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ly forbidden in isaiah 50 1 and in jeremiah 3 8 god specifically states that he divorced israel i have discussed this in more detail in what the bible says about divorce iii it is important to remember that human marriage is symbolic of the spiritual reality not the other way around if anything god s example in marriage would carry more weight than the reverse also ezra 10 tells of a time when god commanded the israelite men to get divorces i have discussed this passage in more detail in what the bible says about divorce iv how could god possibly command the israelite men to divorce their wives if in fact god hates divorce means that divorce is an abomination to god and absolutely forbidden then in matthew 5 32 and 19 9 jesus gives a very specific exception clause when he answers the pharisees questions regarding the allowance of divorce obviously jesus did not say that all divorce is an abomination to god and absolutely forbidden let me ask another obvious question wouldn t it have been easier for jesus to just say god hates divorce when probed by the pharisees if god meant that all divorce is an abomination and forbidden but instead of quoting the definitive god hates divorce jesus went into detail in an entirely different direction why did he do that if malachi 2 establishes the primary precedent for god s view of divorce in the church what we hear most of the time is god hates divorce and yet that statement is never reiterated in the new testament or anywhere else in the bible for that matter god hates divorce is the most repeated phrase in the church on the subject of divorce but appears only once in the bible why is this true if this one phrase is of such profound significance would it be logical to believe that the words of jesus are probably the most accurate reflection of god s heart on the subject of divorce since he was directly asked for god s perspective so why did jesus speak as he did i have addressed jesus teaching on marriage and divorce in response to the pharisees in the article what the bible really says don t put asunder for the sake of not straying from the point of this article i m not going to go into it here but what jesus said was important and he quite noticeably did not say since god hates divorce it is not and cannot be god s will for any christian or follower of god since he was talking to the pharisees to be divorced it is necessary for us as believers to understand this issue since the phrase god hates divorce is commonly being used in the church in an unbiblical manner and the result is a great deal of harm it may not seem like a big deal for those who have not been faced with divorce or with marriages in violation of the word but the inaccurate handling of the word is being used to keep people in bondage and also to cause added condemnation and rejection to people whom god has neither condemned nor rejected additionally there are many who say they aren t condemning or rejecting but the effect is virtually the same since it is putting a burden of wrong on the shoulders of people for whom god has not a single shred of approbation even without condemnation or rejection so what is malachi saying let s first take a look at how several translations handle malachi 2 16 this is very revealing king james version for the lord the god of israel saith that he hateth putting away for one covereth violence with his garment saith the lord of hosts therefore take heed to your spirit that ye deal not treacherously new king james version for the lord god of israel says that he hates divorce for it covers one s garment with violence says the lord of hosts therefore take heed to your spirit that you do not deal treacherously new international version i hate divorce says the lord god of israel and i hate a man s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment says the lord almighty so guard yourself in your spirit and do not break faith american standard version for i hate putting away saith jehovah the god of israel and him that covereth his garment with violence saith jehovah of hosts therefore take heed to your spirit that ye deal not treacherously holman christian standard bible if he hates and divorces his wife says the lord god of israel he covers his garment with injustice says the lord of hosts therefore watch yourselves carefully and do not act treacherously english standard version for the man who does not love his wife but divorces her says the lord the god of israel covers his garment with violence says the lord of hosts so guard yourselves in your spirit and do not be faithless now let s dig into this first of all let me acknowledge that there are many people who believe the king james version 1611 version specifically is the only accurate translation this version says god hates putting away without getting into any debate regarding the veracity of various translations let me take this statement alone if in fact the king james version is completely accurate it is important to note that it does not say god hates divorce it says god hates putting away in the context of malachi 2 it is clear god is directing his statements to men who have been unfaithful to their first wives and put them away in order to take heathen wives god speaks repeatedly of their treachery god s focus is on their treachery this is what he is condemning not divorce this fact is the key to the entire passage god s eyes are not on the legal documents these men obtained it is on their treacherous hearts god condemns the treachery that led to the divorces and this fact is plainly communicated in the context these men put away their wives and divorced them the putting away of their wives was a fact of their treacherous hearts and it led to divorce but the treachery of their hearts was the real problem would god have said it was ok if they had mistreated their wives but had just taken second wives instead of divorcing their first ones they were allowed to have multiple wives so taking additional wives would not have been a problem however the answer is still a resounding no in fact this would still have left these men in the position of the men in ezra whom god commanded to divorce their heathen wives thereby making it obvious his issue is not with divorce but with the heart condition of the people involved in malachi his focus is on their treachery not on the legal documents that resulted from the treachery another substantive point to note about god s viewpoint on the treachery of these men in malachi 2 is that he treats the two treacherous acts as separate offenses he condemns their treachery in taking heathen wives then he condemns their treachery in putting away their first wives the two are both treacherous acts separate and distinct from one another this is an important detail because we need to remember that the second act was not treacherous because of the first nor vice versa each was treacherous independently two distinct violations in malachi 2 the focus on these men s treachery is directly reflected in what jesus said when confronted by the pharisees the root problem in both places is the heart of putting asunder not the legal document of divorce putting asunder is a direct violation of god s original plan and instructions regarding marriage in genesis and putting asunder is something that happens in the heart long before a legal document is issued by a court with this understanding we also see the word is speaking a consistent message the problem in malachi 2 is the same as jesus outlined in the new testament and we know god is consistent he doesn t change his mind here and there being double minded and condoning divorce in one place while condemning it in another all that said there is more to be seen in these translations notice specifically the wording in the holman christian standard version and the english standard version holman says if he hates and divorces his wife says the lord god of israel he covers his garment with injustice esv says for the man who does not love his wife but divorces her says the lord the god of israel covers his garment with violence why do these two translations use such significantly different verbiage here this change makes a serious difference in the meaning of the passage especially considering the frequency with which god hates divorce is quoted in the church before getting into the particulars i think it would bear noting the pedigree of these two translations in looking into this issue i corresponded with barbara roberts the author of the book not under bondage biblical divorce for abuse adultery and desertion she has an entire chapter chapter 8 devoted to this phrase in malachi 2 in the course of our correspondence barbara said the esv is heavily promoted by crossway which is a major publisher of complementarian material the holman christian standard version was produced by the southern baptist denomination so would be objectors from the conservative ranks need to sit up and take note i found this point interesting since these translations are supported by conservative christianity yet this pivotal passage has not been seriously visited by the church systems which promote the translations but let s get back to the variance demonstrated here there is actually a specific reason for such a substantive disagreement barbara goes into it in detail in her book with extensive footnote documentation without reprinting the entire chapter here you really need to read the book it is exceptional let me quote one relevant part here in malachi 2 16 the subject of the verb hates is not explicit the hebrew does not read god hates or the husband hates all we know from the verb is that the person who hates is third person masculine singular he or one just like covers it is certainly not the first person i hate now we come to our main point most bible translations have taken the subject of the first verb to be god god hates and thereby changed he hates to the first person i hate this is unfaithful to the hebrew text and it creates an awkward grammatical shift between i hate and he covers some translations try to overcome the grammatical disjunction between the different subjects of i hate he covers by translating the passage as i hate divorce it covers we need not resort to such a solution the subject of hates is third person not first and we should only depart from the plain sense of a text if compelled by something in the text nothing here compels such a departure it makes sense to maintain the same subject the divorcing husband for both verbs since 1868 at least eighteen scholars have said that he hates he covers is the most faithful way to render the hebrew with he being the divorcing husband just in the past couple days i heard a preacher whom i greatly respect say god doesn t condemn divorcees he condemns divorce this concept is quite common in the church but in reality it is inaccurate god got a divorce he commanded people to get divorces and jesus gave a specific circumstance under which divorce was appropriate so god cannot possibly be condemning divorce what god does condemn is treachery that results in divorce god condemns putting away or putting asunder there is a huge difference between the statement that god condemns divorce and god condemns the treachery of putting asunder in marriage while i do not have ill feelings toward the person who said this knowing he is speaking out of a place where his paradigm of truth has never been challenged this kind of teaching is causing a great deal of hurt in the body of christ it is necessary i would even say vital for this error to be corrected so that people in the church can be accepted and loved according to truth here is the bottom line no matter how you look at malachi 2 it is critical to understand the passage neither states nor implies since god hates divorce it is not and cannot be god s will for any christian to be divorced this understanding is important because this passage is a lynchpin in church teaching on divorce and it is being persistently misused and this misuse is causing significant pain and even alienation of believers who are victims of treachery in marriage and who most need the love and support of the church in this article i have not addressed the subject of if when christians are allowed to divorce i have addressed this elsewhere in other articles see what does god really say series what the bible says about divorce series and the biblical grounds for divorce and will continue to write on the subject since i have not yet covered every scripture about it the purpose of this piece is not to make any commentary on the parameters of divorce for christians my goal here is solely to explore the phrase god hates divorce in malachi 2 filed under divorce marriage theology uncategorized tagged christians and divorce divorce divorce and the church god hates divorce 5 comments the last curse posted on march 25 2009 by dannimoss one of the things i feel so compelled to communicate to people who are in abuse and to the church which is supposed to stand for their protection is the very real danger of death as a result of verbal abuse god is not speaking figuratively when he says in the word that death and life are in the power of the tongue i have written two more installments of my personal journey directly related to this issue of death by verbal abuse the last curse the breastplate of righteousness they are intended to be read in the order given since the second is dependent on information in the first filed under abuse and the church abusive leaders cancer story consequences of abuse domestic abuse family abuse relationships marriage relationships uncategorized tagged anger cancer domestic abuse domestic abuse in christian marriage domestic violence marital abuse rage violence leave a comment respect and equality in marriage posted on march 17 2009 by dannimoss by danni moss copyright protected all rights reserved are respect and equality in marriage a radical feminist idea of fairly recent origin are they against the plain teaching of the word ah i hear the buts already why am i putting respect and equality on the same footing in that statement evangelical and fundamentalist christians everywhere would say respect and equality are not intrinsically linked i can respect my wife in her position beneath me that s what popular christian marital role philosophy teaches true respect values another as being just as important as myself respect sees the other person as equal or greater in value and respect doesn t pick and choose limiting respect to a theoretical concept while still viewing the other as less in many ways it isn t respect if it isn t respect the word s admonition for husbands to love their wives as their own bodies is a good example of this who among us is going to treat our own body abusively deliberately not through poor diet choices etc granted there are some people who do hurt themselves but we can ...