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ment is everyone is using it but if it smells good why not recommend it avatar i watched avatar six years after its release the reason i delayed watching one of the most successful box office movies is because i thought the story characters and universe were ridiculous i didn t understand how some people sleeping in boxes to become animals and fight with other animals on another planet could be so appealing i remember the night i watched avatar i was badly looking for a great movie and had the idea to check the most successful box office films the first one was avatar the second was titanic it was out of the question to watch titanic for the hundredth time so that s how i discovered that masterpiece there is a reason why michael jackson is the king of pop there is a reason why the iphone is the most popular smartphone in the world there is a reason why game of thrones is the most talked about series in the world when something continues to attract millions despite criticism it s worth asking why and discovering it yourself because popularity when sustained is rarely accidental zo experiences thoughts 14 comments 27 december 2025 29 december 2025 3 minutes the avoidant who tries to be secure writing it s february let s talk love was probably one of the most important posts in term of personal emotional awareness because it opened my eyes on how i perceive love and how i deal with it this pushed me to read more often about attachment relationships and human psychology in order to fix myself if you read it s february let s talk love you ll discover that i have an avoidant attachment style which is characterized by emotional distance a strong need for independence and discomfort with vulnerability unfortunately that avoidant style cost me a lot of relationships the avoidant attachment style is one of the three known attachment styles anxious attachment style characterized by a strong fear of abandonment constant need for reassurance and emotional dependence secure attachment style characterized by comfort with emotional closeness healthy independence effective communication trust in others and confidence in the stability of the relationship my ultimate goal was to move from avoidant attachment style to secure attachment style then finally i would be able to experience a healthy and happy relationship spoiler from what i read i found out that i can t or rather it s complicated to move from one attachment style to another because it is related to profound reasons that lead to the development of that attachment style but at least i can minimize its impact so it doesn t ruin my future relationships after digging deep into the subject of attachment styles i understood why my relationships were falling apart i used them as a reference and could categorize my past relations into three different types cringy heavy and scary avoidant anxious cringy on one side you have someone who s completely emotionally distant on the other side you have someone who s craving emotions as an avoidant i was perceiving this constant need for emotions from my partner as immature and childish almost cringe worthy i believed that they should be emotionaly self fulfilled i understand now that i was wrong the human being needs affection from their partner in order to feel desired secure and happy avoidant avoidant heavy in this relationship both parties are walking in opposite directions they both like each other but it s hard for them to express it or even acknowledge it as an avoidant i tend to use love languages like acts of service or giving gifts which is great but what really nurtures a relationship are the more intimate love languages like words of affirmation or physical touch avoidant secure scary one of the strategies that avoidants use to emotionally deactivate themselves from their partners is saying she he is not the one and the day the avoidant finds the perfect one with a secure attachment style who offers comfort and healthy independence things start getting scary as an avoidant i start to get worried pessimistic and anxious questions might start rising what if she hurts me once i get attached what if i waste my time and then we separate what if i can t fulfill her emotional desires i simply activate the i m not ready to commit strategy but why i was scared even the presence of all the green flags on her statistically speaking you re more likely to meet an avoidant or an anxious person these types of people constantly challenge your nervous system while being with them something that secure people don t do so when by chance you meet a secure person you think that something is wrong you don t feel it with that person why don t you experience the same challenging feelings you used to have with the others this is something completely new to you and the unknown is scary being an avoidant is probably the worst of the three attachment styles it s not simple to get rid of it because it s usually developed in childhood but as i said before there are some elements that can help overcome it like communication and stopping the deactivating strategies explain to your partner your attachment style and your love language so when you suddenly unplug while things are flourishing or when you offer a brand new iphone while you partner needs to hear an i love you they would understand understand that this mismatch is part of the process and it s not a lack of interest or love stop the behaviors you use to create emotional distance in relationships including avoiding commitment while staying in the relationship focusing on a partner s flaws idealizing an ex flirting with others withholding verbal affection pulling away after intimacy keeping secrets and avoiding physical closeness but most important of all know yourself understand your attachment style and your love language and how others may perceive them try to work on them then when you meet your partner or even if you re already with someone you ll both be able to enjoy your relationship zo experiences thoughts 6 comments 4 july 2025 31 may 2026 3 minutes here forever as any normal human being in this planet there comes times in my life when i feel like every single piece on me is broken darkness surrounding bad thoughts dominating and physically aching nothing runs well not even crawling when i experience these tough times i feel like it s the end there is no way i can get through it because during these low moments there are no signs of hope that at least i can hold onto to stand up it s been two months since i m stuck inside that black hole again and frankly speaking i still haven t figured out how to escape it yet but this time it feels different this time i have a sort of hope a voice inside me that tells me you can evade this trap everything will be alright don t worry mate and this voice spoke to me yesterday why exactly yesterday simply because i browsed my blog this blog yesterday i realized that i write on this blog mostly when i m not in my best days while i was reading the old posts i felt joy and peace something i hadn t experienced since two months that gave me hope a voice that told me if you could survive the old dark times you can surely survive the new ones somehow yesterday i realized that i created this blog to soothe myself it s a kind of refuge from the struggles of life to the peace of words yesterday i confirmed that blogging is the thing that gives me the last breath when there is none left that s why i keep coming back even after taking breaks for years without writing today i realized that i created this blog ten years ago and probably it s the best thing i ve ever done that s why i ll be here forever zo uncategorized 8 comments 28 march 2025 8 november 2025 1 minute clean shit train a bit and repeat all day in bed doing nothing but scrolling eating and repeating depression and anxiety hit you so hard you broke feel bad and you hate your life you want to change something but you lack the motivation to take the first step you don t even know from where to start as you re stuck in a deep dark pit and nothing sounds right at the moment that night at 3 am you watched that you can do it video and it gave you the feeling that you have the power to end poverty in the world even though you don t know how you would pay your next month s bills that night you decided to start putting your life together change yourself and become a brand new person promising to do it tomorrow what a liar let s be honest we all know you won t start tomorrow or the day after the reason being a you want to go from 0 to a 100 in one day and b you have no idea where to start so forget about the plan of becoming a brand new person save it for another day instead what you have to do is clean shit train a bit and repeat clean shit in my personal humble experience i have never seen a depressed feeling bad person living in a clean environment you will always find them living in a garbage dirty cloths thrown on the floor 3 days dishes compiled on the sink eating junk food i don t know if depression that leads to garbage environment or garbage environment that leads to depression until it is proven start to clean your space your body and what you eat this has an immediate feel good effect on you and gives you the will power to change things train a bit humans have existed for 200 000 years and during all this time they were fighting for their survival cultivating their food and building their own houses human body is used to be active the lazy life we know in modern society has started only in the 19th century you can t change 199 800 years of body habits in just 200 years just start by going for a long walk in a park your body needs to move to wakeup and provide the energy you need to change things repeat you have to establish a routine it doesn t matter what you will do in your day you can wake up late play video games or read a book if you want the most important is to do the same thing the same time everyday that will teach you consistency which will help you to keep up fighting for the long run inner peace good shape and consistency are all you need to scale up your life and they are not that hard to achieve as you may see of course there are many other ways to attain them my method is clean shit train a bit and repeat zo experiences thoughts 10 comments 10 march 2024 5 july 2025 2 minutes 1 year 9 uncomfortably honest truths i learned about family if you have a loving family you are lucky nothing in this world could be as healing as calling your parents and talking with them about friends if you want friends work on yourself succeed and your phone won t stop ringing it s all about mutual interests about enemies you are the main source of the shitty situations you ve been in your exclusive best enemy is you about failure the cause for your failure is procrastination if you do what you have to do when you have to do it everything will go as smooth as a hot knife through soft warm butter about success it demands a supreme power to succeed whether it be god a strong network or becoming a superman no shortcuts about happiness sadness is the foundation of happiness you have to go through it first in order to value happiness during those dark times observe the little beautiful things around you they are the sunshine that helps you to navigate happiness is found in little things about sadness the cure of sadness is finding an income source that keeps you busy and wealthy about maturity you re a boy until you meet that woman and then you become a man some say you become a man the day your daddy dies maturity is embracing responsibility about death to understand how colossal death is just observe how drastically things change after the death of someone nothing will ever be the same again zo thoughts 3 comments 1 march 2024 9 july 2026 1 minute it s february let s talk love 02 02 2023 that day i was sitting in a stunning café in kadıköy sensing the slight breeze coming from the outside while i was enjoying my latte at that moment i asked myself what if today is the last day of my life what is the thing i didn t do that i would regret the most two things crossed my mind 1 i regret not visiting south korea and the reason why i would like to go there is because i believe that south korea has the best coffee shops in the world and only god knows how much i admire sitting in cafés and drinking a latte so me going to south korea is like taking a kid to disneyland 2 i regret not experiencing real love if i can quote myself that day i described real love as an unconditional love where you talk when you need to you remain silent if you want to and you are not forced to do anything it is just an easy going relation why why didn t i experience the real love am i the problem or the girls i ve been with were the issue deep down in me i already knew the answer but my ego didn t let me admit it until in one of those videos i ve watched recently they talked about something called attachment style test it is basically a test that you can take online and it tells you what kind of person you are when it comes to getting attached to someone i discovered that mine was avoidant attachment style so i finally confirmed that i was the problem and those innocent beautiful ex ladies have nothing to do with it me and love when it comes to loving someone i m very very selective i mean if the girl doesn t check a single box on my list it won t work sometimes i admit that the girl i m with is wonderful and even the people around me tell me that she is the one but few months later we separate i m kinda looking for a unicorn that i know i m never gonna find me and the unicorn few months after the idea of not experiencing real love crossed my mind i went back to istanbul again i took an airbnb planning to stay there for a week or so in that airbnb i met the unicorn and within the first few hours of chatting with her she already checked all the boxes she was perfect we were spending all the days and nights together i didn t feel the time running with her i was supposed to stay for a week but i kept extending it until i reached a month i didn t want to leave that place just to spend more time with her i was talking when i needed to i was remaining silent if i wanted to i wasn t forced to do anything it was just easy going and for the first time in my life something i ve never thought about crossed my mind i wanted to marry that girl and this scared the shit out of me me and fear you need to know something about me i never ever get scared to give you an idea at what scale nothing can scare me once i was on a plane it was about to crash everyone around me was screaming hell loud and i didn t even flinch but when the idea of commitment came in mind it was like the end of the world because i m not a unicorn yet you see that checklist i have for every girl i discovered that i have the same for myself i found out that if i get married now i will not provi...