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missing noah life after losing our second son menu skip to content home about our ttc story resources missing noah life after losing our second son post navigation older posts when people say you murdered your baby february 11 2019 by missing noah i know i ve been absent but i need to get this out if anyone is still here forgive me for only coming here in pain i m struggling with everything in the news with everything being posted i have been unfriended by family i have had people i considered friends tell me unknowing that it applies to me that people who terminate for medical reasons torture and murder innocent babies that doctors are often wrong and if we didn t there might be a miracle performed and they would live another loss mom has moved to our town she had a medically fragile child die i think she sees a lot of her child in the diagnoses prognoses and stories of those of us who chose to tfmr right or not she can t imagine making a different choice and so views our choice as a threat to her world it seems black and white for so many if you ctt those who tfmr must be wrong they must want to force their choice on you they must be judging you for allowing any pain that occurred for your child and if you tfmr it s the opposite those who ctt must be judging and we often are being judged i am a facilitator for the local loss grief support group i know this know this new mom to town knows about it i don t think she knows my story i am unsure if we can coexist together i m doubtful so i m left with choices discourage her from coming deal with her coming either by hiding my story or sharing knowing that she will probably hate me and never come back or step back leave the support circle so that she can have that space because it seems like it is likely a safe space for her or me but not both so who is more worthy and that is when the guilt and the shame comes in i wish i didn t have it i am secure in our choice it was the right one for us but then times like these come and i feel battered down i know how some would look at me differently i know that telling my truth could effect future jobs make trouble for any school i taught at and it can effect my living kids the mom that says people like me are murderers our kids are the same age we live in the same neighborhood belong to the same pool and have our kids in the same scout troop i will see her multiple times a week for years to come if she knew would she still let her kid play with mine let my husband be his den leader will her kid call my family murderers on the playground and that breaks me the fear for my living boys the thought of ostracism in this town we love and i know there are those who would have our backs but right now the world seems cold and cruel and unsafe share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in abortion fear grief siblings triggers tagged anger community fear judgement pro choice tfmr 2 comments a and a facebook psa march 21 2018 by missing noah i spent a long time with many facebook friends hidden if they were due around the same time as me or of their childshares a birthdate i just couldn t do it little by little i re followed unhid them all but then this month comes i love my friends and their kids i am past the ache at every mention or picture but for those celebrating their child s 4th birthday this month it still stings their child is here as they should be and mine is not so rather than just hiding individual posts or hiding them and needing to undo it later there is a snooze button for 30 days i can bury my head in the sand and hide the reminders that we should have children the exact same age but mine died next month i will like the cute pictures i will laugh at the silly things they do i will digitally send for the hard moments but for this month i will hold space for my own 4yr old and my grief that he isn t here share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in uncategorized leave a comment noah s 4th birthday october 20 2017 by missing noah today we did acts of kindness for noah and we asked others to join us we went for a beautiful hike to the waterfall we had dinner and cake and tried to explain to sam who all of this was for owen gets it in a way that i wonder if sam ever will at sam s age owen had already experienced death loss and heartbreak in some ways even though he was born into a bereaved family sam has never had loss he is lighter for it four years ago tonight we were on the most surreal drive of our lives having given birth 12 hours before we drove two hours with our baby in a tiny white coffin to take him to the funeral home and say goodbye it is the hardest thing i have ever done still i am glad for the time we had with him and that we have pictures of him he had high cheekbones like owen and sam and my side of the family his lips and his nose were like theirs too i mostly share the pretty black and white softened pictures from nilmdts but you can t see him as well in them you don t see all the disturbing things his bright red paper thin skin his huge squishy head swollen with fluid but you also don t see that he has our cheeks my nose his dad s eyes nilmdts is an amazing organization and i am so greatful for beautiful pictures that i can have up in my house but i love the real pictures too even if no one else wants to see them share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in birthday family rainbow sibling grief leave a comment capture your grief day 6 bella luna october 7 2017 by missing noah the prompt for today involved taking a picture of the rising full moon only it isn t full here the person who runs cyg is based in australia in australia the full moon rose on october 6th here it was on october 5th the challenges of touching people all over the world this moon looks full you can t easily tell at a glance that a piece is missing just like you can t tell looking at our family there is a shadow small but present you look at our family and we look like a happy family of four but if you look close if you listen you can tell owen will tell you the pictures on our wall show him the handprint necklace i wear small but present these signs that noah was here our family looks full but we only wish it were so captureyourgrief captureyourgrief2017 share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in capture your grief leave a comment capture your grief day 5 soul therapy october 6 2017 by missing noah crocheting is soothing i didn t pick it up until i had this desperate need to learn so i could create something after noah died when i am anxious and jumpy and need call crochet helps it s repetitive rhythmic and soothing i prefer projects with small goals so that i can see what i am creating taking shape i have always loved the line from rent the opposite of war isn t peace it s creation grief can feel like a war with the world with why s with your emotions with yourself you are geared up for battle but you can t fight death so we get angry and lash out at those who try to comfort us or at those who are silent creating can channel all of that tension elsewhere captureyourgrief captureyourgrief2017 share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in capture your grief leave a comment captureyourgrief day 4 belonging october 5 2017 by missing noah apparently there isn t a good picture of all three of us so this will have to do we had only met 4 months before i was on bedrest they took care of me took care of my family and supported us in every way they were some of the first to know when everything went downhill fast i spent more time crying on their couches than i can count i knew i was always welcome and there was nothing but understanding they are my tribe my family we celebrate together vent together and mourn together from the mundane to the big things we ve been there for it all they say you see people s true colors when a tragedy happens these two were here at the hardest time of our lives they walked in when it would have been so easy to walk out captureyourgrief captureyourgrief2017 share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in capture your grief leave a comment capture your grief day 3 meaningful mantra october 3 2017 by missing noah love is enough i am feeling unprepared this year i have so much i try to do in october to honor noah s memory to show how much he means that he is part of our family so we can share him and he will never be forgotten i ve been feeling a lot of pressure to do as much if not more than the previous three years to show that we are not forgetting but i know we are not we don t need a big show to honor him to love him love is enough this month i am going to try to relax to focus on love and not the stress of doing enough love is enough captureyourgrief captureyourgrief2017 share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in capture your grief 1 comment capture your grief day 2 rise shine mourning ritual october 2 2017 by missing noah today s instruction was to take a few moments of silence first thing in the morning and to hold space for yourself mornings are hectic here usually i hit the ground running often waking up with one or more children in my bed but there is also this noah s molly bear weighing the same amount he weighed i spent a few moments just sitting and holding noah s bear even in our hectic mornings he is there captureyourgrief captureyourgrief2017 share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in capture your grief 2 comments capture your grief day one sunrise october 1 2017 by missing noah i am not a morning person anyone who knows me knows that is an understatement but once a year i set my alarm earlier than i need to to capture the sunrise i do it for noah once a year october arrives and with it memories of a little boy whose stay was far too short this sunrise was grey it has been raining for days and clouds hover i am feeling grey run down worn out as fall has started with kindergarten and preschool 2 sets of teachers needs adjustments and friends i wonder how would i do this with three what would life look like if he were alive i can barely keep my head above water with two needs pulling at me i watch a family with three living boys and think that should be me and could i have done that i d like to think in another world i am in another world they all exist i know there would be enough love to go around captureyourgrief captureyourgrief2017 share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in capture your grief parenting after loss tagged capture your grief leave a comment joy and grief september 28 2017 by missing noah one person s day of joy is another s day of grief today is owen s 6th birthday for one friend it is also the 7th anniversary of the sudden death of her brother for another it is her daughter s 2nd stillbirthday joy and grief are not comfortable bedfellows noah s birthday is the same day as a friend of owen s i try to hold space for both and to allow them to coexist in the same day but i feel for everyone whose day of grief is another s day of joy share this share on x opens in new window x share on facebook opens in new window facebook like loading posted in grief holidays tagged birthday grief joy leave a comment post navigation older posts search recent posts when people say you murdered your baby a and a facebook psa noah s 4th birthday capture your grief day 6 bella luna capture your grief day 5 soul therapy archives 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