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es and adoptive parents who make money off of transactions related to adoption it s important who we say we are who or what we support and how we present ourselves in and outside the adoption realm why because adoption is already complicated it s not just filled with people who are grateful for the option of adoption it s also filled with those who are hurt and searching for someone to trust and help them heal it s also a community for those who are looking for adoption resources that align with their own personal or moral beliefs the adoption triad must hold one another accountable in good faith and with the right motives so that we can unite together to make things better it takes a village just be honest talkaboutadoption honesty integrity prolove prolife openadoption adoptionoverabortion lovethemboth choosewisely birthmoms adoptiontriad the first thing i thought was ethical adoption agencies it s difficult to imagine such a thing they used the words company and business what do companies and businesses have to do to keep the doors open they have to make money the adoption system is largely unregulated so how can making money and children changing hands be done ethically there are several problems with this post but the things that really got me were the adoption triad must hold one another accountable and just be honest really i commented on that post one woman replied with the usual notall i explained a bit more saying that i was speaking specifically of domestic infant adoption then she asked if i knew this from experience and i said i did and i personally knew many many others with the same kind of experience her only reply was ok when i went back to see if anyone else had commented on that post i saw that my comment and the entire thread was deleted and i was blocked from the page how s that for irony just be honest they said sure but only if you re super happy about adoption just spew the usual rainbows and butterflies version and then we ll listen to you and your honesty funny how they want us to talk about adoption but only if we say the words they want us to say posted by carlynne hershberger cpsa at 10 56 am no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest labels adoptee adoption adoption industry birthmother ethics h triad ho triad hon triad hone triad hones triad honest triad honesty honesty triad irony talk about adoption triad wednesday april 22 2020 a meme and a prayer i came across this meme online it was first on twitter you can see the twitter handle of the person who wrote it ihateadoption i thought it was a brilliant bit of satire but apparently many people are very upset by it i shared it on my ig page and then i saw it posted on fb a lot of the people commenting on the post were very upset by what it says calling it sick evil written by a troll terrible disgusting distorted revolting offensive nasty horrible selfish atrocious and it must have been written by a cold evil propaganda drama causing monster every one of those adjectives was taken from the comment thread on this meme some assumed it was written by an angry and bitter first birth mom it was actually written by an adoptee you know the one who is supposed to be happy and grateful what many of these folks don t see is the satire they assume it s saying that this is how adoptive parents actually pray they re taking it literally when they should be looking at what s behind the words i also commented on that thread it does sound very sick but aren t those the things that happen in order for a mother to relinquish if they re praying to adopt a newborn then in essence that s what they re wishing to happen no i don t believe that adopters says these words when they pray they don t say it consciously in many cases they re lied to just like the expectent mom is lied to by the adoption agency they believe what they re told because that s what they want to believe if they believe then maybe they can get what they want it s easy to set aside any doubts or misgivings about the process when you re being told you ll get what you desire but i do have to ask those adopters do you believe in the stork theory of where babies come from how are you praying for your little bundle to arrive those babies don t just fall from the sky let s break it down i pray for a child any child will do when an adoption fails what happens the mother decides to keep and raise her baby in my book that s not a fail it s a win for the child and mother the couple then moves on to the next expectant mom who under the agency guidance picks them from a book the first one didn t work out so maybe the next one will any child will do i pray a pregnant woman is in crisis i pray she is lost and alone i pray her man and family forsake her i pray she is broke and homeless a woman who is not in crisis who is not lost and alone doesn t go to an agency seeking help a woman who has family support or support from the baby s father doesn t go to an agency seeking help a woman who has a home and money in the bank doesn t go to an agency seeking help i pray she chooses the drugs i pray that she stays involved in violence if she s addicted to drugs and can t find help her baby will likely be taken from her there ya go a baby to answer that prayer for a baby to adopt where is the prayer for the mother s help and healing so she can take care of her baby if there s domestic violence a mother will be terrified to bring a baby into that world if she has help to get out of the situation or help with rehab she s not likely to go to an agency for help in order for her to lose her baby to the adoption industry she would still be using or still stuck with an abuser all of these situations are used against her by the adoption agencies to convince her to go through that book and look at couples to take her baby so when someone prays to adopt a newborn baby they are praying for these things to happen they may not do it intentionally but that s the reality of it because if it weren t for these situations the baby wouldn t be available in the first place now look at the second half of the meme i pray she chooses me to save her baby from herself i pray she hates herself enough to believe i m better in order for her to surrender she has to be convinced that she s not good enough for her own baby what else are those profile books for that the agency has the adopting couple make they re full of pictures and essays about how wonderful they are the trips they take the dog they have the house they live in etc the message is that the couple is better than the mom it s intention is to make the mom feel less than so she ll give her baby to someone better i pray this family falls apart i want one of the pieces in order for adopters to get the baby they re praying for another family has to be destroyed there s just no getting around that you can paint it in rainbow colors and slap daisies all over it but it doesn t change the fact that a mother is losing a child and a child is losing an entire family that child is forever legally severed from his own flesh and blood and no reunion doesn t fix it and open adoption doesn t fix it i pray a child suffers so i can be mom i can t imagine people actually using these words and praying such a thing but the truth is every adoption includes trauma babies are traumatized by the separation from mother they are not blank slates they know their mother s voice heartbeat and smell they search for their mother because they think they re still part of her they suffer when they re taken away from her if you re praying to adopt a newborn in essence you are asking for a baby to suffer period and i m sorry to say that love from the adopters is not enough to take that pain away when you really examine what the adoptee was saying with this prayer it boils down to selfishness infant adoption is a selfish act adults want what they want and it doesn t seem to matter how it affects another entire family or how it affects a newborn baby the image and words are making people angry and upset good maybe it will cause some of them to think about the message and reality behind it posted by carlynne hershberger cpsa at 10 50 am 3 comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest labels adoptee adopter adoption adoption agency adoption awareness birthmother expectant mom newborn adoption prayer unplanned pregnancy thursday august 15 2019 11 reasons i m here it s been over a year since i ve written anything here 2018 was a brutal year and i ve spent the better part of this year recovering from it it s a work in progress depression is difficult it s tiring all consuming physically draining painful guilt inducing and unique to each person but shared by many we all go through down days we all know what that feels like but there s a difference between feeling down once in a while and sitting in a chair in your bedroom staring at your bed and thinking i m ok with not waking up tomorrow i never made a plan or thought of ways to end me but just having the thought of not wanting to wake up in the morning was enough to scare the hell out of me the next morning when i did wake up i called a therapist and made an appointment why am i writing about this is it to gain sympathy no why do i even have to explain why it s because too many people want to say that anyone who talks about painful things is just playing the victim what people don t realize is depression already causes us to feel guilty about being depressed the phrase first world problems comes to mind who are we to feel down when there s so much suffering in the world guilt jumps in when you feel like you re not upbeat enough and think you re lousy company guilt jumps in when you just can t face going out and being with people so why am i talking about it because i can and because i think more people need to talk about it maybe someone else will recognize themselves here and know that they re not alone there was a long list of things that happened last year that took me to such a dark place it began with my father s death i don t need to go into the rest of the list because well it s long and there s no need to at this point just know it was a crap year and when you re in the thick of a deep depression you can t see past the veil that hides all the good in your life it s like someone is holding a black cloth in front of your face you can kinda make out some bits of light here and there but mostly what s in front of you is shrouded in darkness no matter how hard you squint you can t make out what s going on behind the veil what doesn t help are the well meaning comments you see from others don t be so negative just pull yourself up chill out think happy thoughts get out of the house more yes these things make sense when you re just having a down day i use them on myself when i need to gratitude works wonders we do have many many things to be grateful for and reminding ourselves to be grateful can completely change our mindset and mood but the kind of depression i m talking about is a different kind of animal and that animal doesn t respond to cliche sayings that animal is not just being moody and can t be talked out of it with one afternoon of sunshiney talk it takes time it takes talking to a professional counselor it takes effort when you feel like just getting up out of the chair is a monumental task it s hard but it s doable and sometimes if necessary medication can help get you through the worst of it so you can start by getting up then you can do other things to help yourself many years ago i believed the saying that suicide was selfish i know now that s not true i think it takes going through a severe depression to really understand why someone would contemplate taking their own life i didn t think about the act of doing it but i did think how nice it would be to not wake up what that tells me is that it s not a selfish thought it s about wanting to end pain it s about feeling like you just can t take any more of it so those 11 reasons i m here are 3 children i love and adore with all my heart 7 grandchildren i love and adore with all my heart 1 online community of first mothers and adoptees who understand the little bits of light that i could see through that black veil were the faces of my children and grandbabies i couldn t stand the thought of not seeing them go through life while i have the chance i want to be here to see my grandchildren grow up and become whoever they re meant to be they all need a healthy mother and grandmother and the thought of those little lights waiting for me got me up out of that chair my online adoption community has been a lifesaver in so many ways the first time i realized i wasn t alone with adoption trauma was when i read the girls who went away by ann fessler since then having a group of mothers and adoptees who understand me and what i ve been through has helped me cope just by being there i know i can jump into a number of forums and groups be real spill my guts and they re there for me we re all there for each other and if you have a real life person who is your nearest and dearest friend that you can confide in you can help each other through a lot just as important as having people in your corner is knowing who is not in your corner i finally figured out that i can say no i don t have to spend time with people who trigger upset i can decide for myself who i want in my life and who to avoid it s called self preservation and there s nothing wrong with that what else helps doing something creative for me it s painting for you it could be singing crocheting dancing baking photography scrapbooking woodworking journaling anything that takes your mind to another place you know that feeling when you look up at the clock and suddenly see that hours have gone by and you didn t realize it that s being in the zone do something that takes you there real self care is not selfish i have my kids my friends and my art art is my work but it s also my salvation and therapy i even have what i call my therapy canvas it s a 4 ft square that i throw paint at when i feel the need along with my canvas real therapy does wonders when you learn about cptsd and what it does suddenly some things about life make sense when you have a better understanding of why your brain does what it does you can find ways of dealing with it you can survive depression you can make the veil go away when you learn what it takes to keep yourself mentally healthy do those things posted by carlynne hershberger cpsa at 2 36 pm no comments email this blogthis share to x share to facebook share to pinterest labels adoption counseling cptsd creativity depression mental health self preservation suicide therapist therapy older posts home subscribe to posts atom home books about adoption search this blog statcounter the adoption lists oxygen s i m having their baby view more lists from 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