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egnancy i have no intention of turning this into a rainbow baby blog but there are just some things i need to get out and well now i m pregnant so worry you know when you re pregnant there are so many things to worry about lump on the fact that you ve had a baby die or maybe more than one as in my case and well there s a whole lot of worrying not a day goes by that a pregnant post dead baby momma isn t freaked out about something i ll be honest though most days i can pretend everything is normal i say pretend because if i sit down and give it much thought i ll easily be in a panic and well frankly its easier to cope when i avoid and deny all of the horrors that could or might come my way its an exhausting way to live and it makes it hard to bond with the baby sometimes denial and avoidance aren t such bad things bonding is really hard you see i have trouble with ambivalence during pregnancy for about the first 5 months i had it with my daughter who is living and again with logan up until about a month before he died with rudy i never even got the chance to accept that i was really even pregnant since everything happened so soon and so fast i have it again now and i m 17 weeks along i m holding out hope for that to go away soon though the doc says it may not given the horrors of the last two pregnancies the doctors say its not uncommon and is related to hormones i say its uber confusing to desperately want a baby and than to feel nothing when you are finally pregnant or worse yet to feel like you ve made a colossal mistake sometimes the guilt is overwhelming fear i m afraid of everything most of its irrational i m constantly afraid this baby will die that the baby will have some terrible condition that the doctors will miss something i have 5 i fear for my daughters life i fear for my husbands life i fear for my own but then i think everyone must have these fears maybe mine are just a little more pronounced i fear that i m not eating enough vegetables or gaining enough weight sleeping on my back too much using the stairs too much i m afraid of chemicals in my food in the cleaning products in the air i m afraid that there is too much stress in my home and that s bad for the baby i m afraid of preterm labor now that the doctors tell me that i shouldn t be having braxton hicks this early and i get them all day long i m afraid of the meds i took early on to combat the plague i got right after i got pregnant there s just so much to fear this time that i was lucky enough to be ignorant to before stress i keep hearing how stress is bad for a baby for the most part the stress that i get is from the pregnancy or my five year old my five year old is a challenge there s nothing wrong with her she doesn t have special needs and she s not a bad kid she s head strong she argues about everything she ignores me and she throws tantrums to rival a two year old i love her and thank god for the blessing that she is in this house every time i pray but lets not fool ourselves or anyone else kids are hard she is hard and most days i feel lost on what to do i even took the parenting class love and logic and i ll be honest i m the problem not her i made her this way i mean granted god gave her a strong will but i have been the one that has yet to find a way to tame it and to help her reel it in lately my biggest issue is exhaustion i m tired i m 36 overweight out of shape perpetually sad pregnant and i am tired and sometimes i just stare at her i can t even discipline her sometimes because i just can t muster up enough energy to deal with it this morning i grounded her for the first time usually she looses a privilege sometimes more today i told her she was grounded and that meant no toys no friends no tv just chores all evening btw this elicited a tantrum on a grand scale today i lost my cool today i did a lot of screaming i m not proud of that i hate that i grew up in a house with a screaming mother and i swore i would never be that mom the screaming is stressful it solves nothing and frankly usually makes things worse today has been a very stressful day i was cleaning for the impending visit of my brother and his girl friend hoping for a grand announcement of some sort but then i got word form the gf that my brother has been committed yet again my brother is young only 26 a psyche major if you can wrap your head around that but he has a lot of demons a lot of sadness a lot of anger and a lot of right to be but he drinks when those demons show up and his drinking negates the affects of his psyche meds for depression i believe and then he gets stupid and all we can do is stand in the shadows and gape in horror at what used to be the worlds sweetest little boy it makes me feel helpless it makes me sad knowing his demons knowing i can t do anything to make them go away knowing all i can do is stare at the train wreck that he has become and i have an immense amount of shame and guilt that i want to run and hide from him i want to not know i want to protect this itty bitty baby that is growing in me and i want it to be born healthy and living and normal i don t want any stress i feel like i walk a fine line and that it wouldn t take much to push me into the abyss of grief and that would definitely not be good for the baby or anyone else sadness i feel like i have been perpetually sad for a little over four years now granted things are way better than they used to be and i get that i have a right to be sad two great reasons really their names are logan and rudy and i knew that this baby wasn t going to take that sadness away i did really i guess what i wasn t prepared for is the sadness that this pregnancy would add i m sad for this baby now too i m sad because my daughter is aware that babies die and she prays in class every day for this baby i know she is nervous she s said as much she s five she shouldn t have to fear such things i m sad because i can t bring myself to buy anything for this baby just yet i m sad because i m haunted with thoughts that it could be too early what if i m sad that this baby has such a gap in age with its sister and that it will grow to know about the two other siblings before him her who died i m sad to think that logan and rudy had to die in order for this child to be i m sad that i fear a boy that my dh fears a boy pregnancy post dead baby is full of things i didn t quite expect and lacking some that i did and i know in the end this will all be worth it if i end up with a living baby i know that ten years from now i ll look back with a completely different perspective but when you re pregnant everyone expects you to smile and love every minute of it no one really knows about the haunts of this reality people keep saying for me to have only good thoughts and that god came through for me and i just don t get it people i am 7 weeks away from the point in which logan died in utero and with out a hint of a problem and babies die all the time for good reason for unknown reasons for no good reason babies die in spite of happy thoughts and prayers and when they do it isn t because god didn t come through or there wasn t enough faith or hope or desire or whatever babies die they just do its an ugly part of life celebrating pregnancy again a book posted by heather on tuesday february 12 2013 labels books infant death infant loss pregnancy comments 0 celebrating pregnancy again a book this is a link to a new book about pregnancy after a loss the book is about her personal journey it is available for the kindle free until tomorrow feb 13th otherwise it is 3 it is also available in paperback through amazon for 8 and for pdf download for 3 i haven t read it yet but i did download it thought i d share it another pink line i should be smiling right posted by heather on sunday february 3 2013 labels anxiety baby 4 downs syndrome fear freaking out infant death logan pregnancy rudy comments 2 sigh time it has a way of creeping by january 24th marked four years since logan died as well as reminding me that rudy should ve been celebrating his first birthday and that the muffin is growing up since she turned five and on that day we discovered her first loose tooth yesterday i pulled that tooth which was obscenely loose out of her mouth time it creeps by and we take a moment to look up and poof so many moments and memories have passed by logan i can t picture him at four i couldn t ever picture him as a baby either but rather a two year old he will forever be two for me it makes me sad not being able to even create who i think he would be but lately i haven t been able to feel much of anything other than ambivalence and fear blame it on hormones after nine cycles and on our last try we became pregnant for the fourth time i ll be 12 weeks tomorrow i m safe now right she scoffs i ll be honest i have always struggled with ambivalence and maybe a touch of depression during the first 5 months of pregnancy but lumping on the tragic circumstances of my past just amplifies it all the more frankly i m terrified and no amount of ultrasounds and heartbeats and shallow reinforcement from outsiders can ease that for me i m twelve weeks second trimester past the miscarriage prime its been confirmed that its alive and in the uterus bonus but then so was logan in fact logan was perfect until he just wasn t all of a sudden at 24 weeks and i tell you it irks me to no end the ignorance that is spewed at me god has come through for you well maybe guess we ll see surely it won t happen again why because two flukes are enough have faith because my lack of it killed my other two think happy thoughts because they are like a magic wand and poof and it goes on sadly it comes from those closest to me the ones who have to believe it ll all end happily i dunno in the end i feel like they think my concerns and fears are silly and unwarranted and really that just leaves me feeling alienated no one gets it and that should make me happy right because the only ones who get it have been there and i certainly wouldn t wish this on anyone but really i just feel very alone and freaking out with out anyone to seriously talk to about it i m pregnant so i should be happy right i mean that s what i thought was going to happen i thought i would be thrilled that s what everyone expects of me right its what i wanted everything will be better you ll be happier get a happy ending because you deserve it but i m just scared and reluctant i m so much older now so much time has gone by my daughter will be almost 5 years its senior and i will be raising hopefully two only children the odds of this baby being born alive and healthy are pretty low no i don t have any moments of happiness about this pregnancy that bliss has long passed me by i fear the worse and the just as bad i fear a dead baby a severely handicapped baby a severely handicapped baby who will die a baby i fear what that will do to my daughter who is old enough to comprehend the horrors i fear what that will do to my husband who maintained all along that he did not think this was the right thing to do i fear what it ll do to my marriage oh and that s lumped in with all the other fears of motherhood what if the baby has colic what if i m too old to do it again what if my daughter can t adjust sids whooping cough chocking falling meteors or is it meteorite and all of this fear is suffocating did i mention i ve been sick twice once with a fever for 4 days did i mention that i m high risk for about four hundred other things oh and lets take into account my advanced maternal age now that i m 35 every day i look in the mirror and ask myself what i was thinking in fact the day i found out i immediately told my husband and then freaked out crying what the hell did i just do because this was all me and only me these past 12 weeks have been such a roller coaster most of the time i ve been waiting for the other shoe to fall waiting to see if it stuck waiting to see if it was ectopic waiting to see if it was viable and now waiting to begin testing for down syndrome since that s what logan had we do that on thursday and i love the ignorant people who like to try to reassure me that having a child with down syndrome can be a very rewarding experience seriously first of all who would want that for their child and secondly the average person has no clue about what having ds entails how horribly painful it can be for a child if that child is ever even born since 75 of them die before birth most die before their 1st birthday a child who makes it past 5 is rare and lucky don t preach at me about having a child with down syndrome i know full well what it entails down to every gory detail that i could find in print that rare door greeter or mcdonald s employee you see out and about on occasion they re the exception to the rule they re the mild cases no i fear ds as much as i fear another dead child if not more because for me they are one in the same this is it for me my last hurrah at almost 36 april if this child dies and if i wait the recommended year to grieve and if i managed to talk my husband into it again he d more likely try to snuff me out and if i managed to conceive quickly i d still be 38 before that baby would be born and after having my first ds baby at 31 well i think the doctors would call me crazy for doing it again i know what my odds are of having another baby with ds they re not great i wouldn t risk it at 38 so this means living or not this is my last child which brings me full circle back to the issue of time it crept by while i was living and then weeping and one day i woke up and realized i d missed my opportunity but i still feel like i m 19 it was just the other day i swear in the end i realize that if this baby makes it healthy and living i ll think that all of this fear and worry was worth every penny of it i ve had a living child i know what is coming my way and how i felt when she was born i know that i d do it all over again but i also know how wrong it can go how unexpectedly and how quickly and how late in a pregnancy i know that there are thousands of things that can go wrong between now and august i know how fragile life is and how it is not a guarantee no matter how much you pray and beg and hope and think happy thoughts sometimes it just happens and there s never a good reason for it so right now i m so deep in a fog that i can t see past the fear and anxiety i can t picture this baby any more than i could logan or rudy have you experienced a subsequent pregnancy what was that like for you is the price too much posted by heather on wednesday july 11 2012 labels anger anxiety david depression downs syndrome ectopic family issues freaking out grief infant death infant loss life the way it is now logan pregnancy rudy comments 3 life is both pain and pleasure if this is the price you must pay for the hours you enjoy is it too much paolini eldest we are ttc again in february my dh quietly and with an overw...