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s a second taste of shocking violet a taste of shocking violet stone dynamics where pleasure resides what is stone my trans and genderqueer erotica desiring faggotry how much realism should be part of bdsm erotica my two favorite love poems of all time the complexity of tops illustrating verbal negotiation of consent in sex scenes kinky erotica from the top s point of view a piece of the rwa puzzle december 26 2019 by xanwest in romance writing writing tagged ableism fat oppression gatekeeping inclusion nine of swords reversed oppression ownvoices queer oppression representation romance rwa their troublesome crush trans oppression 20 comments i ve been thinking about all that s been happening with rwa the recent actions of the board and the stories that are coming out now about the ways marginalized people have been treated by this organization and i think it s really useful in these situations to gather pieces of the puzzle in order to parse patterns so i want to my letter to the rwa board istandwithcourtney december 24 2019 by xanwest in community romance writing unpacking oppression and abuse tagged courtney milan oppression racism rwa 3 comments i sent this letter early this morning regarding this situation i may have further to say about this but this is a start to the members of the board of romance writers of america i joined rwa because i felt hopeful that the organization was taking steps to be more inclusive address the widespread queer classics rewatch if these walls could talk 2 december 6 2019 by xanwest in community romance writing writing tagged butch characters butch representation butch femme feminisms gender policing historical romance if these walls could talk 2 othering purging queer communities rewatching queer classics trans antagonism leave a comment as a heads up this post discusses gender policing purges within lesbian feminism and anti butch hatred and trans antagonism i m toying with the idea of writing about my experiences rewatching films and tv and perhaps rereading books as well that were important to me as a younger queer person and discussing what i get from new story published on sugarbutch october 7 2019 by xanwest in erotica writing tagged a good beating ace character ace spectrum age gap aroace character aromantic character cathartic bdsm cathartic play demiromantic character fat characters gray ace character m m erotica m m with trans man lead playing with rage shocking violet trans man character 4 comments i m thrilled to announce that my cis m trans m story a good beating has been published on sugarbutch net it s an excerpt from my wip novel shockingviolet and it depicts a cathartic sm scene between long term play partners hunter is a muscled bearded silver fox aroace gay cis leatherman dominant sadist who lives with his 2019 national leather association writing awards august 19 2019 by xanwest in erotica writing writing tagged autistic characters awards best lesbian erotica of the year vol 3 building something new leather community nla awards the big book of submission vol 2 trying submission leave a comment i am incredibly honored to have won two 2019 nla writing awards it means so much to me to have my work recognized and valued by leather community in this way my story trying submission from the anthology best lesbian erotica of the year vol 3 just won the national leather association john preston short fiction ask the author a sex question april 30 2019 by xanwest in erotica writing sex and kink writing tagged cum shot ejaculation missing daddy orgasm sex sex normativity sexuality show yourself to me strap on sex trans man character trans sexuality 1 comment i got a question from someone who was reading my queer kink erotica collection show yourself to me since this is a rather common thing that i get asked about i thought i d post the question and my answer here as a heads up this post openly discusses a daddy boy relationship blood sports sex barebacking story notes for nine of swords reversed january 9 2019 by xanwest in disability fat activism and representation queer and trans writing tagged autism backstory chronic pain fat food ghosts magic nine of swords reversed rose lemberg spoonie story notes tarot 8 comments these notes are intended to illuminate specific details about my novelette nine of swords reversed they contain some spoilers and are best read after reading the book as a heads up this post briefly references kink discusses ghosts and death and includes reclaimed identity words like queer and faggot for information about the pronouns and nine of swords reversed december 31 2018 by xanwest in disability queer and trans sex and kink writing tagged autism autistic characters d s disability representation disabled characters fat characters genderfluid characters jewish characters kink fiction new release nine of swords reversed non sexual kink relationship on the rocks trope romance service speculative fiction 6 comments as a heads up this post discusses kink and in particular d s at length and also discusses representation of non sexual kink in kink lit my novelette nine of swords reversed releases today this is my first self published book my first published romance and i am thrilled beyond measure to share this story which is very the alchemy of d s december 12 2018 by xanwest in erotica writing sex and kink tagged alchemy autism autistic characters best lesbian erotica of the year vol 3 black characters d s disabled characters kink with no sex latinx characters lesbian characters novice service shocking violet submission tipping point trans characters trying submission 1 comment this post is part of the blog tour for best lesbian erotica of the year volume 3 as a heads up this post discusses d s dynamics at length and detail with particular focus on service based submission it briefly references pain play i have very fond memories of my first experience with service based submission there was why i care about depicting survivors of abusive bdsm continuing to do kink november 8 2018 by xanwest in consent and anti violence disability personal sex and kink unpacking oppression and abuse writing tagged ableism abuse abusive bdsm relationships anti kink prejudice consent dancing for daddy discernment kink community mental illness shocking violet show yourself to me survivor writing characters who are trauma survivors writing process 4 comments as a heads up this post discusses abusive bdsm relationships intimate partner violence and sexual assault it also discusses ableism and stigma around mental illness in kink communities anti kink prejudice in survivor spaces and therapeutic treatment and kink community responses to abuse it includes a brief reference to an abusive therapist it includes a brief on taboo erotica june 5 2018 by xanwest in erotica writing sex and kink writing tagged bdsm erotica content warnings dark erotica edge play fantasy erotica vs bdsm realism reading erotica taboo erotica taboo kink trauma triggers 4 comments as a heads up this post discusses taboo erotica it mentions and occasionally gives examples that briefly describe some content of taboo erotica and some common taboo kinks like incest play nonconsent and water sports it also discusses being a survivor of trauma and having taboo fantasies though not in detail i ve been writing and a valentines day excerpt from shocking violet february 14 2018 by xanwest in stone writing tagged autism autistic characters boots d s dance me to the end of love dancing edge play excerpt kink with no sex making mistakes music shocking violet stone 4 comments i thought i would post an excerpt from shocking violet my kinky queer polyamorous romance novel wip for valentine s day as a present for you it s been over a year since i posted one and i am nearing the finish line in my first draft this is from jax and violet s second date jax is valuing the dominants consent and needs in kink negotiation december 19 2017 by xanwest in consent and anti violence erotica writing sex and kink tagged big book of submission vol 2 consent d s dominant consent domism erotica flash fiction kink kink community mutuality publications queer queer characters rachel kramer bussel shocking violet trans trans characters vulnerable tops writing erotica 7 comments as a heads up this post will discuss consent and negotiation in bdsm and specifically focuses on d s it briefly references consen violations abuse and sexual assault building something new is a d s focused story centering two trans queers who have been regular play partners for two years and are exploring taking their d s on internalizing the cis gaze when thinking about sex and relationships march 29 2017 by xanwest in queer and trans sex and kink unpacking oppression and abuse writing tagged amatonormativity cis gaze ciscentrism cissexism compulsory sexuality dating politics non binary non binary authors non binary characters queer queer romance relationships romance sexnormativity sexual subjectivity trans trans authors trans characters trans erotica trans non binary trans oppression trans readers trans representation trans romance trans sexuality transmasculine 14 comments as a heads up this essay tells several detailed stories about transmasculine people internalizing the cis gaze and passing those messages on to other transmasculine people particularly with regards to sex dating romance and relationships and the representation of trans and or non binary people in romance and erotica it includes descriptions of cissexism and internalized trans safewords in kink life and in kink fiction march 1 2017 by xanwest in consent and anti violence sex and kink writing tagged abusive bdsm relationships autism autistic characters bdsm bdsm erotica bdsm romance communication consent kink kink community negotiation no safewords trauma yes 16 comments as a heads up this post will discuss consent in bdsm at length and with nuance and will reference an abusive bdsm relationship briefly without giving details a few words about safewords some kinky folks absolutely believe that safewords are necessary across the board for everyone some believe that it might be different with experienced dailycoping strategies round up november 18 2016 by xanwest in community consent and anti violence tagged autism coping mental health mental illness survival survivor trauma 3 comments i began a new project this week each day on twitter i do a series of tweets describing one of my coping strategies and talking about how it works what it is esp useful for where i learned about it as storify is shutting down i m linking directly to the beginning of the threads if writing sex scenes with less cissexism pt 2 story level trans exclusion november 15 2016 by xanwest in queer and trans unpacking oppression and abuse writing tagged cissexism erotica writing non binary non binary characters romance sex scenes trans trans characters trans exclusion 5 comments this is the second post in a series for writers especially writers of erotica and romance this series is focused on writing sex scenes with trans and or non binary characters in a way that includes less unintentional cissexism part 1 focused on cissexism between characters during sex scenes parts 2 6 focus on bigger picture questions and narrative centering disabled characters in my erotica may 1 2016 by xanwest in disability erotica writing tagged disability disabled characters editing insider stories kink vulnerable tops writing erotica 26 comments this post has been written for blogging against disablism day 2016 in 2012 i started a new phase of writing i decided to deliberately center disabled and sick characters in my erotic writing this project began with the initial writing of my tam lin retelling the tale of jan tam in which i imagine writing fat characters in erotica why it matters to me january 27 2016 by xanwest in erotica writing fat activism and representation tagged fat activism fat pride erotica sexual subjectivity shocking violet show yourself to me writing erotica 30 comments as a heads up this post contains brief descriptions of sex and detailed descriptions of the ways fat oppression intersects with sexuality as an adolescent most of my peers thought i could not possibly be a viable sexual object because i was fat they made it clear that no one would ever want to date unpacking assumptions about sex and stoneness june 28 2015 by xanwest in sex and kink stone tagged assumptions queer sex stone top s pov trans 20 comments this is the third post in my stone blog series it may be helpful to read the series in order starting with the first post defining stone and then reading the post describing the pleasures of stone sexuality before reading this post stone avoids notice skirts the light prefers not to be spoken of obfuscates birthday giveaway august 1 2019 by xanwest in giveaways queer and trans romance writing tagged art giveaway interviews nine of swords reversed noel hempel tarot the numinous tarot 34 comments so today is my birthday and what better day to start an awesome giveaway tarot themed giveaway bundle i m very excited to offer a tarot themed giveaway bundle that includes a copy of my tarot themed contemporary romance novelette nine of swords reversed for entrants in the us or canada either a copy of the numinous tarot or post navigation older posts top posts pages writing awards to consider as an indie author of romance erotica one sadist s consent erotica featuring group sex search blogroll 5 ways to make the ya book community more inclusive for teenagers a roundup of things i ve written about trauma and abuse alysia angel border war dispatches circumstance and carefulness engaging with ya from a trauma framework trigger warnings for readers how to review a trans book as a cis person i didn t dream of dragons kinky nerdy leaving evidence my monthly column at erotica readers and writers association native appropriations poly 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