a bigger sense of so what we ve come this far what s another week what difference will the piece of paper make the best thing about this is that a bunch of lovely families have also left it till this coming week so we re going together and i m sure the atmosphere will be positively party like i m not sure how to celebrate this occasion mum asked if we were having a party we haven t planned one but not because we don t think this is party worthy probably mainly because we haven t been organised enough i wanted to find a way of marking it and remembering it for the twinkle and k but then again it s a bit like celebrating the day bureaucracy sorted out its paperwork it s not like it s the day that k actually became a parent of course i offered threatened to send flower to k s work but she begged me not to maybe we will just have ice cream and grin at each other and k can take her official parental role of licking the drippy bits of ice cream off the twinkle s chin and that can be our commemoration i look forward to handing the new birth certificate to childcare and asking them to give back the parenting orders they have on file gosh weren t they an intrusive and offensive document to have to lug around i remember the day we enrolled and our childcare worker read the orders in front of us and i hated it i look forward to the domino effect of having two mothers named on birth certificates meaning that other organisations will have to start accommodating this instead of pretending there is just one parent because they can t enter k s name under father time to update your client management software folks the old birth certificate is in the back seat of the car where it has been since the gastro moment last monday until now it has of course always been carefully looked after filed kept uncreased and unstained very few things are treated this way in our house as befits an important document but now that there is nearly a new accurate birth certificate in its way to us the old one has been sat on leaked on shoved around stood on and i don t care to save it from this situation it s worth nothing to us now they can have it back see you at the registry on monday filed under love and life politics 8 january 4 2010 j le you d better watch out you d better not cry we should have given the twinkle more credit a long time ago when it comes to her comfort items we steeled ourselves for a difficult week or so when we were taking her dummy from her and were pleasantly surprised we were going to have santa father christmas take her dummies on christmas eve to give to a baby who needs them and leave her presents in return but as christmas approached we got nervous about the twinkle being traumatised by father christmas taking her favourite thing and her never loving him again and the twinkle crying all night on christmas eve and being ratshit all day christmas day ditto the next two days which were also big family days so we put it off by three days then we came up with this complicated scheme so she wou...